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Family & friend support ?

BandyEmm

New Member
Just wondering how much support have you had off of friends and family?

Mine personnaly havent been supportive, My mum forgot i had the op 2 days after i did :mad:

It was also only me and the kids the night i came home frm hospital, so basically ive been doing this by myself
 

Angler

New Member
My family have not been supportive, wish there was a support group close enough I could go to.
 

phatmomma

New Member
I'm blessed that my husband is very supportive but also that i've made a couple of very special friends (2 from this site) who have been there with me all the way!

My sister brought me flowers post op, my mom kept away with her germs lol and thinks i will live on salad for the rest of my life but always tells me she thinks i am looking great..

I am blessed x
 

BandyEmm

New Member
You sure are Momma x
 

Bev

New Member
Hi Em,
Never feel on your own, as there are a lot of us out here who feel isolated because our families are not in our position, either won't or can't relate to our situation... it can be tough.

The main thing now is that you have undergone the surgery for you! I agree that a support group is a great way of linking in, likewise, I have none in my area.

Glad you have been blessed Julie... it's good to feel supported.

I am also hoping to link in with a couple of people who are preparing for surgery so that we can all go through that stage together.

But in the meantime, it's nice to 'hold the hand' of those who are reaching out through this website... it's a pleasure to feel able to do that at least.

Keep smiling, keep talking, keep posting and always feel that there are a lot of us that have an understanding through our own experience.

Sending you a huge hug and much love xxx
 

phatmomma

New Member
I'm lucky i have a support group in my area, but before this started i arrange to meet a couple of members within my area for coffee. We still do this even though we now have a support group.

If you ladies can find someone in your area to do similar with it really is a godsend....

If not then you know we are with you every step of the way xx
 

Bev

New Member
It's brilliant to have that level of support and you were fortunate to find two friends to travel on your journey with you.

I really don't know where I would have been without this website.

It's a real opportunity to learn and I'm lovin it!

xxx
 

seawaves

New Member
Hi, i'm pre op but so far my friends have been great (although i must bore them!) my family are trying to be supportive but i think they are to worried about me havin the surgery to say yeah this is the way to go! if you understand what i mean!! keep posting & smiling :)
 
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Sambucca

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Great thread Emma, and its one that's got me thinking.

Ive had lots of interest in my surgery, and lots of compliments and oohs and aahs from people on the way, but support from family? I'd have to answer honestly, No.

Don't get me wrong, my husband is thrilled that I've lost the weight, and so are my kids, but I attended all appointments on my own, and was left to make the decision to have surgery on my own. My husband just trusted me to get on with it. I had to tell him what time off I needed him to take from work for childcare and taking me/picking me up from hospital. He went back to work the day after I cam home from hospital.

Because of this, I'm so lucky to have had the support of some wonderful friends I made here in the early days waiting for surgery, I knew I could always ask any questions on here and someone would soon be along with an answer, and the local support group. It really does make a difference having people that understand.
 

seawaves

New Member
Oh Sam, you have made me think! & maybe i've been kidding myself as far as my family go, i live around 3 hours from the hospital & don't drive so each appointment has either been made by public transport on my own or a friend who has driven when available to do so, i'm due for surgery in september & if i can go in the day before it will be via public transport if on the day via a very expensive taxi, a friend is picking me up after surgery........sorry to waffle but just trying to see the one bit where it said family? btw i have no OH :sigh:
 

Bev

New Member
Mixxy... you are looking brilliant and such an inspiration!

I have found that I can't tell all of my family about this pending surgery... some are within my confidante circle and I know that the others just wouldn't understand.

I don't like to wrap much up in life, but on this one... I don't feel like I want to carry my family with me on the journey who wouldn't understand... I've used my instinct.

Thank God for you all on here and never feel afraid to 'talk' to us... since most of us have years of experience dealing with this... over 50 years for me and years of every diet going... spent a fortune... heard it all... tried it all... been called it all! But here we are making changes happen and we will do it together!

Keep strong, postive and focused and follow all guidance medically... go for it. For yourself and do take special care xxx
 

Tracey ( eyore)

New Member
i have very little support, matt does take me to hospital appointments but then sits there playing on his psp.
to him this helping it would help if he listen to what was said x
I have 2 friends who know i am defo going for it , one lives over 100 miles away in lincoln shes my bestie from school when i told her of my decision to go ahead she was brill saying she thought i had done the best thing for me. and always asking questions, and therefore me at end of phone.
and one girl who works in our local tescos , i have got to know as i noticed she had lost weight, and she told me she had. had the bypass op.
my other friends were very rude when i first said i had looked into the bypass that i never told them more xx
 

Bev

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Fantastic Tracey... amazing story about the girl from Tesco's... just goes to show... we meet people in all different ways...

I do believe people can come into our lives just at the right time sometimes... and it's fantastic to be able to air our view openly and honestly on here... makes a terrific difference to our morale and we must never feel isolated... reach out! xxx
 

Tracey ( eyore)

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yes i forgot to add here is brill support xxx
 

Bev

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Everyone makes a huge contribution in my opinion, so many perspectives.... plus a common goal that we all share... we all have each other and money can't buy the understanding that we have to share.... much love and have a happy Sunday everyone xxx
 

dottychic

New Member
I think support is so important, my family have been brilliant. My daughter and both sons have been at every appointment they could get to. They also come to the support meetings if they can. My husband works shifts so cant come to most but comes when he can. They have helped so much in knowing this is the right decision for me. They worry about the op as they know my medical history but support me all the way.
This site has been invaluable too, I have learned so much from here and made so many friends. I only hope I can help others after my op. :D x
 
My husband and my children are all extremely supportive. Other than that, I'm pretty much on my own. My sister 'removed her support' - which I won't go into right now.

My husband came with me to a group meeting before the op and was also there for me constantly when I had the op, but I prefer to do appointments on my own (I like to just get on with it and concentrate on myself rather than have to worry about a companion being bored with sitting around waiting).

Support on these boards is fantastic, though I do wish there was a local group I could attend xx
 

Bev

New Member
''It's good to talk'' as they say... some of us say it in words.... others write it down and so on....

....the main thing is never to feel you have no outlet.... takes me back to a song from my youth and it's so true '' Reach out and touch somebody's hand ''.

I am always happy to hold the hand of anyone I can help and send love along the way too :)
xxx
 

dreamofbeingslim

Can't wait for next appt
My family have been great especially my darling hubby without who I couldn't have done this. My boys are great too. All my friends have been totally supportive too.
 
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