What are you telling work

For those of you are employed, what are you planning to tell your employer.

My surgery is on 23rd July (Thursday) and I have the rest of that week off followed by 2 more weeks as holiday.

I don't intend to tell my employer anything but wondered it I should.

What are you guys doing, and how long are you taking off work?

excitedbutnervous said:

For those of you are employed, what are you planning to tell your employer. My surgery is on 23rd July (Thursday) and I have the rest of that week off followed by 2 more weeks as holiday. I don't intend to tell my employer anything but wondered it I should. What are you guys doing, and how long are you taking off work?

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Hi I've told my work the truth back in April when I got my surgery date of the 7th July, I took the letter in and they took a copy of it and have booked me off for sick leave. They told me not to come back till I'm 100% as I'm entitled to 13 weeks full sick pay so I don't need to rush back. As I work nights I'm working Sunday night then I'm off from Monday night so I'm refreshed for Tuesday morning as I have to be at the hospital for 8am.

I only told my manager and team leader at work that I was starting the process of WLS and 1 sister then 4 days before the surgery itself I told the rest of my family then the rest of my work mates , more to stop the questioning and watching for nearly 18 months while working thru the process I needed time to get my head around everything
I had 2 months off work but could have gone back after about 3 weeks but have to admit im glad I took all the time off as I support disabled people and can be a very physical and demanding job

In my work place there is only 4 woman and about 80+ men who work there and nobody says anything to me, Ive lost over 2 stone not a word has been said, I think men don't notice things or they ain't bothered.

I initially just told them I was having surgery, I had 7 weeks off including the week I had my op. I told a couple of colleagues the truth from the outset. This week I decided to "come out" as my weight loss is really noticeable, so I told someone who I knew wouldn't keep it to herself

Yesterday I had a chat with my Manager as I didn't want him to think I tried to deceive him, especially as many people seem to think WLS is a "cosmetic" procedure. His reply was "Darling if I thought that, we would have had this conversation a long while ago" He also said how much I had changed since I came back in energy and mood as well as appearance.

Lynn x

ps I forgot to add I think you should at least let your manager know what is happening they cant go round telling people but may have to put measures in place to keep you safe at work depending on what you do for a living plus they will understand when you have your follow on post op doctors/hospital visits have someone at work on your side ,I works for me but then everyone at work knows ive had WLS

Thanks ppl.

I look after my kids during the school holidays so have 4.5 of the 6 weeks off with 1 in the middle where I have to go back to work.

I am nervous about telling my managers not that they aren't a great team but I don't want the judgement. I lost 9stone a few years ago on a food replacement diet and put it all back on. I just don't want to the judgement especially as one of my colleagues is a health freak who feels healthy eating and exercise is the only way to lose weight (yh never though of trying that dooh).

I am hoping that my weight loss will just be put down to the fact that I am on protein shakes again.

I have only told my partner, mother and my ex (as he is almost my best friend). Today I am meeting my bestie for lunch and I will tell her, but that is it for now. I may tell people after when the loss is very noticeable, but who knows.

If I am honest I am really scare about how people with judge me, and be like "you have gone for the easy route", "oh why did you do something so drastic surely u could have done it he normal way" Etc etc. maybe I am just worrying over nothing.

Anyway thanks for your responses

los in it said:

ps I forgot to add I think you should at least let your manager know what is happening they cant go round telling people but may have to put measures in place to keep you safe at work depending on what you do for a living plus they will understand when you have your follow on post op doctors/hospital visits have someone at work on your side ,I works for me but then everyone at work knows ive had WLS

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It was the lower levels of management at work that I didn't trust, some of them seem to have a complete lack of discretion. In fact the person I told, who I knew would spread the word, has just been promoted to that level. My lovely senior manager, who I spoke to yesterday, completely understood when I expressed my concerns about judgemental people said "Ignore the snakes in this place" and that is what I will do.

Lynn x

ladilindy said:

I initially just told them I was having surgery, I had 7 weeks off including the week I had my op. I told a couple of colleagues the truth from the outset. This week I decided to "come out" as my weight loss is really noticeable, so I told someone who I knew wouldn't keep it to herself Yesterday I had a chat with my Manager as I didn't want him to think I tried to deceive him, especially as many people seem to think WLS is a "cosmetic" procedure. His reply was "Darling if I thought that, we would have had this conversation a long while ago" He also said how much I had changed since I came back in energy and mood as well as appearance. Lynn x

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Your manager sounds like a good soul Good when people notice the positive aspects.

I told no-one at work when I had my band. Once my weight loss became noticeable I got some lovely compliments from both male and female colleagues except for those females that were supposed to be my friends. I had lost 5 stone and was wearing a size 16 before one of them said casually, " So how much have you lost then? " No compliments nothing lol it didn't bother me one bit, but I was glad I had kept it to myself. These friends all had a battle with weight themselves. Weird huh.

Thanks both. Weegie, those are the people I am worried about. I keep telling myself they are just jealous. I am good at my job, fun (as only a fat person can be) bubbly and well liked. So being fat is the only thing they have over me. Well that is about to change. I think I will keep it to myself and only let them know if I absolutely have to.

I am worried sick about letting anyone know about having my op in August,I nearly lost a so called friend over it who has weight problems herself but thought it was terrible what I was doing,someone who I thought I could rely on for advice ect, knowing my history for years,and my numerous health problems,i do think there was a lot of jealousy there,I will be very nervous who I mention it to in future

I don't want to tell work at all, I'm taking annual leave as I have loads built up and have only told my partner and parents. Seems a lot of people have the attitude that it's a cosmetic thing rather than a health based procedure and I can't be done with any negativity as a result. If anyone asks, I'm watching what I eat, as technically it's true!

Defo agree with both the above. People just don't get it. We need help and this is the method we have choosen.

Good luck to you.

I was expecting a lot of negativity from people, but so far everyone I have told has been incredibly supportive, a couple of people even had friends and family members who had surgery. I was chatting to a customer about losing weight and she openly admitted to surgery so we ended up comparing notes (she had a open procedure years ago).

Lynn x

Ive told my husband and my mom even my mother was judgemental. Ive decided not to tell it to anybody else.

My Hubby, Mum and Mother in Law are all very supportive but I haven't told anyone else in my family. My Dad will be very judgemental and if I tell my brother he will tell my Dad so I'm keeping quiet. Dad lives 200 miles away so I may just get away with it, lol. He will be coming up here at the weekend so I'm expecting the usual lecture about how I need to lose weight

I have only told a few people although my son did tell a couple of people which I wasn't happy about.

Xxx

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It's hard isn't it. I am generally a really open person, probably too open. But this I am keeping to myself except for the key ppl.
15 days to go!

I told only immediate family, afterwards told my hairdresser (cos of hair loss) and my personal trainer. I took leave for the actual op as it was such a big deal for me and didn't want to be dealing with energy vampires and their negativity

excitedbutnervous said:

It's hard isn't it. I am generally a really open person, probably too open. But this I am keeping to myself except for the key ppl. 15 days to go!

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I'm exactly the same. Don't have a problem otherwise talking about any issues etc but I'll be doing this for me, my decision and don't want negative opinions getting me down. My weight has gotten me down for too long, time to take back some control x