Hi everyone

Hello everyone I have my appointment with surgeon tomorrow and I'm very very nervous so much that I feel like not going I'm also getting scared for surgery even tho it's not anytime soon can you lovely people tell me what got you's through it I don't want to back out because of fear because I really do want the surgery.

Hi Sjwood, I think the only support I can offer is that the way I've looked at it "that my weight is killing me. I'm 38 mum bmi over 60 and 2 wonderful children and I can't do things I want to do like ride a bike, swim go on a plane so this is important not just for health stopping overeating or just to fit in. I need to live my life..."I'm off to see my consultant for the first time on Friday and bricking it after completing tier three July I had a call saying funding approved my appointment is at 9.30 but leVing at 7.30 for a half hour drive!,,,I'm so nurvious that I wanted to be early to not put anything in jeopardy with the funding. I've written questions, made a list of things I can't do, things I suffer with now and things I want to do and put all of it in a file to take. You have to remember why your taking this route and stick to it. I've found this site a help as I can't talk to anyone about it family haven't been told and I don't want the world to know....good luck and let me know how you get on X X X

I think we were all scared at some point but I can honestly say it was the best thing I ever did, if I'd stayed at 22st would I be alive now?? 2 years down the line or would I have had a heart attack or stroke??

Thanks for the reply beepbeepcat I would love to know what questions I'm going to be asked tomorrow might help me a little and as for surgery I know that I need to do it I just think if I knew others were as scared as I am might help me along a little I hope your appointment goes well on Friday I'm the same as you I can't talk to many people about it as only 3 people know my mam husband and sister and don't plan on telling anyone else because it's non of their business and don't want unwanted opinions how has your journey been so far xx

Thanks butterflylady I know why I have to do it I can't carry on the way I am I want to be fit and healthy for my kids I just have visions of myself getting so scared I don't turn up for surgery xx

hello and welcome newbie!

I finished tier three July and put back on three kg so really worried what's going to be said. On the plus side I'm loads more active thou and my meal choices are much healthier. I have only told hubby and my two friends who both been apprehensive so I'm kind of on my own. I worry what people think all of the time but determined to do this. I keep all my fears and feelings in a diary and talk on here so it helps. Keep positive X x

Hi beepbeepcat just get as much off as you can I've just been to see surgeon and I really don't know why I was worried he's booked me for endoscopy and he says surgery is not long after scared and excited at the same time of how close it actually is xx

Omg! Fantastic news what hospital are you under? I am feeling a bit sicky about tomorrow but I thinks that's more I'm so tired after a busy few days of hectic work.

I'm with sunderland my journey hasn't been too long and I was really getting myself worked up for nothing felt at ease the whole time it's just made me realise I'm near to the end now I was in waiting room ready to walk out but glad it's over now have to prepare myself for endoscopy what hospital are you with xx

I'm with Spire Southampton

Good luck for your appointment tomorrow let me know how you get on xx

I agree, we were all nervous, but the good folks on here are always ready with support and advice, it's like a weight loss surgery family.
Health risks got me through. My bloods came back borderline diabetes which kicked my butt into action. This was june/july, had MGB 11th sept and 4 weeks on, lost 2 st 3 lbs and feel so much better, its like 15 bags of sugar I am no longer carrying about, I am less breathess walking up inclines and just feel better, got blods next week so hope its reversed, the op can do that.
Good luck x

Hi trendywendy thank you for the reply your right the lovely people on here really do help you through this well done on the weight loss bet your feeling fab already. Xx

definitely, thanks x

I can't quite believe my morning....
I've met surgeon and some research nurses today AND I've been asked when I want surgery "ASAP" thinking 4-10 months down the line but NO before Xmas he said. So I'm awaiting an appointment now to see people to take bloods, swabs ect and then I will hopefully be in. Yippee. I went on my own and called my better half with the news and he appeared apprehensive on the phone.... Hope he's still ok with it as he's my rock.

Great news beep we may end up having our surgery around the same time it's such a good feeling knowing we are nearly there I'm sure your partner just needs time for it to sink in was he not expecting it to come round so quick

Even though I don't know you, thank you for listening to me. It would be great if our ops were near each other X

Sjwood said:

as for surgery I know that I need to do it I just think if I knew others were as scared as I am might help me along a little

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If it's any consolation, my surgery is in 11 days time and when I think about it I get that panicky 'dropping' feeling in my stomach, my heart races and I have a strong urge to phone up and cancel!

I am absolutely terrified of needles, hospitals and most of all, being out of control so the thought of being put under anesthetic puts me into a complete tailspin.

When I read posts from pre-oppers who are excited about surgery I just can't get my head round it. I'm dreading it.

So what gets you through? Well for me, it's basically avoiding any thought of the surgery and just concentrating on the weight dropping off and my new life. To help in that, at the moment I tend to avoid the threads where things have gone wrong and concentrate on the majority which are success stories. Realistically I know they'll probably end up sedating me to pre-op as I have a bit of a history of freaking out about things I'm scared of (e.g. I'm terrified of flying and have walked off about half a dozen flights, junking in business trips and paid holidays!)

There's all levels of nerves - some have little to none, some moderate and some are bricking themselves. It's all normal I think - just concentrate on the benefits of losing weight which far outweigh the risks.

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I can't quite believe my morning....
I've met surgeon and some research nurses today AND I've been asked when I want surgery "ASAP" thinking 4-10 months down the line but NO before Xmas he said. So I'm awaiting an appointment now to see people to take bloods, swabs ect and then I will hopefully be in. Yippee. I went on my own and called my better half with the news and he appeared apprehensive on the phone....�� Hope he's still ok with it as he's my rock.

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That's great news on such an early date!

On your other half. I tend to think that it's almost as big a change for them as it is for us if they've been used to you being overweight throughout the relationship. Being 'a big girl' can almost become your identity and I'd guess that a fair number of partners are scared that as your weight changes, so does your character.