I too have PCOS, I have a long history of trying to become a mummy, I have had three operations to sort out my issues (they all failed) one of them being ovarian drilling. I was tried on Clomid for months with no success. After all of that they said that my problems were obviously caused by my weight and that if I could just lose four or so stones then my fertility/periods etc would kick in and one doctor actually said "if you promise to go and lose that weight I PROMISE you that you will get pregnant" and the other one said that she truly believed that if that four stones came off then my periods would restart in a natural rythmn and that I would most probably get pregnant without help. I am now almost seven months out from surgery and I had three 'normal' periods for the first three months post-op, I think that they were the result of body shock. Since then I have had no periods, my hormones feel way out of whack and the ovary pain gets intense at times. So I have lost what they asked me to lose and more and it has had no effect and I very much doubt that it is going to be the miracle cure that they think it is. I have a feeling that even when I am at goal and settled in to my new body etc that I will still need assistance to have my baby.
So as you can imagine, having been aiming at having children for at least twelve years, this is a bit disappointing and makes me want to grab those doctors and scream at them "I KNEW it wasnt just the weight, thank you SO much for making me feel like crap for so long...now get me pregnant or I will slap you"...lol...obviously I wouldnt do that but I so want to!
So I know just how all encompassing the desire have a baby is, but look at it this way...do you really want to spend an entire pregnancy worrying that your baby could have health issues because your body may not have everything it needs to nourish both you and the baby? Could you look down at your gorgeous little baby with a clear conscience if it was born with 'issues' because it didnt get everything that it needed when it was growing inside of you? I know that any baby can have health issues and you could have a child that was perfectly fine.
I have found myself thinking lots about babies just lately and I know that I definately want a baby, I am determined that one day I will be a mother, that old familiar tug in my 'gut' is there again, but I have to be responsible, I personally couldnt live with myself if my impatience caused my child to suffer. If I can just wait until the time is right, physically as well as emotionally, then I am giving my potential child the very best chance at health and that is the least I can do for them. I have waited twelve years, what is another one two going to matter if the health and safety of my potential child is going to be better.
Obviously if a miracle happened and against all odds I got pregnant before the recommended then I would deal with that, I would put my everything into nourishing that growing child and I would have to deal with any health issues that occured because of the early timing of the pregnancy but I just dont think that I want that to happen.
The desire for a child is a VERY strong thing, it is very hard to ignore but it really would be best to wait if you can, for the childs sake.
Anyway, I was told that they suggest two years but that one year will probably be long enough to wait. I think that will wait until this time next year though but I will absolutely wait that year at least and will only start my quest for a child again once I can be assured that my body can nourish me AND the child.
So it is all up to you, but seriously think about it, will those extra months that you wait do so much harm to you? Can you not suffer through those extra months so that you can give your child that better start?
Steph xx