1 day from hospital admission and surgery cancelled!!! :'(

Well I was due to be admitted to srh tomorrow for surgery on Wednesday 12 days on milk diet and got a call when I was in my local home bargains store this morning to say it's cancelled because surgeon wants be to be 2 weeks free from the chest infection and steroids. Well right there and then just burst in tears and just pretty much keep doing that.

I'm soo gutted but most of all I feel let down. I rang hospital and checked about the steroids and was told yes fine to take them operation will only be cancelled if I have an infection still. Even at my pre assessment last thurs after that call I was feeling better and still am today.

I have made arrangements with home and kids etc my son is autistic and it's took a lot of preparing him for mammy to be gone a while, not to mention a course we will be attending from mid Jan week for 3 months to help support him which now I will miss some. Bags are packed. not to mention horrid pre op and worry of it all. I just feel crap and let down as this nurse made out this was standard procedure so why leave it so late..

I'm so sorry to hear this Jo - what an awful blow!! Who did you see at your pre-op?? Did you see the surgeon or was it purely for bloods etc and to give you info on "what will happen on the day"? That is really bad that they've cancelled it at such short notice...is there no way that you could potentially call the hospital and ask to speak to the surgeon to explain the advice and information you were given at the pre-op and over the phone?? Try to at least do that and then re-assess...not that you will see it as a positive now, but at least it is only a 14 day wait to be booked in again and you haven't got to wait for months for another date....sending you big big hugs xxx

I'm so sorry this has happened Jo. I too think it would be worth a call, just to see if anything can be done.

Pre assessment nurse rang me and when I'd calmed down a bit I called surgeons secretary who basically repeated and would not risk surgery. When I asked pre assessment nurse why I was told steroids ok and she said sorry I don't know. Frustrating I know mistakes happen, but it's no comfort

So sorry to hear that. It's just happened to me, but I'm still (or was) 16 days off surgery so nothing like as close as you. I can completely imagine how you feel - there's such a lot of emotion invested in all of this isn't there, and everyone around you.

The surgeon won't make this decision lightly and it will be with your best interests at heart. He'll want to make sure that the risks are as low as possible for you so you'll come through the surgery safely. So even though its really hard keep your eye on the bigger picture and I'm sure you'll be on the table soon.
Take care x

Awwww Jo, I'm so sorry to hear that, how frustrating!! I can't imagine how you're feeling, you must be devastated after working yourself up to it. I hope you don't have to wait too long for another date
I know it must be hard but the surgeon has your best interests in mind and better to postpone than take an unnecessary risk.
Keeping everything crossed for you that it all gets sorted soon x

Sorry to hear your bad news..what a let down...but its fate, its happened for a reason, look at it like that, for some reason this was not the right time for you. At least he isnt risking any sort of infection...hopefully you will get a new date very soon!! Keep positive!!

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If I'd have gone in tomorrow and they examined me and they'd said there is still an infection I would have been devastated but understood. It's more the fact that they have said it could never happened because of the steroids when I went to my Dr's last Mon and called them to explain about them on Tuesday, said steroids fine to take. They made me go for pre op on thurs, which made me miss my children's school play. Still no problem as long as infection cleared. They said it will be Jan if I'm better which I know is not too bad to be honest going thru this diet again is summat I'm not looking forward to but I do believe in signs and I will take it as one. I am not gunna allow my self to comfort eat or try my best not to. Already had the accusation off my dad I've backed out, or put on weight (lost another 2 kg since thurs when I weighed this morn) he hasn't a clue typical case of a fat person must be lying. Just soo fed up sorry everyone it's took a lot of energy as people have said to build up to this x

Oopseydaisy said:

Thats just not good enough!
You checked weeks ago, they should have told you then, if its standard procedure?
Really hun, you should make a formal complaint, otherwise it will keep happening
Im so sorry for you, what a disappointment x x x

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My raging mother called when I was hysterical crying demanding answers (I'm 28 but she really wasn't bothered) she wanted answers too and telling me to complain.

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I don't think it can be as sunderland are whizzing thru there lists. Last week there was absolutely nothing wrong with taking steroids according to the PREP nurse. I think he genuinely doesn't wanna risk it but they haven't even examined to check my chest. But when I said I am feeling ok and was on thurs at appointment she said oh well your still on steroids and you need to be clear for 2 weeks. So I think that was no illness for 2 weeks?! Steroids where for a week and so finishing tomorrow.

The surgeon was changed again also it was Dr balpuri then dr mahawar but this morning balpuri had made that decision..

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Well to update I have rang back the hospital today and they offered 30th January so I'm taking that. It's a Friday so I'll be able to attend my son's course that morning (only 9 -12) and get me to the hospital for the 2pm admission! The week after is a home visit anyway no attendance required that week so will give me a bit more healing time.

Still pretty gutted. But im getting on with things. I have been using the My fitness Pal app today and just sticking to calorie counting I feel if I don't have some restriction I will completely fall off the wagon and I really just wanna focus on losing anymore I can before I do get the surgery after 12 days of that milk diet it feels nice to eat normal healthy foods if that makes sense! X

I'm glad that you haven't got to wait another age for surgery Jo - that seems quite a quick date in all honesty and pleased that you've accepted it and that you can still make the course for your son. The cancellation sucks, but I'm sure that you will amaze us all with your willpower and determination to succeed over the xmas period....and any weight loss prior to surgery further to continued healthy eating and smaller portions will be a bonus as it is less to lose after surgery...it's a small one, but a bit of silver lining anyway hugs xx

Thanks I actually made a bit of mistake as I will be admitted on 29th for surgery on friday but I'm still going for it his dad will cope for that week without me!

I really hope I do well but I know main thing is not to gain weight. Also hoping to stay infection free as I do have them every other week but with me having asthma I guess I'm more prone to them this was something I was hoping will improve after op x

Can I ask how much notice you get about your operation date?
I was told my operation should be by the end of December, but I've just seen the nutritionist today and there still isn't any dates set.
As for the pre-op' milk diet that you mentioned, it's not even been discussed at all. Is it only for a specific procedure? I'm having a full REY bypass.

Are you at sunderland hospital too? As hospitals are different however, I found out about the first op that was suppose to be tomorrow approx 5 weeks ago got the pre op diet thru about 3 weeks before op from dietitian. I rang up hospital and asked about date like I said about 5 weeks ago as the letter informing date was actually received after the pre op info was. If you get me? x

I'm to have bypass to there is alternatives for people with diabetes or lactose intolerant. But people on here different hospitals doing different diets e.g slimfast

Hello 2nd chance Jo,
I'm very new to this site, you don't know me and I hope you don't mind but I just read your diary post then carried on reading on this post. I was originally interested because I'm from the north east too I live in redcar and I'm due to have my bypass at james Cook on the 7th of jan, I'm 29 and planning my wedding party this year so from first look we seem to have a lot in common!
After reading your story of everything that has happened with your dad seeming to be a little unsupportive and your op being cancelled so late notice I just wanted to comment and let you know that you seem like a lovely person, from the way you have been talking you are putting everything into your dieting already, and although you have had this bad luck you are still very strong, you should be very proud of yourself Hun and just keep looking forward I'm sure you will lost a load of weight with your determination and you will look beautiful on your wedding day! Just one thing I did think of when reading about your dress problems, is have you put any thoughts into getting a new dress off eBay? I know that isn't the first thing on your mind at the moment but I thought I might suggest it as I bought my bridesmaids dresses through eBay from China and they were beautiful and very cheap!
Anyway sorry for butting in on your post I will keep my fingers crossed for you at the end of January xx