Struggling a little emotionally.

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I'm absolutely terrified that the weight won't come off. I'm only 2.5 weeks post op and have lost nothing for 5 days. I know that this is normal for many, but I've also read many, people complaining that they only lost 30lbs and then nothing else (inc pre-op I've lost around 32).

I haven't quite followed the "rules" - I was told to do 2 weeks liquid, 2 weeks purée and 2 weeks soft. I have between 300 and 400 calories a day, and tend to have a mixture of liquid and soft.

E.g.
Breakfast = milk
Lunch = yoghurt
Dinner = soft food (e.g tuna and mash)
Supper = a babybel or a dairy lea light triangle.

I probably have been a bit stupid as I had a pack of Wotsits yesterday. (90 cals and was in place of the yoghurt).

How much difference will sugar content make at that calorie level? Post-soft food stage, it seems to be suggested that sugar should be no more than 3% per 100g. This is far less than the previous 3 stages (8%). There are virtually no yoghurts that fit that and the fat content. I'd end up just having another glass of milk.

Not having Wotsits is easy enough but still have very fragile confidence that this will work for me. I know that negative views on the internet tend to be more prevalent than those that worked perfectly but seem to be so many out there where it didn't work as expected.

Tbh at the moment if I even got to 210lbs I'd learn to be happy (am 246.2)

Hi Serenity

I think you should revisit this post in a couple of months and see how it was just a blip. Many, many people get a third week stall. I'm not sure why that happens but guess, once you take into consideration that your body has been denied calories since the start of your pre op and you are on such a low number now, it is just taking its time to adjust a little.
Look at that, 32 pounds off in a few weeks. Thats amazing.

I haven't had my revision yet but I had a stall a few weeks after my band op. Maybe I will need reminding of that myself once I have my op.

Chrissy

Thanks Chrissy, really appreciate the pep talk. I know you are right, and I'll soon be looking back. In the meantime my psyche is a bit fragile because of all the failures and false dawns of the last 25 years or so.

Thanks again x
Andy

I think most of us have had the "what if I'm the only one that fails" thoughts, I know I did and yet here I am over half my body weight gone, put the last few days behind you bin the wotsits and move on, I'm sure you will do fine xx

Andy, tell me about it. I started yesterday having a blub at 5:30 am and the day got worse. Seems to come with the territory. We feel like failures when we aren't. And I might just need reminding of that advice come late June lol.

Chrissy

Hiya! I know exactly what you are feeling, for the past two weeks i have lost 2 pound, put 2 or 3 back on again... i was terrified after reading on the internet that some people just can not lose the weight, even with surgery. I stopped weighing myself and 3 days ago dared myself and for the past couple of days i've been losing weight again.

Just give it time, from what I understand it is your body adjusting and your hormones all over the place. Keep positive and maybe resist the scales for a little while.

Just to make you feel better... I have been doing the same with Skips... I let them melt on my tongue for the flavour. I had half a bag sunday, and have lost 4 pounds since, i dont believe it will be the wotsits. However i do notice if i have eaten more carbs.

My advice is throw the crisps away. Bringing them in this early can lead you to take them for granted more as you move on. As you say they tend to melt, have no nutritional value and are a waste of calories.

Follow the rules and let your brain catch up With the massive change to your body. Give yourself the best chance possible for the operation to work. Blips will happen but stick to the plan you've been given and it will work

Definitely agree about getting shot of the crisps, I would also suggest stepping away from the scales. Weighing yourself everyday puts too much pressure on, your body naturally fluctuates on a daily basis. Once a week at the same time of day is sufficient.

Your body has been through a lot, it is still healing. Be kind to it and to yourself. Get back to basics, follow your plan and I am sure you will have success.

By the way look at that weight loss 32lbs in 4.5 weeks, that is half a stone a week. I think that is pretty darn good.

Lynn x

well the weight wont come off as quick as you think it will take months and step by step you will lose it look at some of these people charts they lost weight starting the second month and its by stones.
dont be disheartened just carry on and see your advisor if you got one or could be referred to the hospital by the GP if you had it done privately

Chuck the crisps, wotsits, whatevers, and the daily weighing and chiiiiiiilllll. We are all in it for the long haul, no quick fixes this time

this is how i was told. once you stop eating your body will start to use it reserves of fat that it has stored once it this progress starts it keeps on going untill you have basicly non left and are eating healthy and keep having vitamins so you keep on going and alive.

so naturally it wont come of straight away it will start soon i know that you want it gone and gone for good but its like the healing progress as long as you keep on getting on the scales every day you wont notice anything until you drop a size and thinking what happened.

also i eny you dont worry the hard part is nearly over

SerenityValley said:

Thanks Chrissy, really appreciate the pep talk. I know you are right, and I'll soon be looking back. In the meantime my psyche is a bit fragile because of all the failures and false dawns of the last 25 years or so. Thanks again x Andy

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I am 7 months out and still in doubt that i will be the one that will not loose enough (btw my bmi is now 29.5 went down from bmi 53...) or that i am the one who regains all the weight back... (That terrifies my the most atm.....)


We just need to work in our heads positive thinking is very helpful on this journey

Awww hun, stop driving yourself crazy!!! I know it's easier said than done, I was an emotional wreck in the first few weeks. It's still very early days and you are still healing. Everyone has given you great advice, just be a little kinder to yourself hun and don't pile on too much pressure. The weight won't come off overnight but it WILL come off and 32lb already us something to celebrate

Keep your pecker up hun and keep going, you'll be fine x

Thanks everyone, it's been very helpful. I think in a few weeks I'll be over the "hump" (the place where a diet normally fails for me) because obviously there is no giving up on a change like this.

I just want to clarify a couple of things - I haven't done this for a quick fix; nor am I struggling because the weight is slower than I might have anticipated (it's not slower).

What I was struggling with, was the concern that I'm finding dozens, if not hundreds of people claiming their bypass failed - that they stopped their loss after 30lbs and never went far beyond that. Now I know their story is not my story; just as my story is not your story, and that the weight loss is likely to pick back up and carry on until the end. But after 25 years or so of dieting failure it is very difficult at the lowest ebb to believe that nothing can go wrong.

The daily weighing - I've weighed almost every day for the last 25 years, exact during my worst binging periods. I managed to not weigh today though. But if I could weigh once a week, I'd probably have had a lot more diet success (I know it has derailed me many times). If I could stop and just weigh once a week, I would. But like traditional dieting, I also know success in that regard is not going to happen. Quitting smoking was easier!

Once over the initial post op recovery the hardest thing about this whole experience is the head games!! Our minds can be really mean to us sometimes, telling us to eat when we're not hungry, telling us we still look fat, telling us we're going to fail or that we need to jump on the scales "just to check". These are all common struggles hun, there are posts about all of them all over the forum. There is very little psych support post surgery unfortunately

If you can't weigh once a week, how about breaking it down into smaller steps. Weigh every other day for a while then when you're coping with that do every 3 days then 4 etc until you're weighing once a week. It'll take you a while but you'll get there.

Daily weighing is totally emotionally exhausting. I have done it for 30 years :-(

I got my husband to remove my scales and only weighed once s week .... But I convinced him to give me them back when I returned from holiday and hd a gain....back to daily weighing....it sucks xxx

My advice a lot of people who regain don't stick to the rules. If you keep away from fizzies, eating & drinking together, etc and look after your Tum it all helps. I'm 17 months out now and like you worry about regain and weigh myself 4/5 times a day. But I've come to accept that what I need to do to stay in control and it's working for me. Xx

weegie said:

Hi Serenity

I think you should revisit this post in a couple of months and see how it was just a blip. Many, many people get a third week stall. I'm not sure why that happens but guess, once you take into consideration that your body has been denied calories since the start of your pre op and you are on such a low number now, it is just taking its time to adjust a little.
Look at that, 32 pounds off in a few weeks. Thats amazing.

I haven't had my revision yet but I had a stall a few weeks after my band op. Maybe I will need reminding of that myself once I have my op.

Chrissy

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Just revisiting this post about 7.5 weeks on. I've lost another 26lbs since then, and I've probably lost more but I wouldn't know - I haven't weighed since Sunday. That's a big thing for me - I've never gone more than a day since the op. I've had several midweek stalls which have worried me but each week I have finished nicely down.

I have also managed to pick up a tummy bug, so can't eat, can barely drink, and have even more incentive to not weigh myself (as I will have a gain after I get over the tummy bug). Really going to try hard not to weigh till next Sunday (I moved my weigh in from Friday to Sunday, due to chronic constipation and the took dulcolax on a Friday night.

SerenityValley said:

Just revisiting this post about 7.5 weeks on. I've lost another 26lbs since then, and I've probably lost more but I wouldn't know - I haven't weighed since Sunday. That's a big thing for me - I've never gone more than a day since the op. I've had several midweek stalls which have worried me but each week I have finished nicely down. I have also managed to pick up a tummy bug, so can't eat, can barely drink, and have even more incentive to not weigh myself (as I will have a gain after I get over the tummy bug). Really going to try hard not to weigh till next Sunday (I moved my weigh in from Friday to Sunday, due to chronic constipation and the took dulcolax on a Friday night.

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I hope the tummy bug is resolved soon. Other than that you have made great progress so I hope you feel more relaxed about things. The demon scales can affect us all I am trying hard not to let them decide my mood for the day. I am just back from hols and I know I am bloated from travelling so shouldn't weigh myself... But that voice in the head :sigh: lol

Take care x