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Quest to find a smaller me

Discussion in 'Introduce Yourself Here' started by Emma1504, Dec 24, 2017.

  1. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Well I have finally decided to come out of the shadows.
    Been watching this site since the summer but just not had the courage to introduce myself.
    So here goes my story is like many others. Been overweight most of my life with yo-yo dieting. Always resulting in putting weight back on & a bit extra!
    Have asked my doctor for help many times but always been told no funding.
    At the beginning of the year I fell on the ice & hurt my knee after treatment not helping was referred to specialist. Went to that appointment hoping to get answers & a plan. Instead was refused the operation due to my weight. I was beside myself. I had just started a job which I loved & studied hard to achieve. I felt embarrassed, cross & helpless. Needless to say I cried in front of the doctor. She was brilliant and referred me to the Bariatric team.
    At the moment I have attended a seminar & got a date for my MDT (April). So at the very beginning of this long quest.
    Even at this early stage it consumes my every spare moment.
    I have decided to not share with many people. Only my husband, Mum & best bud know at the moment. Maybe with time I will feel confident to stand up & tell people. But with the feelings I have About my weight I need to get my head sorted first.
    I have loved reading everyone diary’s they are inspirational & full of support. Just what I will need in the coming year.
     
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  2. Bling Babe

    Bling Babe Well-Known Member

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    5st0.5lb(30.52%)
    Surgery Type:
    Gastric Bypass
    Funding Type:
    NHS
    Consultant:
    MrJain
    Surgery Date::
    5th April 2018
    Welcome Emma I’m sure you realise what a supportive bunch they are on here if you’ve been browsing since the summer.
    Where are you based?
    Very good luck with your journey and please keep in touch
    Have a wonderful Christmas and a peaceful new year xxx
     
  3. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Yes you guys are all very supportive!
    It’s lovely to hear that There are people who are in the same boat as me & fully understand my situation.
    I live in Reading, Berkshire.
    I hope you have a great Christmas x
     
  4. Lottiewishes

    Lottiewishes Well-Known Member

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    Hi hunny everyone's lovely here sweetie. I am miles away from surgery AND got a long way to go-maybe we can keep each other company on this journey GOOD luck xxx
     
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  5. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Thanks
    Most definitely need to keep each other going. It’s a long quest but one way or another we will get there.
    Here if you need anything.
     
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  6. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Feeling a bit funny today.
    Everyone talking about staring the diet tomorrow!
    I don’t have my next appointment till April. This will be my MDT appointment & this will be where they take my starting weight.
    If I start dieting it might effect things in the near future but if I don’t then it will only make my mobility worst. Catch 22 & feeling bla about it all.
    4 months seems a long time to wait & I could do a lot of damage in that time.
    I want to be happy & looking forward to this new year but the reality is it’s going to be a long old year. I’m the sort of person that when i’ve Got something in my head I want to start it then & now!
     
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  7. jj87

    jj87 Active Member

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    Surgery Type:
    sleeve
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    NHS
    Consultant:
    homerton
    Surgery Date::
    18th July 2017
    I was able to get a cancellation appointment my original app was meant to be the June and I managed to get one on the January. So pretty much this time of year..
     
  8. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Thinking I might give them a call. I feel I am in limbo & need clarification.
    Thanks
     
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  9. Maria61

    Maria61 Well-Known Member

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    Surgery Type:
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    Consultant:
    Mr Jain Luton and Dunstable
    Surgery Date::
    19th September 2017
    Welcome Emma and good luck. I would not talk to anyone about my weight issues but this forum has been fantastic and now I have opened up and told everyone about my surgery. It has really helped me as my friends and family are so very supportive but it is so personal and not everyone wants to tell other people. I am sure you will do very well Anne we are all here for each other xxxxx
     
  10. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Thank you.
    It’s such a personal thing but loving being able to chat about it on here with you guys.
     
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  11. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Thank you for this.
    I gave them a call today & got a cancellation.
    My MDT appointment has been moved to 16th March . Still 10 weeks to wait but the lady was really helpful. She let me ask as many questions as I wanted.
    Something I was worried about was getting funding which I have read can be a problem. But she said that I have funding. The pathway is funded for a year resulting in operation at the end. If I don’t loss the weight they set me in that time then that is when it will get cancelled & I will be referred back to GP.
    So feel happier now & don’t feel in limbo so much.
    She said to call anytime which is really cool. She also said sometimes when your BMI is high you can get fast tracked & only do the pathway for 6 months. My BMI is high so will have to wait & see what happens.
    I am grateful you replied it gave me a push in the right direction.
     
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  12. jj87

    jj87 Active Member

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    Consultant:
    homerton
    Surgery Date::
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    I am sooo happy. 10weeks will fly past. Exciting times. Good new year already. Go you. Losers bench in no time xxx
     
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  13. los in it

    los in it Well-Known Member

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    Consultant:
    Miss Kalpana Devalia
    Surgery Date::
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    Hello and belated warm welcome
     
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  14. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Thanks x
     
  15. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Really struggling with making good food choices.
    I’ve meal planned, shopped & still got home tonight to order a pizza.
    Why do I do it my well power is beyond reach.
    :rant:
     
  16. Maria61

    Maria61 Well-Known Member

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    Mr Jain Luton and Dunstable
    Surgery Date::
    19th September 2017
    Don’t beat yourself up Emma, we all do this. This is why we need help. Forget this, today is a new day xx
     
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  17. Emma1504

    Emma1504 Well-Known Member

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    Thanks
    Back on it today
    Got up early & put my tea in the slow cooker all ready for tonight
    Fingers crossed
     
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  18. Bling Babe

    Bling Babe Well-Known Member

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    Agree with maria61, the best advice I had from a member on here was that by dwelling on it and letting it mess with our head only serves to make you continue to make bad choices, draw a line under it, as indeed you have done. Well done x
     
  19. Sunshine99

    Sunshine99 Well-Known Member

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    David Locker,York
    Surgery Date::
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    Hello and Welcome, @Emma1504

    So pleased you got a cancellation for the MDT appointment....not too far away either, Although, it may seem it to you at the moment.
    It is always a long wait to get to the surgery table (losers bench). We're all either going through, or have been through....similar emotions, Whilst waiting for the day to arrive.
    We're all here because we've made bad food choices in the past....its very hard to ajust a lifetime habit...just like that, that's why we're all seeking intervention....just the same as someone with drugs or alcohol issues checks into a rehab....our rehab...is our surgery.
    (Though ...personally I'd have prefered to get sectioned into a Boot camp style regime...than have had surgery....but, that's not available....nor an option.)

    Try not to be too hard on yourself. If you do make another bad choice....like @Bling Babe says, draw a line under that blip. As getting all wound-up about it...is counter productive....and, will make you feel horrible....wanting bad foods again to help you 'temporarily' feel better. And, it's not worth it.
    I still make bad food choices though sometimes...4 months out. No where near like the bad choices before surgery....but, nether the less....still not good...And ...i suffer for them bad choices too. I still have my 'sugar' addiction. But, it's getting less & less now. I'm learning not to beat myself up as much as I did...if I cave in to temptation.

    All the best for your surgery when you get your date. :)

    Toni :rainbow:
     
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  20. Sunshine99

    Sunshine99 Well-Known Member

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    Surgery Type:
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    Consultant:
    David Locker,York
    Surgery Date::
    September 18th 2017
    I've always been open from the start ...regards my surgery. As I have quite a bad memory....and would forget what I'd told various people I'd been in hospital for...lol.
    Part of me regrets been so open about my surgery...As, the 'normal size' people, Or people who are only ...And, have only ever been 2 or 3 stone overweight....as apose to 8 to 10 stone overweight (And morbidly obese from childhood)...will never understand.
    I got...
    'Well I lost 2 stone at SW....you can too'
    'You don't need surgery'
    'You can do it without surgery'

    And, they where the nice remarks!

    Dont they think I'd tried everything before considering surgery...:doh:
    I lost 4 stone...time after time, with SW...but...could never keep it off....like so many on here.

    But, some just arn't that interested at all...they see it as, What's the big deal...obese woman...loses weight through surgery (or cheating in their eyes)

    It is a bloody big deal to us! Lol.

    I come to realize that the only people that can truly empathize , And ...understand an obese / morbidly obese persons struggles....is an obese...or formally obese person themselves (even in the medical field)

    Toni :rainbow:
     
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