StephieAck
I know Ive changed!
Hi guys
Do any of you guys still really struggle with self image after your weight loss? I dont mean as in seeing your extra skin etc. What I mean is do you ever see yourself as attractive?
I was telling a friend about something that happened today, I was in town with my sister and I walked by this really hot guy and usually when that happens they catch my eye and I walk by appreciating their good looks but they have always either looked at me and then looked away quickly or even looked through me, this guy today didnt, he noticed me looking and with this hot half smile he held my gaze as I walked towards him and then past him...it truly made every inch of me blush, that is how unaccustomed I am to getting those looks back.
Now when I talk about vanity I mean do any of us ever feel comfy enough to say 'yes, that person DID look at me appreciatively, they looked and they liked what they saw'?
My friend said 'ha, you pulled' and that shocked me, until that point I felt he had looked in that way but my old self confidence, or hugely massive lack of it, had made me think I was imagining it, but looking back, you know what, if I were in a bar or a club etc and I had gotten that look then I would know what it meant, I remember that look from before I met hubby, I got that look right before I got chatted up when I was out, so I KNOW what it means, so why is it so hard for me to feel comfy admitting it now without feeling like I am being a narcissistic, pretentious oik?
Im guessing that most of us would feel the same about accepting that we can once again be attractive, but am I totally out of order for giving in to vanity here? I have really do feel horrendous for even posting this thread as it feels like one big exercise in stroking my own ego, but its not meant as that, I just wonder if we will ever feel comfy with our new image, will it ever feel normal to have someone look at us and think mmmm or will we always feel the way I do inside? Like a short, stumpy little hippo that noone should want to like the look of?!
Steph xx
Do any of you guys still really struggle with self image after your weight loss? I dont mean as in seeing your extra skin etc. What I mean is do you ever see yourself as attractive?
I was telling a friend about something that happened today, I was in town with my sister and I walked by this really hot guy and usually when that happens they catch my eye and I walk by appreciating their good looks but they have always either looked at me and then looked away quickly or even looked through me, this guy today didnt, he noticed me looking and with this hot half smile he held my gaze as I walked towards him and then past him...it truly made every inch of me blush, that is how unaccustomed I am to getting those looks back.
Now when I talk about vanity I mean do any of us ever feel comfy enough to say 'yes, that person DID look at me appreciatively, they looked and they liked what they saw'?
My friend said 'ha, you pulled' and that shocked me, until that point I felt he had looked in that way but my old self confidence, or hugely massive lack of it, had made me think I was imagining it, but looking back, you know what, if I were in a bar or a club etc and I had gotten that look then I would know what it meant, I remember that look from before I met hubby, I got that look right before I got chatted up when I was out, so I KNOW what it means, so why is it so hard for me to feel comfy admitting it now without feeling like I am being a narcissistic, pretentious oik?
Im guessing that most of us would feel the same about accepting that we can once again be attractive, but am I totally out of order for giving in to vanity here? I have really do feel horrendous for even posting this thread as it feels like one big exercise in stroking my own ego, but its not meant as that, I just wonder if we will ever feel comfy with our new image, will it ever feel normal to have someone look at us and think mmmm or will we always feel the way I do inside? Like a short, stumpy little hippo that noone should want to like the look of?!
Steph xx
