Has your weight loss annoyed anyone?

[Tyraboots]

I have noticed a remarkable thawing in relations between me and some og the mums at my daughters school. People who haven't spoken to me for 4 years now approach me chatting. One of my relatives is a little nose out of joint about my wieght loss, and I was repremanded by a neighbour about 'going on' about my diet. Oooh er!!!

 

[Neen]

It's nice that some people are more positive, maybe losing weight and being happy about ourselves makes us more happy looking and therefore approachable...I'm sure I must have stood there scowling without realising just because I was self conscious and miserable and uncomfortable around others.. but with the negative ones it's jealousy I think !!! I have decided that if someone is going to get their nose out of joint over me wanting to improve my quality of life and life expectancy, they can go get stuffed!!!!

 

[Jacquie Christie]

Have to say, Im a bit worried about other people's reaction to my having the bypass, but certainly that will not stop me.

People will either be jealous, or scared for me, or think I am stupid.

I guess I just follow my instinct and charge on full steam ahead, then they will just HAVE to deal with it.

 

[angie790]

Have to say, Im a bit worried about other people's reaction to my having the bypass, but certainly that will not stop me.

People will either be jealous, or scared for me, or think I am stupid.

I guess I just follow my instinct and charge on full steam ahead, then they will just HAVE to deal with it.

I think everyone has probably nailed it right on the head there...concern (gosh, she lost alot of weight suddenly, is she ill?), ignorance (don't really know much about WLS &/or think it's an easy way out), jealous (they felt more comfortable when there was someone fatter than them around), interest (gosh, she's lost a lot of weight & is looking good, how did she do it?) etc.

Tyraboots: I'm sure you're not going on too much about your diet, but with alot to be proud of, who cares anyway? Your neighbour can put in some ear plugs if they don't want to hear your voice!

Neen: Totally agree with you hun, often people like to offer an opinion whether you want it or not, so I think to some extent one needs the 'get stuffed' attitude!

Jacquie: You've got the right idea my lovely..this is your journey & people will have to be with you while you are on it, or hop off the bus!

 

[BlueDiamond]

Have to say, Im a bit worried about other people's reaction to my having the bypass, but certainly that will not stop me.

People will either be jealous, or scared for me, or think I am stupid.

I guess I just follow my instinct and charge on full steam ahead, then they will just HAVE to deal with it.

Well said , after all your doing it for YOU and thats all that matters

All the best - MeJulie x x

 

[Lady_in_London]

I used to notice when I was extremely obese that people who I would come into contact with would treat me with disdain, not be friendly etc., (and I knew it wasn't my character), and assumed they felt disgust about my size. I noticed as time goes on that I don't have that type of reaction with people. Of course people should not be judged by their size, but there are some slim people who do judge overweight people. There is also an amazing amount of envy when you lose weight by other people. It is incentive enough to stick to the diet and keep the weight off.

Well done on your weight loss.

 

[Tyraboots]

I have heard people say openly, that they don't like fat people. It always surprised me, I could never be specific about exactly what type of people I don't like. I detest shallowness in people., but more than that I despise my reaction to comments like that. So more fool me eh!
I have seen some really big people out there, some really struggling along the street and I want to run up to them and show them my scars and tell them about the life that will open up to them if they consider surgery. Sad eh?

 

[BlueDiamond]

I have seen some really big people out there, some really struggling along the street and I want to run up to them and show them my scars and tell them about the life that will open up to them if they consider surgery. Sad eh?[/QUOTE]

No defo not sad, you would be surprised how many people dont know weight loss surgery exsists or know about how to get the ball rolling, if you have managed to help one person - Good for you I say - So defo not sad

All the best - MeJulie x x

 

[galm37]

I've had the usual comments, why can't you loose weight by not eating so much, doing more exercise etc.

To that my comments are if it were that easy I wouldn't have had surgery. I've tried every diet in the book, been successful, then put it all plus more back on.

A few people in work seemed to have gone on diets while I was off after surgery and one colleague was is out right competition with me, more interested in what I'd lost compared to her!

For me, if it's given people the insentive to loose weight the conventional way, all power to them. I'm not convinced that diets work, if they do, they've never worked for me and my bypass is.

I think some of people reactions to our sudden weightloss (if they don't know you've had surgery) could just be curiosity or the fact that they think you've got some really bad illness that your not telling people about.

I'm putting all snidey comments down not to sheer jealousy now, I am no longer the biggest in the room and it intimidates some people. I can't be put down for my size any longer and my confidence has grown while my size has decreased.

I've still got 3 stones to loose until I'm a healthy BMI and all I hear off people is that I'm loosing too much weight. Again, people's fear of change. I think we change too quickly (appearance) for individuals to grasp.

 

[Katastrophe]

I haven't had any negative comments but then i still have a lot to lose.

The only thing one person said to me was " Oh well as long as you don't get obsessed" which is a totally ridiculous thing to say... I've been obsessed with my over weightness my whole life and she's known me my whole life - of course thats not going to change anytime soon - this WLS is all consuming , especially at the start.

If people are negative let them get on with it - if they don't have your best interests at heart then it has nothing to do with them

I can feel myself gradually coming back out of my shell though which probably makes me more approachable - maybe thats whats happened the mums at the school tyraboots? xx

 

[Stellap]

Have to say I am very surprised by people - my friends that are slim are really happy for me and comment all the time, however, my friends that are large either do not mention it at all or say I was stupid having it done or something else very catty. I also notice at work that the really young pretty things are starting to talk to me now when they used to ignore me before. I guess they think I'm cooler now I'm no longer obese - very sad and shallow.

 

[Glenville]

I have decided that if someone is going to get their nose out of joint over me wanting to improve my quality of life and life expectancy, they can go get stuffed!!!!

Amen to that!

I've only had 2 negative reactions. 1 was pre-op and more out of fear for my safety, she has since agreed that it was well worth taking the risk because the change in me is plainly evident. The second was by someone I have met since the op and she had an enormous chip on her shoulder about her close relation who had an addiction and was convinced I had an addiction to food pre-op. That may have been the case (I don't think it was though), but as we all know wls is the the last resort for us.

Don't worry about the negative reactions Twigs, it's you and your close ones that matter. xx

 

[chezez]

Hi all I'm due to have my gastric bypass, on the waiting list just going through all the hospital appointments that I have. The thing is change how do we get through the change in our bodies and minds if you have someone who doesn't like it when you change. Don't want to go into too much detail but lets just say every diet I have tried has been sabotaged and now I'm getting a really uneasy feeling every time I go on about my bypass. thanks Chez

 

[galm37]

I also notice at work that the really young pretty things are starting to talk to me now when they used to ignore me before. I guess they think I'm cooler now I'm no longer obese - very sad and shallow.

Perhaps they thought that 'fat' was contagious! lol

 

[samsmum]

I have realised that we just have to put up with this off some people. I keep being told to stop losing weight... I should put some weight back on...... I am thinner everytime they see me..... I have now been about the same weight for 3 months and I have a healthy bmi so I tell them that and that I am happy as I am thanks for their concern!