its easier said than done i will get all built up in my mind and close to tears , and the only way i can manage to talk with out crying is in a stern mater of fact way and people take it i am being stroppy when i am only tring to stand my ground and say the words .
and if i just cry and talk the other option they are worse and dismiss me as aloon
ive found that if i take my husband in with me at least the dr listens more and i tend to say more
dont get me wrong i am not a mouse it is if something is really important to me i just get emotional
but if my husband thinks he could save the 10 grand he will go in with me and give it a go
but hes not spending any thing we have left its mine.... not ours this time
i wish
ps i have no problem shouting at kids and husbands especially once a month