Porpo, you sound just how I felt before I was due to have my G.Bypass. I was absolutely sure that a bypass is what I wanted, until about 6 days before my op, where, out of nowhere, huge doubt and major fear set in: I couldn’t even sleep wondering whether I was doing the right thing. Some of the things going through my mind at the time included: ‘what am I doing? I don’t suffer from any of the ailments associated with obesity (i.e. high blood pressure, sleep disorders, diabetes, etc, etc, etc – although, i was aware that with time, I’d probably them, which is why I decided to go for it) and by having the surgery, I was afraid that I would be adopting a whole new set of problems with it, such as mineral/vitamin deficiency, hair loss, and above all, the thing that scared me the most (when fear set in) was ‘dumping syndrome’. I started to worry that at only 33 years of age (ok, I’m no spring chicken, but I still have a good few years left in me), I did not want ‘choice’ to be taken away from me... that, if for example, one day I wanted a piece of cake/ or a chocolate/ or fish and chips, etc, that I wanted the option to eat it... and that if I did eat it, I didn’t want to be violently sick (however, by having joined this forum, I have found that some bypassers are indeed able to eat the occasional treat without ‘dumping’ – or that it gets less severe with time).
When I started to have doubts, I called the bariatric nurse and psychologist and they were both wonderful. They both saw me, and we talked through my options again (i.e. banding and bypass) and we all decided that because of my eating habits, and the doubts I was having about the bypass, that the band was a sensible option for me. I finally got my operation in June this year – and I’m so happy with the decision I made.
Please don’t think for a second that I’m advising you against a bypass – I would never do that, we’re all individuals and what’s best for one person may be different for someone else. It is also extremely obvious that there are many, many, many people on this forum who have had the bypass and are very happy with their operation/decision and wouldn’t change it for the world...
Good luck with whatever decision you make – and I hope your bariatric team is as helpful and supportive as mine was when I was in a panic as to which operation to go for.
