What do you think about this?

[Pandora_150]

As far as I'm concerned your both welcome and its suppose to be user led so what I say goes

Its not the first time I have been given this impression by this woman!

When we were discussing at the end the right 'portion' of peanut butter, she said a tablespoon... So I said I defiantly have less than that... So obviously she came back and said that it defiantly depended on whether the tablespoon was heaped or not! I mean, come on I know what a tablespoon measurement is, and its not heaped!!! I don't know if you agree with me or not Angela, but I thought this was a 'dig' at my portion control...

Or maybe I'm just being a tad over-sensitive!

X

 

[thinnerangela]

I was that put out by then - grr!!

I just felt bad at seeing fit to ask a question!! I didn't think it was you she was getting at but me - she did smile at me in the carpark though!!

I've not nursed for over 25 years - but her whole attitude is not condusive to anybody doing well. Many many people have psychological and/or psychiatric problems and I would have thought her whole demeanour could have the potential to exacerbate these problems.

Wonder if it should be taken further?

I'd be better at the job lol - maybe all bariatric nurses/ dieticians should have been there first!!

And as for the list of rules!! - if we can decide to have WLS we can surley know how to behave without being treated like school children imho!!

Rant over - not feeling such a fraud for being there now

Hugs Angela xx

 

[Pandora_150]

Trust me Angela, you are wanted there! I know I personally have learned a lot from you

The problem is if she doesn't realise what she is doing! She said herself she has only been in the post a year, and has had no experience of Bariatric patients before this.

Hehe, the 'ground rules' have been put up on the facebook group wall by the Nurse as well! I felt a tad .... Hmmmm what's the word.... Infantalised?!?!? I'm pretty sure we all know to not talk while someone else is talking, and be respectful exc...

Again I'm glad its not just me who has been offended by this woman! I also get the impression I'm not wanted as (even though I'm NHS and under Calderdale) I had mine done at Elland and not the usual Calderdale/Huddersfield!

Steph x

 

[tarara]

Oh my I am so pleased to know I am not alone in how I feel about the dietician. I had my first OPA yesterday and was dreading the appointment being with her, luckily it was with Mr Ainslie, and after reading all this I am even more relieved it was with him as I went in after being weighed and expressed concern that I didn't think I was losing quick enough and was told by him and the 2 nurses with him that I was bang on target and that not everyone has a massive loss in the first few weeks especially if they have lost a significant amount pre op. Had my appointment been with the dietician, who was in the clinic at the time (I spotted her and said to my Mum I just know I'm going to end up seeing her) then I wouldn't have come out of there feeling too good.
The only time besides the support meetings I have seen her was 2 days after my surgery and she made me feel about 2 inch tall and like a failure even at that stage. Why? Because I had managed to eat a whole 2 1/2 teaspoons of pureed fish pie.
She sat on the bed open mouthed saying "at this stage most people only manage a teaspoon if that"
I actually sat and cried when she left, I just thought to myself if I am "overeating" less than 2 days post op what chance have I got of making this work.

I am glad you are there Angela it's good to hear about other procedures, I was offered a DS and had I maybe known a little more about it I may have taken the option, having you at the meetings gives new members a chance to learn firsthand more about it.


On the subject of the group rules things I was glad that there were some made especially about the talking while others were talking as at the previous meeting I missed quite a lot of what was being said due to being sat right in front of a couple of shall we say "louder members of the group" and was the reason for us sitting at the opposite side of the room for this last meeting.

 

[Tracey ( eyore)]

i was told yesterday at my hospital visit that 6 months post op you should be looking at having 1000-1200 calories , but in next breathe meals must never be larger than one cup fall .

 

[thinnerangela]

Feeling much less unwanted now!!

I will continue to add my twopennorth at meetings - the bariatric specialist nurse told me that they have done sleeves but probably won't be offering a DS - but if someone needed it I'm sure they could be referred on.

I now see where the dietician and her crackpot ideas are coming from - inexperience and lack of perception about obesity.

Sounds like you are doing fine tatara - couldn't get your Facebook link to work - will see if you are on the support group page

Angela xx

 

[tarara]

Please do Angela. I was told there was the option for me to go to Leeds or Liverpool for the DS possibly as a 2 part op or all at once depending on what the surgeons there thought best, as I got my bmi down between my 1st and 2nd appointments they were more happy to just go for the bypass and have it done at Huddersfield which suited me just fine.
I am on the facebook group