Thank you so much guys. It's funny you say about the insecurities. Three years ago I lost five and half stone on the milk shake diet (in fourteen weeks!) and because it was such a quick loss, I was getting so much attention from everyone, he hated it. He was quite mean to me at times and even said that I'd changed " and not for the better!" But I think it was because I was more confident but of course, I've put four stone back on again :-( losing it was easy, it's keeping it off that is my problem.
The other issue is, I've funded it without him. The fact that he can't control it is driving him nuts! I make him sound like a right Arse, but he's not really. I know his worry about the procedure is genuine. I had cancer fifteen years ago and at the time I was given eighteen months to live. Long story, all past, but I survived. I'm clear and was very lucky. He can't see why I would willingly put myself under the knife again, even though this surgery (in my honest opinion) will save my life as much as my other surgery did.
Sorry for the essay, but in the dire lack of family and friends that I can confide in, your collective ears and shoulders are a tremendous comfort to me and I am genuinely grateful for your comments. XXX