Just Back from Pre-Op

[Undecided]

Hi All

Didnt go very well.

Health Assistant guessed my height (I wasnt sure exactly what it was, and she didnt check).

Nurse tried 3 times to get blood from arm, then tried hand. The had to get another lady to do it.

I asked her if I could talk to someone about my questions. Only person available was a Registrar. When he came down it was the same not very nice guy who had done the gastroscopy.

I asked about addiction transfer. He didnt know what it was, but said if I had concerns like this, then I shouldnt be having surgery.

He called Mr Shroeder, who answered my questions for me, but then said either I have to go ahead on Sunday, or wait another year :-(. At the beginning of the conversation he talked about having the sleeve instead. I dont feel any further forward.

I wish they had just sent me a letter with a date in a few weeks time, the same as everyone else. It would have given me more time to get my head around it.

 

[Kevin1708]

We all have doubts . . . be strong xx

 

[suzz69uk]

oh no, that doesn't sound like a very nice experience for you. big hugs. All I can say is think long and hard (you prob already are) about what is best for you. xxx

 

[Fizzy donna]

I still have doubts but am soo ready to go ahead ! Sometimes u just have to take the bull by the horns good good luck with your decision xx

 

[Undecided]

You are Saturday aren't you Donna ?

 

[suepat10]

Hi Undecided

I've just had a search around the internet to see if I can find any helplines or organisations involved in addiction transference but can't find anything.

I appreciate that you wanted advice from your specialists - and think the first guy you saw's reply was unhelpful and totally uncalled for - but hoped there may be somebody around you could talk to as time to make a decision is so short for you.

One thing I have found is that there has been quite an awareness of this since around 2006 so it is even worse that the first guy hadn't heard of it.

I wonder whether it is worth giving the number on this website a ring: wls - Helpline

Maybe someone on there can answer the questions you have.

Whatever you decide to do, I wish you well x

 

[Karen19745]

I think we all have doubts but it will all be worth it in the end. I think you really need to ask yourself if you really want this, and if you're answer is yes, then go for it, I'm positive you'll feel happier on the other side, but it is your decision.

But I know what you mean about having more time, but then sometimes it can work the opposite way and give you more time to worry about it.

You will make the right decision for you, but we're all here for you no matter what you decide, good luck, Karen x

 

[phatmomma]

The question is this? Do you think you'll be any heavier or any lighter this time next year if you don't have surgery?

My daughter asked me if i was scared of dying (she was going through a phase) and i said 'No, i'm scared of dying fat'... That was my decision and i made it...

 

[Jen1961]

Dying early because I'm fat makes my mind up I'm doing the right thing having the bypass.

As well as two 20+ year old children I have a 7 year old son and two grandchildren under two years of age. There is no doubt for me regarding the decision. Any complications along the way I will have to deal with, getting well has to be my priority.

Good luck with sorting out your concerns and I hope you do what is best for you x

 

[Durhamlass14]

Hi
All I can add is that I had a few doubts but I had my op at Sunderland and now I have no regrets the staff on the ward are fantastic
take care
xx

 

[Fuffs]

I guess addiction transfer has no answer. Being aware of it holds you in great stead. Pre armed makes you strong. You now can work hard at chanelling your mind in positive things and staying away from negative things that could trigger an addiction.

Good luck whatever you decide

 

[Undecided]

Thanks guys for all your comments

 

[Denise Morris]

Hi
I work as a pre-op nurse at SRH but I have not heard of this complication, however there are some articles on web - google - gastric bypass+addiction transfer.
I have had the gastric sleeve in January lost 4+ stone so far I don't get hunger pains and often have to remind myself to eat then its just small amounts, and can't say I crave anything or miss any foods I can still have the odd bit of chocolate/sweets no side effects (don't get dumping with sleeve) although I was never what you could call addicted to sweet stuff it was just now and again and think it was a pre- menstrual hormone driven thing if you know what I mean.
Sorry can't be of more help with this but don't get cold feet, maybe if you post a specific message aimed at previous bypassers asking about addiction transfer you might get some feedback, good luck with whatever you decide.
Denise

 

[Undecided]

Thanks Denise. He did tell me there was a pre-op nurse who had had the sleeve. I guess that was you .

I've just posted another message to say I'm not going ahead for the date they gave me. Thank you anyway.

 

[Denise Morris]

I guess if you don't feel ready yet then you have made best decision, hope you get sorted one way or other eventually and you never know they might invent a magic pill that does everything the surgery will do (in my dreams).

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

i personally think ....... and i appoligise if this offends any one...... that you have read to much scary stuff on line and its detered you, good luck in the future, i think u will regret this decision thats just my thoughts..... good luck in what ever life has in store for you.... i hope things work out ok for you x

 

[Fuffs]

Are you going to spend the year you will have to wait settling yourself? Please try not to find more things to worry you. Research is great. But not all complications happen to everyone. So I just hope the extra year benefits you greatly, rather than gives you more time to worry yourself loads.

Everyone is here for you. Good luck if it is your final decision to pull out this year. Just be aware that funding is getting so bad, that by next year things could have changed radically. I feel this will start to affect people with even funding granted.

Not trying to sound like an Angel if Doom lol. Just trying to help you look from all angles before you officially cancel

(((hugs)))

 

[christine77]

i have to agree with liz on this one - i think you have information overload, before my bypass i read all the info going including addiction transfer but i have to say it didnt bother me at all it would just be a bridge i cross if i ever come to it. all the information you gather can help but i must admit i have to say a lot of it hs no relevance to what i have experienced since my op.

good luck with your journey and i fully understand why you would want to delay your op i think you need to be in a place, mind wise where you accept and understand all the things that might happen to you. as i told my husband when he questioned me i was ready to die to have this operation, as my weight was going to kill me anyway .
its not an easy journey and you still need a great amount of will power after the op, it isnt a magic wand being waved, it has been hard.

good luck

 

[Undecided]

lol. Hopefully