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[salski]

I agree. If Mandy feels the need to post anything as long as it is within the minimins forum rules, then she should be allowed to and feel like she is welcome to.

We all cope in different ways and if this is Mandys way of coping, then she should be encouraged to do what she feels is right for her.

Nobody is forcing you to click on anything she posts or forcing you to reply.

I think we just need to be a bit more understanding to how someone else feels, we might not use this forum in the same way she does, but lets allow her to use it in the way she gets the most out of it.....

Surely nobody can hold that against her?

As for the "Mentally not ready comments" Its not for you, me or anyone else on here to comment on that. Mandy as we all have will go through psych testing etc and if that deems her ready, then she is!

Im sure she understands this is a lifelong commitment, lets just try and stick behind someone that obviously needs our help at times.

Mark x

Well said Mark - I agree x

 

[Gail-michelle]

Hear! Hear! mark well said Gail.x

I agree. If Mandy feels the need to post anything as long as it is within the minimins forum rules, then she should be allowed to and feel like she is welcome to.

We all cope in different ways and if this is Mandys way of coping, then she should be encouraged to do what she feels is right for her.

Nobody is forcing you to click on anything she posts or forcing you to reply.

I think we just need to be a bit more understanding to how someone else feels, we might not use this forum in the same way she does, but lets allow her to use it in the way she gets the most out of it.....

Surely nobody can hold that against her?

As for the "Mentally not ready comments" Its not for you, me or anyone else on here to comment on that. Mandy as we all have will go through psych testing etc and if that deems her ready, then she is!

Im sure she understands this is a lifelong commitment, lets just try and stick behind someone that obviously needs our help at times.

Mark x

 

[mandyl]

Sorry people i have to agree with Liz on this one, i dont always agree with Liz over everything though this time like Liz i'm a little concerned about how your going to cope post op Mandy, and before the gang rips into me i'm not being nasty either, i've walked the walk and understand the issues your going to face and its evident your not in the right place to over come these yourself, ask yourself how your going to manage when your woofing up food down the loo because you've over eated post op and your pouch is hurting, or how your going to cope when you get something wrong and you have your first 2 hour bowl movement, and god forbid you dump, your going to think your whole world is ending.......sorry i know it sounds very negative what i'm saying but i'm worried Mandy !

first ive been on a strict diet for ages cos of stones. i no longet eat emotionally so i dont need to worry about dumping or anything else. as said ive been through much worse on my own so will cope

 

[BlueDiamond]

Dont leave the site mandy, I am not saying I agree/disagree with what anyone has posted.......Like most things in life you have to take the rough with the smooth, and from time to time ppl opinions will clash, cause if e1 thought the same this world would be a boring place to be. But don't leave the site because of it .

All the best - MeJulie xx

 

[mandyl]

Mandy this is a prime example of what people are saying - someone's said something you dont like or dont want to hear and your throwing your toys out of the pram ! Life isn't all fluffy and nice, the reality of this op is that its going to be hard and uncomfortable and your going to really have to be strong and focussed, if your going to quit every time someone points at you then your not going to make it !

Remember a bypass isn't just for Christmas its for life !

oh and by the way life has NEVER been fluffy or nice for me so ill cope with that too thanks anyway

 

[Silversurfer]

first ive been on a strict diet for ages cos of stones. i no longet eat emotionally so i dont need to worry about dumping or anything else. as said ive been through much worse on my own so will cope

Again Mandy this highlights to me that you really dont understand what your getting into here, Dumping is something you will experience post operation not now, the fact you dont dump before your op has no relation to the fact you may experience dumping syndrome post operation, people dump for all manner of reasons, some dump because of sugar and other dump eating bread, its hit and mis and there's really no way of telling pre op what will make you dump and what wont !

 

[teapot1966]

Again Mandy this highlights to me that you really dont understand what your getting into here, Dumping is something you will experience post operation not now, the fact you dont dump before your op has no relation to the fact you may experience dumping syndrome post operation, people dump for all manner of reasons, some dump because of sugar and other dump eating bread, its hit and mis and there's really no way of telling pre op what will make you dump and what wont !

I think that we have all missed a small point here. Mandy has put up a post saying she is excited. She is excited because she has a life changing operation coming up after an absolutely crud year, she is going to have a new start. Some people have then started ripping into her for posting it playing surgeon and pysch because they feel they have a right to. Why doesnt everyone just back off Mandy. She was sharing a moment with those who have been supporting her about how excited she is ... leave it at that for goodness sake. Mandy I'm excited for you. Mark and everyone in support of Mandy well said. Julie

 

[mandyl]

Again Mandy this highlights to me that you really dont understand what your getting into here, Dumping is something you will experience post operation not now, the fact you dont dump before your op has no relation to the fact you may experience dumping syndrome post operation, people dump for all manner of reasons, some dump because of sugar and other dump eating bread, its hit and mis and there's really no way of telling pre op what will make you dump and what wont !

i know exactly what it is thanks IM NOT THICK!! so what if i struggle a bit its not gonna be all easy but as said ive been through worsei wont be eating bread dont really now and ive read and been told what to be careful on .no one knows everything its gonna be trial and error. please do me a favour go away and leave me alone