wanting to concieve

[serenitylove]

how many of you are loosing weight because you want to have a baby , it was the main factor in my desition and for those that are is just weight that causing problems x

 

[ditzyangeluk]

Here! My weight has always been to blame for my infertility - & I couldn't even be investigated because of it! I was pregnant 7 years ago but miscarried. I was told it was "a fluke that I had even got pregnant". They further informed me, at 24stone that I stood a better chance of conceiving if I could onl,y lose 10% of my weight - but I felt even that would not have been good for me, the baby or to be a mother (not that it happened anyway!!)

Well, now I have lost 6stone from that advice so ... bring it on! (Time is ticking, I'm 42!!)

 

[tesmaralda]

i put on weight after 1st due to an under active thyroid developed pcos and was told that unless i lost 12 stone there was no hope of ever conceiving, forgot all about it found a job i loved got another puppy (more lke another baby elephant) bull mastiff, lost 4and half st and hey presto caught for her. so sometimes the drs don't have all the answers. fingers crossed fro both of you

 

[serenitylove]

i had one natural pregnancy at 21st which i do believe was a fluke/miricle and they wont even look at me in fertility clinic till i lost about 8st so a good 1 or 2 yrs off for that! and now i started loosing weight my monthlys have gone bizzare which isnt helping . i now have 4 cats as i get one to curb my broodyness lol tis very hard sometimes x

 

[mintball]

I have one little girl who I live for, but have been trying for a second for 2 years now, unlikely its my weight causung the infertility.

I had an ectopic pregnancy two years ago and had to have one of my tubes removed...not the best of times for us. We will not be considered for IVF even if we pay ourselves until i lose weight and if that can't motivate me to get the weight off then i don't know what can.

Fingers crossed for us all for the future, maybe 2009 is our year x x x

 

[honey-dd]

I have two kids a boy 8 a girl 6 and there the loves of my life well equal to my husband lol so three loves lol

And they are what make me feel incredibly guilty about how i feel

I have a long story not putting it on here its long and boring lol.but lets say after 5 months of trying referred to fertility clinic been in there care 2 years diagnosed with two problems minimal chance of a natural pregnancy but only if i lose weight lol and IVF is my only real choice. but better results if i get my weight off as ill be self funding i see it as better to lose the weight to alleviate problems from one of the problems i have. and if IVF doesn't work or other problem comes on quicker at least iv lost weight i suppose. which is good for my two kids that are here

But i feel guilty as i have the two and should be happy with that when there are so many that haven't got one .But i long to give my husband a child he is a great father and it would be the icing on the cake

that was long but in short yes the wls and TTC where my main reason.frustrating thing is the longer i dont lose weight the less chance i have of getting preg again or IVF working thats why i self funded .

 

[charliegirl]

Serenity/Mintball hope you both get what you are so want and that neither of you has to wait too long, sending big hugs to you both (((((hug))))....docs got it wrong on me years ago saying I had blocked tubes, turns out neither were blocked.....xx

 

[phatgirl]

Hi, I have PCOS and weight loss is the no.1 remedy that doctors talk about. I have tried various times during my 11 year marriage to get pregnant without success. I have been told that the PCOS makes it nearly impossible to get pregnant. So, yes infertility was a big consideration for my surgery.

However my diabetes, hypertension & family history of heart attack were the primary reason I wanted the surgery because that cocktail of diseases would mean a shortened life for me most likely. I am hoping that once I get to my goal and maintain it for 6 months that I will finally be able to have a baby. There is no way my husband & I can afford IVF so it will have to be natural for us or we will adopt.

 

[honey-dd]

Hi, I have PCOS and weight loss is the no.1 remedy that doctors talk about. I have tried various times during my 11 year marriage to get pregnant without success. I have been told that the PCOS makes it nearly impossible to get pregnant. So, yes infertility was a big consideration for my surgery.

However my diabetes, hypertension & family history of heart attack were the primary reason I wanted the surgery because that cocktail of diseases would mean a shortened life for me most likely. I am hoping that once I get to my goal and maintain it for 6 months that I will finally be able to have a baby. There is no way my husband & I can afford IVF so it will have to be natural for us or we will adopt.

PCOS doesn't make it nearly impossible .its a big factor but if you have it you have had it from birth it just doesn't show in all people ,i have had two kids both not planned but i have PCOS and a lot of people with it get pregnant no problem but for some its hard usually because of the extra weight ,and that on its own has a lot to do with PCOS as it makes it hard to lose weight or stay at a stable weight ,so along with the weight and the PCOS your body finds it hard to ovulate and thats where the problem lies

So weight loss is always advised as it reduces symptoms of PCOS and in turn helps bring back ovulation and regular periods giving a much higher chance of pregnancy.You will still have PCOS but it will be significantly reduced with the loss but double edged sword here ,The PCOS helps cause the weight and hinders loss so how do we do it without being drastic to reduce the PCOS very hard and a lot of consultants still have not figured this out ??

i hope you ALL GET WHAT YOU WANT!.Not just two of you ALL of you hopefully with the loss comes a better chance for us all

 

[serenitylove]

I have two kids a boy 8 a girl 6 and there the loves of my life well equal to my husband lol so three loves lol

And they are what make me feel incredibly guilty about how i feel

I have a long story not putting it on here its long and boring lol.but lets say after 5 months of trying referred to fertility clinic been in there care 2 years diagnosed with two problems minimal chance of a natural pregnancy but only if i lose weight lol and IVF is my only real choice. but better results if i get my weight off as ill be self funding i see it as better to lose the weight to alleviate problems from one of the problems i have. and if IVF doesn't work or other problem comes on quicker at least iv lost weight i suppose. which is good for my two kids that are here

But i feel guilty as i have the two and should be happy with that when there are so many that haven't got one .But i long to give my husband a child he is a great father and it would be the icing on the cake

that was long but in short yes the wls and TTC where my main reason.frustrating thing is the longer i dont lose weight the less chance i have of getting preg again or IVF working thats why i self funded .

i understand how you feel i feel so blessed to have one child but it still never stops the longing for another the feeling my familys not complete good luck will do another thread in a year and see how far we have all got with this butit helps knowing other people feeling same way[although dont wish it upon anyone]

 

[Alia]

Hi there

As usual I'm in the minority. I have 6 children. I had my first at 20 weighing around 21 and a half stone, then at 23 I had twins and I weighed around 30 stone and also at 23, just 9 months later I had another set of twins and I weighed around 32 stone.

I was using contraceptive during my first and 3rd pregnancy but despite that I still got pregnant.

After I remarried we decided we wanted a child together and I stopped taking anything and we said if it happens it happens if not then so be it. 4 weeks later I was pregnant :s Weight then was around 28 stone.

My husband would like to have one more but I've put my foot down and said that I was n't prepared to put my self through it until I was a healthy weight as with all my pregnancies I had complications and with the last one I was so ill and most of it was weight related.

I'd love to have a healthy pregnancy and bloom like most ladies do instead of having my head inside the loo 20 hours a day battling constant sickness and being so tired I can't even function.

Maybe some of you might think I'm being greedy already having six but there is 12 years between the baby and the next youngest and I don't want him to be on his own, he needs a little playmate and he is my husbands only child.

There is no doubt in my mind that my pregnancies were very difficult due to my weight but concieving was not an issue and according to my consultant at the time, its quite common for heavier ladies to release more than one egg at a time, leading to twin pregnancies. I ended up with c-sections with all 4 pregnancies, the first an emergency, 2nd planned as I was having twins and I was suffering from pre eclamsia, 3rd an emergency as the placenta came away from my womb (luckily I was already in hospital or both me and my babies could have died from blood loss and we lived 25 miles away from the nearest hospital)and the 4th because my c-section scar had started to tear and my baby again had to be delivered in an emergency, my husband did n't even make it to the delivery as they delivered him so quickly.

Care during my pregnancies was also difficult. Scanning was never accurate as there was too much fat in the way and I was constantly told they could n't guarantee the health of my babies as they were n't able complete the routine checks, and it was hard to know which way the baby was lying etc etc, it was always made very clear that my weight was an issue.

I'm sorry so many of you here have had difficulties concieving but my thoughts are wih you all and hope you get your wishes in 2009

Alia

 

[lottietat]

My main decision to have the op was to be able to have a chance of getting pregnant and being healthy during the pregnancy. My body clock is ticking, and I am 35 and so feel time is of the essence.

Alia - it was good to read your experiences of pregnancy and childbirth as an overweight person, as it has encouraged me to keep losing the weight and then try when I have lost more weight. My consultant has said to wait 12 months after the operation - has anyone else been advised of a similar wait? Did anyone get pregnant before 12 months post op?
Good luck to you all, and a merry christmas & all the best for an exciting 2009
xx

 

[sassyp81]

Hi ladies my and I were told it would be almost impossible for us to conceive naturally due to my weight and I fell pregnant within 6months of stopping contraception. My pregnancy was a struggle with my weight and I did get pre eclampsia and had to have a c section. I am desperate to have another child but Im not sure I could cope with being pregnant and a toddler. If the WLS was not on the horizon I think I'd take the plunge anyway but as it is Im just going to wait it out. I was also told not to get pregnant until 12 months post op. Merry xmas all
Sxxxxxx

 

[weight loss hopeful]

good luck to you all. I hope it all works out for u guys.

I have pcos and I am lucky to have 2 healthy children 1 girl and 1 boy. My family is complete and I love them both very much.

Take care R x