About that 1%

[Rising_Sun]

I'm lusting for wls. I am so ready for the change, the surgery can't come soon enough. I've been 100% on the bright side about the surgery. However, the idea of the 1% risk of sleeping forever is ocassionally creeping up on me. So I've been wondering what everyone has done or is doing to prepare family and loved ones for any such rotten luck. Is it letters, videos or other things or nothing at all. What do people think about this?

Sorry for the morbid content.

 

[IslandBreeze]

I'm not having WLS but I am having an operation under general anaesthetic soon to deal with a stomach and oesophagus problem and these thoughts have certainly crossed my mind even though the op is supposed to have an excellent safety record. I'm thinking of writing a letter for my 1yr old son just in case and also tidying up my paperwork so that hubby can find everything if he needs to.

 

[cazbandy]

My partner and I discussed the risk but the conversation soon turned to what life would be like if I did not take the risk at all.

To be honest I said, I would rather of died now than face the life I could of had.

So within minutes of that conversation, I felt positive again and knew deep down I was making the right choice 100 percent.

And boy am I glad I did.

 

[Toadi x]

my other half knows how i feel but you cant really look on that side of things coz it soon drags you down. I talked bout all this b4 i decided to have the opp but once id weighed up the pros and cons to it and made my decition. once i had made it i decided not to look bk at the what ifs the trick is to stay POSATIVE coz if u keep going down that road its not a great feeling just think bout what your life will be like after!! xXxX

 

[serenitylove]

i went for the band because i couldnt face the mortality rates of the bypass but is still left detailed letters for everyone sobbed my eyes out writing them but as a single parent had to be done

 

[WeightlossWannabee]

I'm lusting for wls. I am so ready for the change, the surgery can't come soon enough. I've been 100% on the bright side about the surgery. However, the idea of the 1% risk of sleeping forever is ocassionally creeping up on me. So I've been wondering what everyone has done or is doing to prepare family and loved ones for any such rotten luck. Is it letters, videos or other things or nothing at all. What do people think about this?
Sorry for the morbid content.

Hi, Plus.
I think it's something most people think about - there's no getting away from the stats. But, when I asked about it at my initial appointment the doc said I was low risk. I've looked through threads on this forum, and lots of people have said that the rate is so high because if someone should die within 12 months of wls then the cause of death is attributed to the wls. It seems very unusual for someone to actually die during surgery.
Although I know the risks are there, I can't let myself think too deeply about it. I think about the surgery in a positive light - if I didn't, I know I wouldn't be able to go through with it. I do hope, though, that in my attempt to keep things in perspective, I'm not underestimating the risks.
I won't be writing letters or anything like that - I just can't allow myself to think that I might not come through it. I know when the time comes for me to have my op I will be scared out of my mind. I just hope I will have the courage to go through with it. I know that it's the right thing to do. Hope you find a way to do what's right for you. xx

 

[Toadi x]

I am the same hun, i am classed as low risk aswell, And as long as u dont underestimate the risks and you have done the research then you come to the decission i dont see the point in keep doubting your dession because if you keep looking at it like that that is what you will end up doing. And the deaths that happen after the surgery has taken place is partly due to there own responsability. As we all know the bypass is a LIFE LONG change and so we MUST NOT niglect the importance of our supliments as these are our lifelines and with out them well....... There is no chance i am guna let that happen. All i can say is as long as u have done your research hun just luck to what your life will be like after the opp. Mine will be a happy life with my kids xXxX

 

[Nic318]

Hi
It's only natural to think of these things are your op approaches. I pushed it to the back of my mind and was really busy in the build up to the op but suppose I felt that I can't carry on living the way I was and I was so unhappy.
The night before my operation I did letters to my loved ones (and cried a lot whilst writing them) but maybe that was my release. On the day itself I didn't really get time to worry about it but I had left the letters at home in a drawer and had just taken one note in my bag with me telling my Mum that I had written letters as I didn't want anyone feeling bad etc. It was totally my decision to have the surgery and thats basically what I put to my Nan who didn't know I was having the op ....... well I thought she didn't but months later she told me she did cos my lovely brother had kind of let it slip on the Saturday before ..... men eh!!!

You will decide yourself if you want to do letters/videos etc to put your own mind at rest.

Good luck hun xxx

 

[thinkbethin]

Hi Plus, I had thought about writing letters to my hubby and kids but I know I can't do it. I think if I sat down and wrote this type of letter it would break my heart and then I know for a fact that I would back out of having the surgery.I want my life back so surgery is the last resort for me as it is for everyone on this forum so I'm only going to look forward,to the new me and leave the if's and but's behind. Everyone is different and will cope with having surgery and the thoughts of the if's and but's in different ways so good luck in what ever you decide.
Take care xx Gaynor xx

 

[FEDup1981]

I dont think i can do it, it would break my heart. Im already scared at the thought of leaving my 3yr old son, that i have to push it away from my mind, and thinkabout what life is like being the weight i am now.

I have asked my hubby to take extra pics of me and my son over the next few weeks, just so he has lots of memories of me.

Its such a hard subject for us - me - i dont think i can write the letter, but if something did happen, id want to explain why i did it, and how much i loved him.

 

[teen]

I didnt even think about it just told Pete to look after Drew if I didnt wake up