Curious??? All by-passers and sleevers

[Badgerpink]

I'm very early on and have my 1st appointment tomorrow. Curious if/ who if anyone you had with you for appointments and the op itself I'm kind of feeling I need to 'go it alone' not because I don't have support but I just feel its a very personal journey but don't know if that's a good idea??? Any one ?? What were your experiences? Jude

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[lyzzyanne]

I had a bypass and the first time my husband came with me was to drop me off at the hospital on the day of the op!!! I was better by myself, my preference.

My immediate family were well aware of what I was doing (apart from my mum who I told the night before!!)

 

[kirstyjade]

My appointments were at derby hospital about 2 hours from where I live, I chose to go alone and I was fine, I felt it was less pressure if I was on my own... Iv got another app with the dietian on Thursday but this time I'm taking a friend but only because the train journey is rather boring when you've nobody to talk to lol
But when it comes to surgery (mines hopefully going to be in june) then I will be taking my mum with me

 

[Eve30]

My husband came with me to most appointments and I couldn't have managed alone after the op as the nurses weren't helpful so he had to help me sit up go to toilet etc.

 

[Samsara]

I am pre-op. I have been attending appointments on my own and I will be going for surgery alone (which I did before when I had my gall bladder removed). It's fine I think it's really down to personal choice though. I find it easier to focus in appointments on my own as I don't have the distraction of someone else and don't have to potentially moderate what I say (for example, the reasons why I might have a weight problem in the first place - very personal). In addition, surgery doesn't phase me at all so I wouldn't want someone there on the day getting all stressed and weepy on my behalf! I think it could be nice to have a visitor in hospital once you've come out of surgery/in recovery depending on how long you are in for. It gets pretty boring and the last time I was in I got next to no sleep due to the others around me and the lights, noise and constantly being woken to have vitals taken :/

 

[Angela1310]

My husband took me to all my appointments. The only one he came in with me for was the one with the Surgeon as he had some questions to ask.
To be honest I could have done it on my own but it would have left him worrying.
Thats married life for you as for support post op he has been amazing!

 

[Badgerpink]

Oh wow it's nice to know it not just me, I have no friends that have been thru this so it's lovely to be able to come hear and ask all those little things you think about. Yeah I think other people's emotions and nerves would probably escalate the situation especially my husbands he get very upset about little conversations about logistics of surgery and after. It's a long way off but all the major things have been addressed now for the little things ....

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[rickysmrs]

My 1st experience over three years ago i went alone and came back swearing I would never go back there............three years down the line Im back with the same team and on full steam ahead with hubby in tow. I personnaly had a bad experience on my 1st appt and didnt want to go through that alone again.

 

[Lincs Lass]

Hi Jude

I went on my own to my appointments and to be honest I preferred that as you could be up and down like a yo yo. Got there, sat down (on the beige chairs - you'll see what I mean :-D ), got up to be weighed by the nurse, sat down, up again to see Rita the dietician, sat down, up again to see Mr Das who I think is one of Mr Ahmed's registrars, sat down, back in to see anaesthetist, back down, sent off to have bloods taken. The journey back to Boston was a rest!

They are really a nice bunch of people (Mr Das is a bit of a damp squib but you may well get to see Mr A. The dieticians are all lovely and the anaesthetist is a real laugh!)

 

[kirstyjade]

Hi Jude

I went on my own to my appointments and to be honest I preferred that as you could be up and down like a yo yo. Got there, sat down (on the beige chairs - you'll see what I mean :-D ), got up to be weighed by the nurse, sat down, up again to see Rita the dietician, sat down, up again to see Mr Das who I think is one of Mr Ahmed's registrars, sat down, back in to see anaesthetist, back down, sent off to have bloods taken. The journey back to Boston was a rest!

They are really a nice bunch of people (Mr Das is a bit of a damp squib but you may well get to see Mr A. The dieticians are all lovely and the anaesthetist is a real laugh!)

Hi lincs lass iv see you said you saw the anaesthetist? I'm also at derby and i never saw one I wonder why?
And I'm from Boston aswell lol

 

[Butterfly38]

Hi badger, I totally see where you're coming from. I'm quite a nervous person and pretty self conscious but I started this journey and made a conscious decision to do it alone!! I too had the support if I needed it but in a way... I felt I had gotten myself into this mess and needed to get myself out!!! Feel I have put my family through enough stress over the last couple of years with weight issues!!!

 

[Ruthiep]

My husband dropped me off at the hospital at 7 the morning of my op, then scarpered as he had to be in synagogue by 8. Other than that I went to all appointments on my own.

A humourous aside, Hubby is a workaholic, and very sleep deprived, and having to be up so early to take me in didn't help. He told me afterwards that in synagogue he had fallen asleep in the middle of the morning prayers. And he was at the "alter" leading the prayers, so standing up!!! That takes some doing :lol:

 

[Badgerpink]

Hi Jude

I went on my own to my appointments and to be honest I preferred that as you could be up and down like a yo yo. Got there, sat down (on the beige chairs - you'll see what I mean :-D ), got up to be weighed by the nurse, sat down, up again to see Rita the dietician, sat down, up again to see Mr Das who I think is one of Mr Ahmed's registrars, sat down, back in to see anaesthetist, back down, sent off to have bloods taken. The journey back to Boston was a rest!

They are really a nice bunch of people (Mr Das is a bit of a damp squib but you may well get to see Mr A. The dieticians are all lovely and the anaesthetist is a real laugh!)

Ow wow thanks for that didn't know what to expect but that's brill thanks Hun xx

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[Badgerpink]

Hi badger, I totally see where you're coming from. I'm quite a nervous person and pretty self conscious but I started this journey and made a conscious decision to do it alone!! I too had the support if I needed it but in a way... I felt I had gotten myself into this mess and needed to get myself out!!! Feel I have put my family through enough stress over the last couple of years with weight issues!!!

Yes that's the nail on the head , thank you x

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[Lincs Lass]

Hi lincs lass iv see you said you saw the anaesthetist? I'm also at derby and i never saw one I wonder why?
And I'm from Boston aswell lol

Mr Das arranged for me to see the anaesthetist to save me an additional trip another time but I think you mentioned that Mr A - or whoever was on - was called away suddenly on your first appointment day? If he hadn't I'm sure they would have sent you to see him then (unless he was on the same emergency).

I believe in that case you will have an appointment to see him at some time to discuss the anaesthetic side of things so they know if you need any additional care plus he can let you know all the tips on how to recover better. I had also seen him at the support group meeting in Louth a couple of weeks before (do you know about them?) and he was lovely so hopefully you'd have the same guy.

I thought you were probably in Boston when I saw you mention the 2 hour train journey. I'm near the Zion Methodist Church and go to Parkside docs

 

[audra]

hiya my son drove me to my appointment's but i always went in alone x

 

[dellymolly]

i did it all alone, not particularly on purpose but im single so im used to doing everything on my own really! there was alot of waiting around at appointments etc so i took my kindle - might have been nice to have someone to chat to but who can take time off work for someone elses hospital appointment these days?! i also went in for my op alone, i had visitors when i come round from the op and my friend works at the hospital so she popped in but mainly i was alone (op on the wednesday went home on the saturday) and it felt fine for me. well as alone as we can be in this day and age with our smart phones lol x

 

[kirstyjade]

Mr Das arranged for me to see the anaesthetist to save me an additional trip another time but I think you mentioned that Mr A - or whoever was on - was called away suddenly on your first appointment day? If he hadn't I'm sure they would have sent you to see him then (unless he was on the same emergency).

I believe in that case you will have an appointment to see him at some time to discuss the anaesthetic side of things so they know if you need any additional care plus he can let you know all the tips on how to recover better. I had also seen him at the support group meeting in Louth a couple of weeks before (do you know about them?) and he was lovely so hopefully you'd have the same guy.

I thought you were probably in Boston when I saw you mention the 2 hour train journey. I'm near the Zion Methodist Church and go to Parkside docs

Iv got an app this Thursday so maybe I'll be seeing him then,
I'm on sleaford road lol so just around the corner from you,
It's a small world

 

[Lincs Lass]

Hi Kirsty

Good luck for Thursday.

There's a support group for people in south/mid Lincs on the 3rd Sunday of each month at Louth hospital - so the next one is 17th. If you fancy going let me know and you can come along with us. There's myself and a friend from Frampton plus this month I may be going via Sleaford to pick up a woman who had her op a couple of weeks back.

(Sorry for the thread hijack!)

 

[ThinnerJemima]

For my band I didn't want my husband at any of the appointments, but he dropped me off at the hospital for the operation, then went to the pub, then came back later.

For my bypass, he knows that it's on the cards at some point, but he doesn't know that it's been booked. My friend is taking me to the hospital and I'm going to phone him when I'm out of surgery.

Works for me as he doesn't need to be reminding me every 3 minutes that I'm going to die and thus doesn't stress me out.

I wish that he'd be more supportive in a positive way, but hey ho, that's never going to happen, so this is the best solution for both of our sanities!!!