phatgirl
New Member
I was reading a blog today from one of my fav American bypass post-ops. She was talking about how the fear of failure post-op is actually a good tool to stay on the path. She said that she never says 'pounds gone forever' because there is always a way to regain. She was talking about the 'will this work' fear we all have. The point being was that we ask the wrong question, it should be 'will I make this work for me'.
So what I wanted to share with all you is that I plan to make friends with the fear. Fear, pull up a chair and stay a while. Fear, I want you to make yourself at home here & everytime I think 'just this once, I'll eat more' or 'that isn't sooo bad since I am only eating a few bites' you smack me and say 'do you want to go back to the old ways when you were fat and unhappy?'.
The strange thing I realized while reading the blog is how we all have 'gotten through' some pretty awful stuff in the past, all those crazy fad diets, pills that made us sick, starving oursleves. We were able to 'get through it' because there was an end in sight. But with wls, there IS NO END. This life is forever, we can't just 'get through it' or it will just become another diet. This has to be forever, a true lifestyle change.
So hug your fear, make friends with it and let it help you along your way.
Nic
So what I wanted to share with all you is that I plan to make friends with the fear. Fear, pull up a chair and stay a while. Fear, I want you to make yourself at home here & everytime I think 'just this once, I'll eat more' or 'that isn't sooo bad since I am only eating a few bites' you smack me and say 'do you want to go back to the old ways when you were fat and unhappy?'.
The strange thing I realized while reading the blog is how we all have 'gotten through' some pretty awful stuff in the past, all those crazy fad diets, pills that made us sick, starving oursleves. We were able to 'get through it' because there was an end in sight. But with wls, there IS NO END. This life is forever, we can't just 'get through it' or it will just become another diet. This has to be forever, a true lifestyle change.
So hug your fear, make friends with it and let it help you along your way.
Nic