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This is me!

Gladys Friday

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I was hoping to have been through the surgery by now but no.

I can remember being on diets from the age of 11. My Mum died when I was 18 months old, my brother was 3 and my sister was 6. My Dad brought us up on his own which an amazing thing to do in the 60s. There was no help for him and we never became involved with social services. My Dad was pretty strict when he was bringing us up because he felt that we could be taken from him at any moment. I was lucky that I was never bullied because of my weight but I can remember my Dad being a bit annoyed because he had to get my new clothes from the teenage part of the catalogue rather than the children's section. My Dad was the type whereby you have to finish what's on your plate. I was a fussy eater and soon learned that a way of pleasing my Dad was to eat all my food. My Dad used to cook for four of us and gave us big portions. He possibly felt that this was the only thing he could do properly as we were very short of money so we couldn't do some of the things other children could do. Mind you, during the summer, he would make up a big box of sandwiches and 3 bottles of watered squash and take us to different beaches most Sundays. As we all started leaving home Dad wasn't very good with portion size so would still cook meals for four until there was, as I was the youngest, just him and I left. I actually didn't know that you could cook baked beans in a saucepan until I joined the RAF. My Dad always fried them! He also fried pork pies! They taste gorgeous but imagine the calories!!!!! I was in the RAF for 7 years as an Assistant Air Traffic Controller and travelled a lot. When I was at one camp we had to have our No.1 uniform (best uniform for parades and when very high ranking officers were visiting) and I couldn't get it done up. They had to have a special measure made. I went on a diet and, after they had received my special measure uniform, they had to take my original one in by quite a bit.

To be continued!!! Battery getting low!!
 
Great read, cant wait for the next chapter!
 
Looking forward to the remainder!
 
Part 2 isn't as interesting as Part 1!

Throughout my time in the RAF my weight yo-yoed. The same as everybody else on here, I would lose lots of weight, feel chuffed with myself and vow I would never get fat again. The weight would go back on plus a bit more. This was my life, feeling proud and giving myself a pat on the back then feel a complete failure and hate the sight of myself.

I loved my basic training in the RAF, which included PT, making bedstacks which involved taking all your bedding off the bed, folding the blankets in a certain way, folding your sheet in a certain way and wrapping the sheet around the blankets in a certain way and placing the pillows on top. If the bedstack wasn't done properly you would return to the block to find, not only the offending bedstacks thrown around the dorm but also your bed and mattress. We had to be on parade outside the block by 0630 to be marched to the mess for breakfast.

The simple things that brought so much joy to us are so funny when looking back. Whist marching around camp we would see these trainees who were a couple of weeks ahead of us. They seemed so experienced! Not only did we see them but we also heard them. They had Blakies (also known as Segs) in their shoes. We were not allowed to put them in our shoes until we had earned the right!! The day we were given permission, the celebrations were akin to those for VE Day! (OK, that is an exaggeration, but we were stupidly happy!) Boy were we happy to march around after that!

At the end of basic training we have a Passing Out Parade which signifies that you are a fully fledged member of the armed forces. Everyone has family members there watching them on parade and then there is a tea party so families can talk to the staff, you can introduce your friends and family to each other and you can say your goodbyes to each other, which is quite difficult after being with them all on what is a very intense six weeks. These girls are the ones you have cried with, bulled your shoes with, ironed your uniform with and girls who have kept you going when you felt like giving up. The camaraderie is so strong you just think you will never have friends like these again.

When we marched to the parade ground on the day of our Passing Out Parade we were so proud of ourselves. My Dad was in the crowd and, whilst everyone was sitting down, my Dad stood up. It was as if he was saying, "it's OK, I'm here". Before this time I had never been away other than to the homes of my siblings. I had never had this freedom as my Dad was very strict. I had been away for 6 weeks so obviously hadn't seen him for that time. We didn't have a phone at home so we had to organise a time for us both to be at a public phone each then he would phone me. This was the only time in my life that I knew, without doubt, that my Dad was proud of me!

There are two wonderful things I have to thank the RAF for. I met my best friend, Karen whom I met on basic training and continues to be in my life now and my husband, Mal, who I met when I was posted to Germany. We celebrate our 31st wedding anniversary on 19th of this month.

Karen came from Scotland and I was from Plymouth so we would never have met in normal circumstances. We have been through the high points and low points of each of our lives.
 
I have now decided to go via the NHS route rather than private.

I have a bmi of 57-63 (different numbers from different agencies). I had an initial appointment last week with a specialist at Truro. I had my weight and height done and spoke to a young man about exercise. I completed a form whilst there as I didn't have an appointment letter. They phoned me the day before to say they had a cancellation.

Not sure what happens next but the specialist said she was going to fast track me. This is because I have had ovarian cancer, have a family history of breast cancer and have been told I have a variant gene but not sure if it is a cancer causing one. Apparently the bigger you are, the more estrogen you make and breast and ovarian cancers are caused by estrogen. You learn something new every day!

Debbie
 
Really enjoying your diary x
 
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