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Who finds it harder to eat around people ?

loughpet

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Hi,

I have noticed that I can eat so much better at home after band . However, when I am at work and sitting with colleagues the food sticks and if in a restaurant or something . Has anyone else had these problems ?
 
Hi, i've eaten in restaurants and it's not been a problem for me! I ate with friends last week and my biggest fear was putting enough food on my plate so i didn't draw too much attention to the fact that i hadn't got much (all my friends know about my op but i didnt want to appear to be drawing attention) and then the big job was not overeating... sounds a bit mad i know, i think i ate a little too much as i had terrible wind and thought i was going to be sick. Ran the toilet (slowly lol) a few times and was bent double on an 'A' road trying to shift the pain a few hours later!

Not looking forward to returning to the staff room at work next week. Am sure the few people that eat early will be looking to see what i have :(
 
Nosey beggers! I think it must be normal for people to be interested, my kids have turned in to the food police, and they are only 12 and 6. They had some pizza tonight while i had me soup, and i was chewing it for them, i could taste the cheese as they were eating it!
 
What food are you eating thats sticking?

What was the exact date of ur op? Should you still be on 'soft'?

I could give better advice if I knew what you were eating! :)
 
Hi,
I know exactly what you mean! Only 2 of my friends know about my band. We went out for a meal 2 weeks ago and i felt that it was very obvious that i was eating slowly, i felt really self concious. It must have shown as the conversation very quickly turned to what i was eating and how slowly i was eating. I talked it thro with my husband and told him how worried i was about going out for a celebration the next week because i was eating so slow. Through our conversation i came to the conclusion that it was me who was hyper aware & self concious, no-one else knows & won't guess what i have had done so i just have to 'act' comfortable with eating slowly and even if anyone notices they probably won't say anything - lets face it it would be pretty rude to comment on the speed of someone's eating. Anyway i went, ate really slowly, looked around and noticed that another 'skinny' woman was eating at the same speed as me and when i realised that all my anxiety dropped away, now i'm planning a weekend away with friends and i shall just eat what and how i am comfortable and put my fork down as often as i need to :D
Hope this helps xx
 
I have always found it hard to eat in front of people coz in my head I think everyone looks at large people eatting and think thats how they got so big. So now I am learning to eat and not to be bothered but it is still hard that voice keeps in my head.

Hopefully over time it will change

Jo
xx
 
this is why mainly at work i eat little things like a few crackers with cheese or jam or a bag of grapes, or i have two brews and if anyone says anything i just say im not hungery or im going out for dinner, ive lost up to 8 stone now so now many dont ask as they know im trying to lose more (they dont know ive had a bypass)
 
I'm always embarrassed to eat in front of people. I just think everyone around me is thinking "Look at her stuffing her face - no wonder she's the size she is!", even if I'm only eating fruit!
No one apart from my husband knows I'm going down the WLS path. I'm just that typical jolly, fat person. I'm ashamed of myself really, I guess. :eek:
 
Lou, there are plenty of us jolly fat people on here! I don't think anyone will say pre op that they didn't feel self-conscious when eating out. We all think everyone is going to watch we eat, how we eat it and if we're having pudding... However, take my word for it, last week when i went out for lunch with old friends and a new one i got my meal from the carvery and sat down with it, not once did i feel eyes boring into me. Not sure if it's cos i felt more confident with my 2 stone weight loss, my clothes were looser and i felt fab, or if it was because i'd only got a childs size carvery (and that would be a small child) and didn't think people weren't looking at me... I did enjoy being almost unnoticed though xx
 
Aww, thanks.
I guess if we didn't have these 'unusual' attitudes to food, we wouldn't have ended up overweight.
I'm hoping my mental attitude changes as I lose weight.
 
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