mandy-1975
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Mandy
Please emanil me on [email protected] or [email protected] so i can talk to you......
Thank you
Mandy
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worried about sister/gastric bypass
- Thread starter Floella
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Thank to those who chatted to me about my sister's op which will be some time soon.
I came on here to put my mind at ease because we are very concerned that a bypass op may not be the right thing for her. I'm not sure if she doesn't listen properly to what they tell her at the hospital or whether she's blocking it out but she seems to know very little about it really when any of us ask. Several of her friends and colleagues have contacted me to say that they have concerns too but don't want to say anything to her, in case they upset her.
It IS major surgery and will be a total shock to her and will be FOREVER. She is going through the menopause and I don't think this helps either. We all know that low self esteem, depression, weight gain and weepiness, feeling hot & bothered etc is all part of the menopause but she thinks it's all down to her being overweight.
Another reason I worry is that another close family member has had major surgery for bowel cancer and has a stoma. Life is ruled by what she can/can't eat and in what quantities and she gets a lot of pain if she eats the wrong things. Gastric surgery hits some people worse than others. My sister HATES having to think about what to eat/cook/shop for at the best of times and even more so when she's trying to eat healthily so I cannot imagine how she is going to eat a healthy, balanced diet when she has her op.
I understand you people on here think the gastric bypass op is wonderful (and I don't want to upset anyone) but I have been looking at the statistics for it and they bother me. They bother me because I have this feeling of despair for her and because she has not been told she MUST have this op but she wants it because she is fed up dieting. She is making it sit right with herself by saying if she doesn't she'll die anyway but she has no health probs.
Oh dear ......... :wave_cry::wave_cry:
I came on here to put my mind at ease because we are very concerned that a bypass op may not be the right thing for her. I'm not sure if she doesn't listen properly to what they tell her at the hospital or whether she's blocking it out but she seems to know very little about it really when any of us ask. Several of her friends and colleagues have contacted me to say that they have concerns too but don't want to say anything to her, in case they upset her.
It IS major surgery and will be a total shock to her and will be FOREVER. She is going through the menopause and I don't think this helps either. We all know that low self esteem, depression, weight gain and weepiness, feeling hot & bothered etc is all part of the menopause but she thinks it's all down to her being overweight.
Another reason I worry is that another close family member has had major surgery for bowel cancer and has a stoma. Life is ruled by what she can/can't eat and in what quantities and she gets a lot of pain if she eats the wrong things. Gastric surgery hits some people worse than others. My sister HATES having to think about what to eat/cook/shop for at the best of times and even more so when she's trying to eat healthily so I cannot imagine how she is going to eat a healthy, balanced diet when she has her op.
I understand you people on here think the gastric bypass op is wonderful (and I don't want to upset anyone) but I have been looking at the statistics for it and they bother me. They bother me because I have this feeling of despair for her and because she has not been told she MUST have this op but she wants it because she is fed up dieting. She is making it sit right with herself by saying if she doesn't she'll die anyway but she has no health probs.
Oh dear ......... :wave_cry::wave_cry:
Hi Floella, I feel your pain totally and i understand too . I have a sister , mum and dad and friends just like you whom i love more than anything just like you do for her. They wonder why i want this and want me to stop it because they worry if i'm blunt that i will die .However i can't say that stats are to be ignored but in every operation its about the person having it. Your sister is healthy, she is well and she has no other health problems and is probably a perfect canditate for an operation. I try to allay my fears to my family but they stare me straight in the face. Today i sit her alive and well
On Monday i go for a Gastic Band operation but i am healthy and have no other health problems that could affect the operation or me to go under anaesthetic ... I'm not naive that of course its a gamble but generally any stats you are reading...if you were to know why they didn't make it...its probably another underlying reason. I just wondered if your sister was able to have a Gastric Band?. Its reversible and if in time ( after 2 years or so) the band was not something that helped control her eating many surgeons will opt to change to the band to a bypass.
I didn't have a bypass because i have been instructed the band will be good for me and achieve the exact same results as a bypass. I'm 5ft 8" and i weighed 20st 5lbs. I love food, I love life and i just want to be healthy. I socialise alot and want the band because its a tool and i work with it. So they only really offer the right type of operation if a person fits the statistics and if they don't ...they cant have it. Does your sister even know about the band option ? Your welcome to talk to me privately if u would like. Maybe get both sides of what operations are available to her.Regards Livvy xxx
On Monday i go for a Gastic Band operation but i am healthy and have no other health problems that could affect the operation or me to go under anaesthetic ... I'm not naive that of course its a gamble but generally any stats you are reading...if you were to know why they didn't make it...its probably another underlying reason. I just wondered if your sister was able to have a Gastric Band?. Its reversible and if in time ( after 2 years or so) the band was not something that helped control her eating many surgeons will opt to change to the band to a bypass.
I didn't have a bypass because i have been instructed the band will be good for me and achieve the exact same results as a bypass. I'm 5ft 8" and i weighed 20st 5lbs. I love food, I love life and i just want to be healthy. I socialise alot and want the band because its a tool and i work with it. So they only really offer the right type of operation if a person fits the statistics and if they don't ...they cant have it. Does your sister even know about the band option ? Your welcome to talk to me privately if u would like. Maybe get both sides of what operations are available to her.Regards Livvy xxx
