Oh gosh no Mixxy, I would never say that nobody should have 'treats', that really isnt my place, I just dont understand why after going through so much to get the new chances, why anybody would want to sabotage themselves like that. Dont get me wrong, I understand wanting to feel 'normal', but when being 'normal' got you to the point of needing something as massively drastic as weight loss surgery, you really do need to redefine what 'normal' is. I am betting that for the majority of people that regain more than a couple of stone after losing it all post surgery, they simply didnt use their new tool to their best ability and they let old habits take over.
We are all only human and as such we make mistakes and we fall down sometimes, but if you go into the surgery and new life in the frame of mind to do all that you can to change things to the way you always wanted them to be. You can want to be 'normal' and eat 'normally' but that is what you have always done and that got you to the point of needing surgery. There is a well known saying...if you do what you always did then you will get what you always got. With that in mind, with the aid of surgery, hit that reset button, dont turn back to the old ways. Use those early 'honeymoon' months to educate yourself about nutrition and new healthier ways of eating.
I know that its not easy and there are a lot of mental and emotionally issues to deal with, but if you can work with your new tool and also work on the mental issues, you can only put yourself in good stead.
Pre-op I was a very weak person around food, I had issues with binging and I had no self control, for example, I could never have just one biscuit, I would eat a whole packet and then want more. I couldnt eat a few squares of chocolate, I would eat an entire family bar all by myself in under fifteen minutes. I tried hard to beat those habits but I always slipped back into them. I would go onto diets and I would be cheating but I didnt see it, it wasnt until my pre-op diet, with the fear of having my surgery cancelled, that I stuck to it and realised just how badly I had done before.
I learnt alot from that and have come into this new life bolstered by my new knowledge and I am absolutely determined not to get back to where I was. I dont eat bread and chocolate and biscuits etc because I am scared of that old weakness, I dont want to know if I can control myself with them now, if I never test it I will never know and I truly dont want to know. All I have to do to stay strong is look at old pictures of myself and remember back to how wretched I felt.
I am by no means at the end of my journey, quite the contrary, I am at the very beginning, this is to be a life long journey and my guard cant drop for even a moment, not if I want to be successful in this life of good health and a slim body (to come).
Sorry, I have prattled on big time there lol
Do try to remember that saying though...'if you do as you always did then you will get what you always got', because its true, in many many aspects of life but definately on this weight loss journey.
Sorry if Ive bored you all lol
Steph xx
P.S...when I say 'you' I mean the figurative 'you', not anybody in particular.
