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Fear
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gaelic girl
Loving Being a Loser
Hi hun its such an emotional roller coaster this weight loss journey. What you are feeling is completly normal at this stage pre op. I'm sure there are lots of people on here who will tell you they were the exact same. I was a bit different of course i knew there were risks but my way of coping was not to believe that anything would go wrong. Try and keep yourself busy when you start to feel anxious, talk to friends( if they know) and come on here, we are always here and i'm sure you will feel reassured through time with all the positive stories you will read on here. Sending you big hugs and i hope you feel less worried soon xx
Grace
New Member
Hi honey Great advice from Allie. I felt the same but not until the last couple of days pre-op. I think you're bound to be scared, not only of the risks of surgery, but also because of the huge life-changes you are about to make.
Feel free to talk about it. A problem shared is a problem halved and all that. But also try to take heart from all the many positive life changing stories on here.
Sending huge hugs. xxx
Feel free to talk about it. A problem shared is a problem halved and all that. But also try to take heart from all the many positive life changing stories on here.
Sending huge hugs. xxx
Katkit1
Not going anywhere!
Hi Zionaka I know exactly where you`re coming from.
I was thinking the worse until only recently.
Then I thought about it logically:
1 Very few people actually die in this type of surgery.
2. I think of the benefits what this surgery will bring me. (i) Weight loss (ii) Being healthier (iii) having more energy (iv) running about with my granddaughter (when she starts to walk, let alone run) (v) coming off or cutting right down on my medication.
3. Bury my head in the sand; ie knowing there is nothing I can do, I have to put myself in the hands of strangers and hope their expertise and care will make me come out the other side ready to take my place on the losers bench.
4. Pray to God that he will hear my prayers and everything will work out good enough for me to have a better future.
You see Zionaka no matter how much you worry you could be in as much danger walking across a street. But common sense guides you to avoid the traffic and confrontation.
Try not to worry hun, not much longer for you to wait channel your energies into something positive such as reading how well others are doing on this site.
Take Care Love Kat x
I was thinking the worse until only recently.
Then I thought about it logically:
1 Very few people actually die in this type of surgery.
2. I think of the benefits what this surgery will bring me. (i) Weight loss (ii) Being healthier (iii) having more energy (iv) running about with my granddaughter (when she starts to walk, let alone run) (v) coming off or cutting right down on my medication.
3. Bury my head in the sand; ie knowing there is nothing I can do, I have to put myself in the hands of strangers and hope their expertise and care will make me come out the other side ready to take my place on the losers bench.
4. Pray to God that he will hear my prayers and everything will work out good enough for me to have a better future.
You see Zionaka no matter how much you worry you could be in as much danger walking across a street. But common sense guides you to avoid the traffic and confrontation.
Try not to worry hun, not much longer for you to wait channel your energies into something positive such as reading how well others are doing on this site.
Take Care Love Kat x
cah-ching
Moderator
Please don't ****hugs**** :hug99:
You'll be OK ... I think we all go through the same fears.
sugga
New Member
Hi you have touched on a subject that has had me in a bit of a state recently. Im sorry i wont be much help to you as i am that stressed by it all that iv not been able to stick to any diet at all in the past 2 weeks. Its all i think about and i feel pysically sick in my stomach. I dont thinks its helped watching all the videos of the surgery, its done my head in. Listen you havent got long to go now and it will all be over and done with soon. I cant even tell you not to worry because you will, but you will heal eventually and you will look fantastic just remember that. Good Luck xxx
J-Mo
New Member
You'll be fine. You're on the emotional roller-coaster I was on last week. But here I am 5 days post op & I feel fantastic. No pain. No problems. Nothing!!
I feel so good in fact I'm sure they've not really done my surgery & its the placebo effect. Ha, ha
If I can do it anyone can!! Trust me
I feel so good in fact I'm sure they've not really done my surgery & its the placebo effect. Ha, ha
If I can do it anyone can!! Trust me
lotsabeefy
New Member
Babe!! its quite normal to be scared, take care it will all be great and your gonna look and feel amazing xxxx
Neen
WLS Moderator
I don't think I know anyone on here who wasn't exactly the same , nervous , having doubts, feeling guilty due to their kids etc...I did too and it's totally utterly part of the ride.
For me it was not just the fear of the surgery but also the fear of what was to come after...I was miserable being so overweight but it was familiar,..I knew what every day was going to bring and I was unhappy but safe.
I promise you, as the others say, you will be fine x
The surgeons do this all the time , day in day out...their reputation is paramount and they are giving you their full expertise and attention because it is in their interests to make you successful.
Let the feelings out and know that this is the bravest, most positive decision you can make because you are taking back control of your life...the surgeons are just the ground crew getting you ready to take flight x
For me it was not just the fear of the surgery but also the fear of what was to come after...I was miserable being so overweight but it was familiar,..I knew what every day was going to bring and I was unhappy but safe.
I promise you, as the others say, you will be fine x
The surgeons do this all the time , day in day out...their reputation is paramount and they are giving you their full expertise and attention because it is in their interests to make you successful.
Let the feelings out and know that this is the bravest, most positive decision you can make because you are taking back control of your life...the surgeons are just the ground crew getting you ready to take flight x
i know if feel the same i keep feeling what if die will people care ,i know my kids would and my partner but what about anyone else ,terriable hey ...we will be ok love xxx
hi how are doing at the mo ,ruth x
argh thanks love its mad how all this makrs you feel so emotional xx
Emma Louise
New Member
Please dont be scared hun.
I know its easy to say but please try.
My bmi was 62 when i went for surgery, my mother had wls surgery that went wrong for her and i was going to a different country to have mine! I got through it by convincing myself i was going on holiday, busyed myself by making lists and preparing myself for surgery. It was only when i got to Czeck and had gone through all the pre-op tests and was left on my own i began thinking about it. I even wrote a letter to my mum incase i died!
But thankfully my surgery went perfect!
Just try and busy yourself, make sure you are in the tip top most condition for surgery.
Good luck hun xxxxxxx
I know its easy to say but please try.
My bmi was 62 when i went for surgery, my mother had wls surgery that went wrong for her and i was going to a different country to have mine! I got through it by convincing myself i was going on holiday, busyed myself by making lists and preparing myself for surgery. It was only when i got to Czeck and had gone through all the pre-op tests and was left on my own i began thinking about it. I even wrote a letter to my mum incase i died!
But thankfully my surgery went perfect!
Just try and busy yourself, make sure you are in the tip top most condition for surgery.
Good luck hun xxxxxxx
angie790
New Member
It is completely normal to be worried about the risks. Personally, without meaning to be flippant, my view was if I pegged it, I wouldn't know about it anyway...but I really tried to focus on the positive aspects of why I was having the surgery & what I am hoping to achieve once I have got to a normal weight. The worst part for me was lying on the table when they were getting me prepared, I felt quite wobbly, but the staff were just so lovely, the anaesthetist was a really lovely, vibrant chap who was explaining very clearly exactly what he was doing & why, I had a lovely scrub nurse who held my hand, & spoke to me all the way through, reassuring me they would look after me etc. I started to feel a bit sick as soon as the anasthetic went in but I went out like a light instantly! I vaguely remember thinking to myself 'Oh, I'm not dead then', when I was coming around in recovery which made me giggle stupidly a bit. Any operation is scary & carries risks, but I have the upmost faith in these staff, they are very professional & exceedingly well-trained & they are all lovely & really do their best - when your time comes you will be very well looked after xxx
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lotsabeefy
New Member
I've got so many things I want to do with my babies LOL
Thats why I'm gonna be ok as will you hun xx[/QUOTE]
And you will do all those things.......thats the best bit when you take them to school and nobody does a double take or says mean things to them about there mummy, for me that alone made it worth while xxxx
Thats why I'm gonna be ok as will you hun xx[/QUOTE]
And you will do all those things.......thats the best bit when you take them to school and nobody does a double take or says mean things to them about there mummy, for me that alone made it worth while xxxx
