Hi all
I'm having my gastric bypass op done in 4 weeks time, but my husband is dead against it. At first his was ok, but now he's changed his mind. He makes it obvious he is unhappy about it, but I don't know why. I thought he would have been happy for me to lose some of this excessive weigtht. He said at first it was because he didn't want to see me getting ill as I suffer from depression and he felt that I wouldn't obsorb all my tablets properly afterwards. I talk to the doctors about this and they siad as long as the tablets are small which they are, there wouldn't be any trouble. Then he said that because I won't be able to eat the foods I want anymore it would really get me down. I have explained to him that it would be different to just being on a diet where you are mentally be conscious not to eat certain foods and that physically I wouldn't want to eat the foods anymore, which I feel is quite different.
I'm being to worry that it is maybe because he is jealous. I think that he thinks that I will lose the weight and then find someone else and I have explained to him that this is not the case. We have been together 7 years and married for 5 years with 3 georgous kids, I don't want to throw all that away.
Mentally though I think this op will do me a lot of good as I will feel a hell of alot better about myself and gain more confidence.
Men you just can't please them. But I want to have the approval of my husband in having this op and for him to be happy about it. What am I meant to do?
Helen
I'm having my gastric bypass op done in 4 weeks time, but my husband is dead against it. At first his was ok, but now he's changed his mind. He makes it obvious he is unhappy about it, but I don't know why. I thought he would have been happy for me to lose some of this excessive weigtht. He said at first it was because he didn't want to see me getting ill as I suffer from depression and he felt that I wouldn't obsorb all my tablets properly afterwards. I talk to the doctors about this and they siad as long as the tablets are small which they are, there wouldn't be any trouble. Then he said that because I won't be able to eat the foods I want anymore it would really get me down. I have explained to him that it would be different to just being on a diet where you are mentally be conscious not to eat certain foods and that physically I wouldn't want to eat the foods anymore, which I feel is quite different.
I'm being to worry that it is maybe because he is jealous. I think that he thinks that I will lose the weight and then find someone else and I have explained to him that this is not the case. We have been together 7 years and married for 5 years with 3 georgous kids, I don't want to throw all that away.
Mentally though I think this op will do me a lot of good as I will feel a hell of alot better about myself and gain more confidence.
Men you just can't please them. But I want to have the approval of my husband in having this op and for him to be happy about it. What am I meant to do?
Helen
