I feel sad...

[FEDup1981]

(sorry - this post is probably going to sound selfish)

I feel sad that my relationship with food has come to an end so quick. I had just 2 days left to eat what i want before i start my pre-op diet when i got my op date through.

Its hard to explain, but id kinda prepared myself for june time, and tho im ecstatic i dont have to wait that long, i kinda feel robbed that i couldnt gradually end my eating habits, especially as i comfort eat alot through my depression and anxiety etc.

Does that make sense to anyone?

Hubby is taking me to pics tonight, and for a meal out, starter, main, and desert!!

 

[thinkbethin]

Hey you, whats wrong with feeling like this?? As you say you comfort eat. Now that your security blanket is going to be taken away ,you yourself feel insecure. You are going to feel like this for a while but you will get back to eating what you like just in smaller portions and healthier food. Think long term and how you won't need to comfort eat half as much because you'll be doing other things that comfort you like going different places and doing different things with Jack.
Take care xxGaynor xx

 

[grom]

I know how you feel! I had to start my pre op diet immediately after seeing the surgeon so didn't have a 'last farewell' but honestly it's not the end of food! You can still enjoy going out and socialising - you just eat different things. I was on anti depressants for years before my surgery and was a real emotional eater, but I have already been able to reduce my medication. You will be fine! Don't deny the feelings you have - it's natural to feel that way - but trust me things will get better!! xx

 

[FEDup1981]

Thank you Gaynor and Grom. I knew people on here would understand. Im prepared for a tough year, so if it goes better than expected, that'll be a bonus. And like you say Gaynor, once im on the losers rd, i hope to be out there doing everything ive found tough in the past.
Gotta make the most of today. McD's for lunch i think, and then meal out tonight, and then Skinny me here i come!! Yipeeee!

Thanks girls!

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

its normal to feel like this as its changing a lifestyle we have lead for many years, food is an addiction, just like alcohol and nicotine, you will be ok and what you feel now is part of the natural process before wls, its like greiving saying goodbye to the old you and part of the old you was food.

liz x

 

[Sambucca]

I totally know where you are coming from hun. I have a good few months yet till my op, but I am keen to start trying to cut back. Before I do though I want to eat all my favourite foods so that I can "get them out of my system".

 

[phatgirl]

I can totally relate to how you feel, I felt the same remorse because I have had a life-long bad relationship with food. I am here to tell you that I still enjoy food. I still have things I love eat & look forward to eating out because I can have something nice (just less of it).

Food is not gone forever & things that you loved are still possible if you plan ahead & make smart choices. You will appreciate the small meals you have all the more because you won't shovel it in at break-neck speeds.

Your comforting friend of food is not gone, your just becoming the boss and you decide what & how much you need.

Nic

 

[FEDup1981]

Thank you everyone. I am grieving for it, like you say. And i know it will pass, im just sad its happened so quick, but maybe thats for the best, i dunno?!

Got my diet sheet letter through the post today, and its only 2 yogurts a day and not 3 like i thought! Arrrghhh!! 3 pints of milk though. Now i just wish 14th would hurry up, cos this diet is gonna kill me!! lol

Oh and i had my last mc d's for lunch!! eeeee!! x

 

[waynetta]

Good luck with the pre op diet chucks. x

 

[hopelesscase]

hey i had a mc d's for lunch the other day i had a latte to begine with then i asked for just the burger and some salad and it tasted so good. couldnt of managed the bread even if i had wanted it.
I cant believe how much i enjoy my food now as i savor every mouthful and make sure that when i eat its tasty food that satisfies.
after you get to day 3 on yr milk diet you wont believe how good you will feel i had milky coffees made with half milk and water spread throughout the day and make sure you drink plenty of water as well.
embrace this pre op diet as yr friend its the last time you will see a diet and it is the start of the new you as without it you may not be able to have yr surgery.
i didnt get my last supper as i had a phone call on the fri befor i had my op on the thursday to say come in for yr pre op checks yr having surgery on thursday. If i had my time over again i would of gone out for an italian of pate, chicken kiev and tiramasu. but dont want my time over again as the taste of loosing weight far outweighs any taste of food.
good luck with everything
hc

 

[margaretmc]

Hi I think the is an awful lot of people turns to food when they are depressed and unhappy I know I do . And I do have to get my head around that when I get my surgery I`ll not be able to do that then . But I hate being fat and I`d be better being thinner for my health .
Good luck hun and take care . I hope you had a lovely time out with your hubby to night .
MARGARET XX

 

[j.u.s.t.l.i.z.]

wls physically makes u face those food demons, if u push them demonds then u get ill, so it puts u off pushing the boundries again after eating "bad" foods.

 

[hopelesscase]

wls physically makes u face those food demons, if u push them demonds then u get ill, so it puts u off pushing the boundries again after eating "bad" foods.

i so agree liz. in fact having had a bypass and knowing i could be ill if i eat the wrong things has so far kept me away from even trying things that have a higher than 5g fat or sugar content.
Im convinced that all i had done was 5 holes punched in my belly anf my head meddled with. the thought of anything sweet just doesnt appeal and every time i open the fridge looking alittle voice asks me if it has any nutritional value. i usually walk away with an orange but really enjoy it. lol

 

[FEDup1981]

Thanks everyone.

These are really helpful and interesting replies. Im looking forward to getting to day 3/4 or better still 10. Day 1 now, and going well - hahhahaha - only been up 20 mins!! Got a milky coffee but leaving my yogurts til im hungry.

Hopeless - you have lost an incredible amount of weight in a short time - and i bet that drives you on. I cant wait to have that feeling - euphoria!

Thanks to you all for your support. Im gonna clock up a thousand posts this week, whinging!!

 

[hopelesscase]

lol you will be fine winge away!!!

 

[fat-girl-slim08]

Its Toatlly normal to feel the way you do, I did, and still do some days, but you will get there.
Good luck with your Pre-Op diet, It will be over and done with in no time and you'l feel so much better. Hang in there x

 

[FEDup1981]

thanks hun xxx

 

[lesleyweb]

you are gonna be fine, its amazing how food just stops ruling ur life and believe me you really do enjoy it more...probably because you savour it rather than ravish it...the pre-op diet really got me prepared and then because you have to go from liquids to sloppy to soft and then normal you are well prepared and satisfied...i am now eating practically what i want, just in smaller portions good luck xxxxx

 

[JOWOOD4]

Hi FEDUP
I am having my op on the 15th April so I too am starting the pre-op today. Lets help each other and everyone else on the road ahead. I'm trying to look forward to things cos i have sabotaged weight efforts in the past by getting into a negative way of thinking. After all we are choosing this - and we could not do it. How would we feel at Xmas again this year if we dont?? I know i am looking forawrd to a little black dress (well smaller than last year anyway!!)
Keep your chin up
Off for a cup of milky coffee
JO XX

 

[charliegirl]

I did not have long from being granted funding to having the surgery so did not have time for the pre op diet but I was told to go out and eat a last meal so I did....the first few weeks are that hardest as you adjust to the different amounts and types of food but after that you will find if you want something you will probably be able to have it but a lot less....however because you chew it satisfies you a lot quicker....the best thing for me is that I can put food in my mouth and no longer feel "guilty" for eating it...I love my bypass and wonder how awful my life would be now without it...not a thought I want to comtemplate for long....you will be fine and a few months down the road you will wonder what all the fuss was about...will be thinking of you chick when you have your op..oh and feel free to whine away thats what the forum is for, the good, the bad and the inbetween...xx