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lol still so confused. what happened with me is similar to you jo. i was sent to wlm (weight loss management) who offered me weight watchers fit bug or dietician. i chose dietician. saw him twice, and on second appt i said iv had enough i want wls. he said that he would have to refere me to that side of things as it is a different thing to wlm. luckily my dietician actually works on wls side of things and was only seeing me because no one else could, so i will still be seeing him in the future. he told me that he meets with the consultant and board (or something like that) lol once a week and that he will let me know what they say about weather im accepted or not. anyway two weeks later i spoke to him and he said they did accept to put me on the weight loss surgery side but i must now wait 4 appt with consultant/specialist and maybe talk about trying meds for pcos etc. so not sure at all as to what will happen from now and if iv even started the long a windy road yet. dont want to get my hopes up then instead of waiting a year like most do, (as iv read) i end up waiting 2 years because of them messing around. all i can think about is having a bypass am beginning to become obsessed with it, even watching videos of it on net (which i really DONT advice to anyone) lol but i couldnt help myself.
the problem i have is that my mum is in a mood with me because this is what i opted for, (grandad had loads of problems with stomach and that added to how he died) and she keeps saying why would i do that to myself and risk that. but im risking it at the moment with the weight im carrying and anyway i am so paranoid i dont go out and suffer from aggoraphobia so i might aswel be dead as i dont have a life.
Surgery i feel is the best option for me but i dont want to upset my mum and really want her to be there with me on this difficult few months/years to come.
have any of you had the same expierence?
and wobblyw please advise on what i have said in first part of this.
so glad we all have eachother on this site it really does help. soz for the essay :O ;)
jess xxxx
 
Hi Jess,
Don't worry about spelling, I use iPhone it checks spelling but also uses predictive text which cab be very annoying.
From the sounds of it we are in a similar place or waiting to hear from hospital. I've not moved on much since I went to dietician in Armley, except to say my GP has heard from Dietician as I got a call to go for blood tests. I did this morning only to find out needed to be fasting blood tests, which they neglected to tell me. So off again on Monday after fast. Seems they want these to go with dieticians report to go to consultant.
In relation to your mum, I haven't told anyone yet, my partners dad recently had his stomach removed after cancer and is struggling with eating. I don't have a clue how he will react, but I am determine he will be the first to know. it's natural that they worry about you and maybe we just need to explain our reasons and give them as much info as we can. I'll let you know how I get on when I tell him.
Chin up, we will get there eventually.
 
What worries me about open surgery is I don't heal very well. Never have but worse since diabetes. It's not the scar, never been a bare all girl. How long have you guys taken to heal?
 
ahhh wobbly they so annoying arnt they so they waste your time grrr. i hate fasting b-tests as i got very shy veins. lol. ye sounds like we r in same place. last time i spoke to diatician he said wait a few weeks and il get letter from surgeon. fingers crossed it is weeks and not months like the nhs usually is.:( ye please let me know what happens with your partner. its not really fair that we have to have the extra stress of worrying what they will think, as its our lives and we will die early if we dont have this surgery. last resort, not the first, which is what most people dont understand. just wish my mum would support it but shes a stubborn woman so im on my own on this one lol. but atleast we all got eachother on here, does really help. must be hard 4 u that no1 knows about what u are doing. kinda wish i hadnt told my mum until a few days before op haha. although she doesnt bring it up just ignores me when i do.
hope u get your appointment soon and the bloods come back ok. xxx
 
Hi WobblyW, I was worried about the open surgery too. The healing time is longer than keyhole. I have a 7-8inch wound down my middle, It has been uncomfortable at times and it's quite red and sore at the moment. I will be glad to have the (35) staples removed next week. I think it should leave a fairly neat scar though.
I was so happy to be getting surgery funded by the NHS and performed by such an experienced surgeon that I felt that having open surgery was worth it. Plus the scar will always be a reminder of my journey!
Jo x
 
Hi Jess,
I am determined to tell my partner this weekend. I have to, need to loose weight, so I need to let my external diet wreckers know, and I do want to let him know first.
The external diet wreckers are the people who offer you sweets, biscuits etc and even though you say no, they keep pushing. Mine are quite nice people who won't make a thing of it the diet, but don't know what they will make of the wls, we will see.

xx
W
 
Hi Jo,

If it's any conselation, my father-in-law, for want of a better thing to call him, has a very tidy scar and it is fading nicely. However, he has not got my pale redhead skin.
 
hi wendy. i hope all goes well with telling him. im sure he will be supportive. :) n i hate those kind of people have u noticed most of them are these skinny types that burn off food so quick it like they want u too be fat :( but im lucky that i spend alot of my time on my own, but saying that im my own worst enemy :(. xxx
 
Hi All,
Well I told him, it was a non event really. He asked me when I put myself forward, he then asked why I hadn't told him before. He then told me he understood and he wasn't worried as he could tell me whereas he felt he couldn't tell his dad (he tells me to tell his dad things, must admit his dad tends to listen to me too). Then he asked about op etc and that was it. Simples! Now to tell my daughter, shouldn't be an issue cause her best friend had it and she has been very supportive with her!

Xx
W
 
awww wendy im so pleased for u :) yay. atleast all went well and i bet thats a weight off your shoulders.
i mentioned it again to my mum and she said she doesnt want to hear another word about it, and how annoyed she is with me for even considering it. im determined not to let this get me down or put me off as she will see after why i have done it. only problem with me is i have moved nearlly 200 miles away from them and i dont really have anyone to look after me after iv had the op so am on me own (literally) but oh well these are the things we have to do to feel healthy and beautiful again. just hope im ok when i come home.
once again chick am so pleased hes ok with it. now all we need is to get a bit further into our journey and closer to the day that will change our lives forever.
xxx
 
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