Food is the centre of our world isn't it, it's love, it's pleasure, it's the social experience. WLS does not mean you'll never enjoy these aspects ever again.
Realistically if you are wanting the surgery you need to expect that you can't continue in the same habits. So yes you can have dinner parties but no you won't do 3 courses of big portions and a couple of bottles of wine anymore. It doesn't mean you won't enjoy the social aspect of it. But surely that's the point of the surgery, to stop the over indulging. The further from surgery you get out, the easier this becomes.
I've been out for meals and really enjoyed it post surgery. I went out for my anniversary with dh about 7 weeks post op. We got a sharing platter from the mexican street food place we both love. I picked at a few bits and he got to dive right in. I didn't look silly and he didn't miss out. It was nice.
I've made a couple of excuses if the people I'm with don't know about the op. I'm feeling a bit hungover, I'm not that hungry tonight etc etc but honestly I've just enjoyed it. Make wise menu choices. So maybe have a drink in place of a starter, then your main, and coffee instead of dessert. You're putting something in your mouth at the same time as everyone else and makes it not as noticeable.
Your husband is a grown up and can make his own food if you don't feel like cooking. There will probably be periods early on whilst that's the case. I've always loved to cook and WLS hasn't stopped me enjoying the process as a whole especially now I'm further out. In the early weeks I did easy meals for the children and just took care of my own needs. I didn't feel much like cooking then but I do now.
At 5mths out it's just the norm again to cook and serve my small portion. I've had dh's and my youngest daughter's birthdays this weekend. They had pizza hut on Friday night to celebrate. I had a piece of garlic bread with cheese. I made dh & I a lovely Camembert bake on Saturday night and had a glass of wine. A full English brunch on Sunday (my side plate wasn't very full that's all). Yesterday I indulged in a small slice of birthday cake which my eldest daughter (aged 10) had made for her sister. Today I've got a chilli bubbling away in the slow cooker. I don't feel I've missed out at all in the food side over the weekend. I've just enjoyed small, sensible amounts and fitted it into how I eat now. And I've still enjoyed cooking it and feeding my family.
I can honestly say the times I feel like what did I do to myself were limited to the first few days and an occasional sadness. I've not felt it for ages. I just feel great that I don't have to battle with food all the time. I feel full and that feels great. First time in my life that small portions are satisfying. I don't ever remember a time in my life when hunger wasn't the dominating feeling except now and that feels so, so good.
It's fabulous that you're processing all these thoughts prior to surgery. They are normal thoughts to have
