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Starting to freak out!
- Thread starter Lozer
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femfrankie
Shrinking For Sophie
Note down your questions/concerns so that you can put them to the surgeon at this appointment. Also make a list if pros and cons hun of what you think this surgery means to you. Involve your hubby in this if you feel comfortable to do so but ultimately the decision is yours to make .. It's your life and your body. I'm fortunate in that hubby was with me every step of the way and I was never in any doubt. Good luck hun xx
los in it
Well-Known Member
hey lozer!
its ok to have some fears about making your dream real.think back to the time when YOU decided enough was enough and it was time for a big change in your life......has anything changed ? I guess the reason for making such a decision has not changed or you wouldn't have carried to the point of meeting the surgeon next week. keep that thought in your mind .like Frankie said make notes ,write your concerns down and talk it over with those important to you.think to yourself
if I decide NOT to go ahead will I be happier for not going ahead or
go ahead change your life (hopefully)for the better and be a happier person
just some food for thought
good luck.
its ok to have some fears about making your dream real.think back to the time when YOU decided enough was enough and it was time for a big change in your life......has anything changed ? I guess the reason for making such a decision has not changed or you wouldn't have carried to the point of meeting the surgeon next week. keep that thought in your mind .like Frankie said make notes ,write your concerns down and talk it over with those important to you.think to yourself
if I decide NOT to go ahead will I be happier for not going ahead or
go ahead change your life (hopefully)for the better and be a happier person
just some food for thought
good luck.
elo.dont despair.i got my funding in feb.i went for my second app with consultant last Wednesday 20th nov.i have only just gone on the waiting list.i had to do the sleep apnea for nearly 3 months which was soul destroying.i had everything planned.right down to the spoons,blender I spent so much time on diet.and then the sleep apne.i am now awaiting pre op and then maybe a date.you take care I was there.things will move.and when they do they will move quick.susan
fjsinc
Active Member
I can only echo what others have said. Pinpoint your concerns, ask the questions of yourself. How will you feel if you dont go ahead? Will you be able to continue to loose weight without the surgery looming? Are you confident you will maintain?
I want to tell you that I never wanted to have the surgery, I wanted to do it on my own. I was full of doubts and fears, so many things to go wrong, so many changes to contend with. As I walked to the operating theatre I still felt the same.
I made the decision to have the surgery because I knew it was my best chance of a long and healthy life, because in my heart of hearts I knew I couldn't do it on my own.
So I'm 9 months post op, and nearly 9 stone down. A size 16, and all indicators are that I'm no longer sub-fertile. And you know what, the changes you have to make are manageable. I eat what I want, I enjoy my food, I socialise in just the same way as before. I'm not saying its not hard, its blooming hard, and those first few weeks you wonder what the heck you've done. But I do not regret it, not for one minute - and I never have since I woke up in the corridor between theatre and recovery (the nurses said I was a live one, lol).
I want to tell you that I never wanted to have the surgery, I wanted to do it on my own. I was full of doubts and fears, so many things to go wrong, so many changes to contend with. As I walked to the operating theatre I still felt the same.
I made the decision to have the surgery because I knew it was my best chance of a long and healthy life, because in my heart of hearts I knew I couldn't do it on my own.
So I'm 9 months post op, and nearly 9 stone down. A size 16, and all indicators are that I'm no longer sub-fertile. And you know what, the changes you have to make are manageable. I eat what I want, I enjoy my food, I socialise in just the same way as before. I'm not saying its not hard, its blooming hard, and those first few weeks you wonder what the heck you've done. But I do not regret it, not for one minute - and I never have since I woke up in the corridor between theatre and recovery (the nurses said I was a live one, lol).
princess4d4
Active Member
i dont think anyone would be normal if they didnt have doubts at some point in the process i know i have as have many others you have to do what is right for you and no one else list the what if's down what if i do and what if i dont as for support maybe hubby has doubts for other reasons you need to ask him why you feel he is not supporting you i had to do this with mnine i took him out away from the house and distractions hope this helps some and goodluck
Rainbow1233
New Member
I think the Main thing is having lack of support from loved ones. Talking from personal experience, My partner is against me having my pypass too. It's a horrible feeling of having to go through this on your own. How ever I am going to do this on my own or not for my sake.
Good advice from others.. Do as much reading up as you can and speak to others who have had it done. Once you have spoken to your surgeon hopefully he will put your mind a rest a bit. I know when I'm feeling a bit wobbly I look at all the amazing before and after pics. Good luck
Good advice from others.. Do as much reading up as you can and speak to others who have had it done. Once you have spoken to your surgeon hopefully he will put your mind a rest a bit. I know when I'm feeling a bit wobbly I look at all the amazing before and after pics. Good luck
Had my surgery 3 weeks ago. I could not ask for things to have gone any better. Did I have moments of doubt of course. Loved ones sometimes are scared for us going under such major surgery. Try to involve yr husband in every step let him accompony you to doc so hecan voice his concerns. Good luck my dear.
princess4d4
Active Member
have to say my hubby attends all my appointments with anyone be it doctor or just dietician to get weighed he did go to birmingham with me to meet the surgeon but im not sure he fully understands exactly what is involved
femfrankie
Shrinking For Sophie
That's great lozer.. Mine has been with me at every app. I can't say he understands all the aspects of the surgery but I appreciate his support ..Hopefully your man will see and hear why this decision is an important one that you need to make FOR YOU.
