I am generally quite a positive person and understand that the creeping doubts are completely normal, but I can't seem to shake this slightly despondent feeling that maybe I'm doing the wrong thing - let me explain.
To date I have told my mum, sisters and two friends that I have booked in for a band op on Jan 7th. So far the reactions have really surprised me - all were (understandably) taken aback, but ultimately very supportive, which I've been very grateful for. Today I told my closest friend from my ex-workplace... and the reaction was very different & it has touched a nerve.
Over the years we have shared many weight & food-related ups & downs, are aware of each other's struggles and feelings about our self images. So today I was passing her office, and managed to grab five minutes with her to tell her about the impending surgery. Her reaction was essentially denial and pleading me to re-think, e.g. 'You don't need to do this / it's so extreme / I've heard so many horror stories about it / please thinks of all the risks / we can do this together / let's focus on this and help each other in 2012 so that we can support each other / give it a year and then reassess' etc. She wants to see me between Christmas & new year to discuss it further (i.e. talk me out of it), which I am resistent to, if only because there are way too many temptations for me when out & about, and I don't want to risk breaking my pre-op diet, which starts Christmas eve.
Anyway the whole thing left me on a real downer, and now I really am beginning to doubt whether I'm doing the right thing. She is not one of those jealous friends (you know those who secretly don't want you to be happy or slim as it makes themselves feel better)... I am good enough friends with her & have faith in our friendship enough to know that her reaction and promise of support is completely born from a genuine desire to help and from her natural fears re: facing the risks of surgery.
I really want this & feel prepared (have definitely tried to find out as much information as I can about potential risks), however I am now wondering if she is right, and if WLS is perhaps too extreme an option, perhaps I should give it the year she suggested & see where I am. To be honest, if my mum had reacted in that way when I first sounded her out about WLS (after my research but prior to consultation / booking), then I would have taken it on board and perhaps not have proceeded (or approached it again later), out of respect for her wishes.
I spent my 20s unhappy with my weight and don't want my 30s to be the same, but have I really, truly tried every other option, given them my all?? I honestly don't know that I have. Really sorry to have rambled on but this is all so confusing.
To date I have told my mum, sisters and two friends that I have booked in for a band op on Jan 7th. So far the reactions have really surprised me - all were (understandably) taken aback, but ultimately very supportive, which I've been very grateful for. Today I told my closest friend from my ex-workplace... and the reaction was very different & it has touched a nerve.
Over the years we have shared many weight & food-related ups & downs, are aware of each other's struggles and feelings about our self images. So today I was passing her office, and managed to grab five minutes with her to tell her about the impending surgery. Her reaction was essentially denial and pleading me to re-think, e.g. 'You don't need to do this / it's so extreme / I've heard so many horror stories about it / please thinks of all the risks / we can do this together / let's focus on this and help each other in 2012 so that we can support each other / give it a year and then reassess' etc. She wants to see me between Christmas & new year to discuss it further (i.e. talk me out of it), which I am resistent to, if only because there are way too many temptations for me when out & about, and I don't want to risk breaking my pre-op diet, which starts Christmas eve.
Anyway the whole thing left me on a real downer, and now I really am beginning to doubt whether I'm doing the right thing. She is not one of those jealous friends (you know those who secretly don't want you to be happy or slim as it makes themselves feel better)... I am good enough friends with her & have faith in our friendship enough to know that her reaction and promise of support is completely born from a genuine desire to help and from her natural fears re: facing the risks of surgery.
I really want this & feel prepared (have definitely tried to find out as much information as I can about potential risks), however I am now wondering if she is right, and if WLS is perhaps too extreme an option, perhaps I should give it the year she suggested & see where I am. To be honest, if my mum had reacted in that way when I first sounded her out about WLS (after my research but prior to consultation / booking), then I would have taken it on board and perhaps not have proceeded (or approached it again later), out of respect for her wishes.
I spent my 20s unhappy with my weight and don't want my 30s to be the same, but have I really, truly tried every other option, given them my all?? I honestly don't know that I have. Really sorry to have rambled on but this is all so confusing.