emma&alex
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Im really angry with my boyfriends mum at the moment. Almost to the point where I want to refuse to go and visit her anymore. She is such a rude woman & I'm sick of feeling belittled & spoken down to.
The very first time I met his mum, I was pregnant with out little boy, and she said 'have you always been so fat or is it with pregnany'. I could have burst out crying there & then, and I had to use all my self control to say 'yeah, I've always been fat..have you always been such a rude b****?'. I wouldn't mind so much if she wasn't quite fat herself though...thats the funniest thing!
She has always said things like (and this is way pre surgery) 'I've put a smaller portion out for you Emma, because you should probably be cutting back' or equally as annoying things. She says things people probably think, but they seem to have a filter in their head of things that should pass their lips...& she really doesn't.
She told richards sister as a child she was 'very plain, and getting quite chubby...she'll never find a boyfriend', she was about 12 at the time, and since about the age of 14, richards sister has struggled with eating disorders, she has been hospitalised with anorexia & still now, at the age of 32 struggles a lot with eating & her self image. She honestly doesn't see any connection about what shes said & makes comments about her being 'pathetic looking' & 'less than a bean pole'. she also tells her shes got a huge nose & a drawn in face. she just really is a rude nasty woman.
Anyway, telling her I had gastric band surgery was just a huge worry because shes so over opinionated & small minded..I was just dreading it.
I made richard do it ahha...but anyway, since shes found out, thats it.
She really thinks I should be ashamed, and shes amazed I talk about it openly & freely with people.
We went away to Spain a few weeks ago, and the whole time she made comments about what I should & shouldn't be eating. Seriously, every time I picked something up, she said 'should you be having that emma?'..actually to the point where in the end I said over the dinner table quite loud 'THE NEXT PERSON TO QUESTION WHAT IM EATING WILL GET A PLATE FULL IN THEIR FACE' i know its quite rude, and I wouldn't normally let myself get so worked up...but she really was just chipping away at me. She kept telling me my portion size was too large, and everyone was having 'socking great amounts of food'....the funniest thing was, I was making healthier choices, I was sharing every meal I ordered with my son, and we were still leaving a lot on our plate. Again, whats hilarious is she didn't seem to realise she was ordering the exact same amounts as everyone else..she swapped her dessert for a coffee a few times..but still ended up eating bits off everyone elses plate. I really wanted to tell her she didn't get so big eating like a sparrow, and to mind her own business, but I just kept it bottled in. She kept telling me I must have 'bags of confidence for getting into a costume'. It wasn't like she was being nice though, she had to tell me every time I did it, I told her I had to get into a costume to go swimming, which will healp my weight loss...so at least im doing something.
about it.
The final blow was last night, she phoned up to have a catch up, and told me she doesn't think the band is working for me (she hasnt seen me since we came back). I told her I knew I needed another fill whe we were away, but I was still not able to eat anything like the amount i could do before. She said that it was rubbish & I was eating far to much on holiday. I was so angry, I told her she needs to keep an eye on what she eats herself instead of commenting on other peoples diet, and the fact is i LOST 4.5lbs the week we were away, so I couldnt have over eaten that much.
I came off the phone so angry, and I was venting it a little bit to richard, which I try not to do really, cos after all it is his mum. He told me on holiday that he was getting annoyed with her because every time I stood up & moved away from the table she was making comments about what I was/wasnt eating & telling everyone to keep their eye on me.
'im surprised you allow her to have cocktails, she is trying to lose weight after all' she said to him one night.
All I get from richard is 'you know what shes like'. yeah i bloody do know what shes like, and I'm sick of it! I'm honestly not having it any more. If he makes me go back to visit her we will be arguing constantly. I've bit my tongue for 3 years now, and Im not doing it any more. Shes a nasty woman & for someone who is meant to be so well educated, she lacks a lot of social skills.
I am really really angry now! I could scream.
haha
sorry for that huge rang guys.
i really cant vent at richard like i want to, because i dont want him to be put in an awful situation.
The very first time I met his mum, I was pregnant with out little boy, and she said 'have you always been so fat or is it with pregnany'. I could have burst out crying there & then, and I had to use all my self control to say 'yeah, I've always been fat..have you always been such a rude b****?'. I wouldn't mind so much if she wasn't quite fat herself though...thats the funniest thing!
She has always said things like (and this is way pre surgery) 'I've put a smaller portion out for you Emma, because you should probably be cutting back' or equally as annoying things. She says things people probably think, but they seem to have a filter in their head of things that should pass their lips...& she really doesn't.
She told richards sister as a child she was 'very plain, and getting quite chubby...she'll never find a boyfriend', she was about 12 at the time, and since about the age of 14, richards sister has struggled with eating disorders, she has been hospitalised with anorexia & still now, at the age of 32 struggles a lot with eating & her self image. She honestly doesn't see any connection about what shes said & makes comments about her being 'pathetic looking' & 'less than a bean pole'. she also tells her shes got a huge nose & a drawn in face. she just really is a rude nasty woman.
Anyway, telling her I had gastric band surgery was just a huge worry because shes so over opinionated & small minded..I was just dreading it.
I made richard do it ahha...but anyway, since shes found out, thats it.
She really thinks I should be ashamed, and shes amazed I talk about it openly & freely with people.
We went away to Spain a few weeks ago, and the whole time she made comments about what I should & shouldn't be eating. Seriously, every time I picked something up, she said 'should you be having that emma?'..actually to the point where in the end I said over the dinner table quite loud 'THE NEXT PERSON TO QUESTION WHAT IM EATING WILL GET A PLATE FULL IN THEIR FACE' i know its quite rude, and I wouldn't normally let myself get so worked up...but she really was just chipping away at me. She kept telling me my portion size was too large, and everyone was having 'socking great amounts of food'....the funniest thing was, I was making healthier choices, I was sharing every meal I ordered with my son, and we were still leaving a lot on our plate. Again, whats hilarious is she didn't seem to realise she was ordering the exact same amounts as everyone else..she swapped her dessert for a coffee a few times..but still ended up eating bits off everyone elses plate. I really wanted to tell her she didn't get so big eating like a sparrow, and to mind her own business, but I just kept it bottled in. She kept telling me I must have 'bags of confidence for getting into a costume'. It wasn't like she was being nice though, she had to tell me every time I did it, I told her I had to get into a costume to go swimming, which will healp my weight loss...so at least im doing something.
about it.
The final blow was last night, she phoned up to have a catch up, and told me she doesn't think the band is working for me (she hasnt seen me since we came back). I told her I knew I needed another fill whe we were away, but I was still not able to eat anything like the amount i could do before. She said that it was rubbish & I was eating far to much on holiday. I was so angry, I told her she needs to keep an eye on what she eats herself instead of commenting on other peoples diet, and the fact is i LOST 4.5lbs the week we were away, so I couldnt have over eaten that much.
I came off the phone so angry, and I was venting it a little bit to richard, which I try not to do really, cos after all it is his mum. He told me on holiday that he was getting annoyed with her because every time I stood up & moved away from the table she was making comments about what I was/wasnt eating & telling everyone to keep their eye on me.
'im surprised you allow her to have cocktails, she is trying to lose weight after all' she said to him one night.
All I get from richard is 'you know what shes like'. yeah i bloody do know what shes like, and I'm sick of it! I'm honestly not having it any more. If he makes me go back to visit her we will be arguing constantly. I've bit my tongue for 3 years now, and Im not doing it any more. Shes a nasty woman & for someone who is meant to be so well educated, she lacks a lot of social skills.
I am really really angry now! I could scream.
haha
sorry for that huge rang guys.
i really cant vent at richard like i want to, because i dont want him to be put in an awful situation.
Easier said than done, I know, but you dont deserve this hun, you are doing your very best to improve yourself and the last thing you need is some beastly woman dragging you down at every turn...........Good Luck (HUGS) XX
