natashoorrr
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Hi all. This isn't entirely weight related but looking for some honest opinions.
I have been with my boyfriend for over three years now and I am looking for a commitment. He keeps saying he wants to get a house together but not until I'm debt free and I can drive. He keeps calling me Mrs Wilson (as in his surname) and talking about things I would like at 'our' wedding.
It has now got to the point where I am mere few months away from being debt free and on the brink of starting my driving lessons and I think reality has kicked in for him because he is being increasingly difficult.
His main goal in life is to join the police which I really admire (nothing sexier than a driven man) but despite various opportunities to apply - He only seems to want to join his home county's force (Northants) and stay where he is. This wouldn't normally be an issue except for the fact that the idea is, he would join a force closer to me (Derbyshire/Staffs) so that we could buy a house. I am on a pretty good wage and the perks of my job are such that I get to travel to various places for free (India, France, Italy to name a few).
He has also become a little jealous I suppose of the fact that I will be having surgery, since our relationship we have both inevitably put on pounds. Although mine totals around a stone - His is closer to 5. I put this down to him liking to finish peoples dinners and living off take aways.
He has mentioned a few times that when i'm really skinny I am going to leave him and or he will be the fat one and I won't love him like I do now.
To top it all off, I recently took him to Paris for the first time because he has never been and because of the op we can't really go on hols this year. We'll one afternoon he was feeling a bit peckish tut I really wasn't so he nipped to the McDonalds at the end of the road. THREE HOURS LATER he returned and said he'd bumped in to our tour manager and went for a few glasses of wine with him. I text him asking where he was and he just said "in the bar with Andy xx" no invite or anything like that and came back as if nothing had happened.
In all seriousness, I am losing my confidence in the relationship. To begin with his was this ambitious, responsible, decisive, funny guy. I knew I wanted to marry him, have children with him and build a life together. I KNOW I want to be a better version of myself - Thinner, successful, ambitious etc.
I don't want people to think I'm feeling this way because I'm holding out for somebody else. This genuinely isn't the case - I just feel like I deserve someone who is willing to put the same amount of effort in as I am. I don't want to be the girlfriend who is waiting 10 years for something that is never going to happen. Surely if he wanted it that badly he would have asked the question or tried to take this to the next level.
He will be the one that misses out when I am f**king gorgeous and he is sat at home alone shredding his receipts.
I have been with my boyfriend for over three years now and I am looking for a commitment. He keeps saying he wants to get a house together but not until I'm debt free and I can drive. He keeps calling me Mrs Wilson (as in his surname) and talking about things I would like at 'our' wedding.
It has now got to the point where I am mere few months away from being debt free and on the brink of starting my driving lessons and I think reality has kicked in for him because he is being increasingly difficult.
His main goal in life is to join the police which I really admire (nothing sexier than a driven man) but despite various opportunities to apply - He only seems to want to join his home county's force (Northants) and stay where he is. This wouldn't normally be an issue except for the fact that the idea is, he would join a force closer to me (Derbyshire/Staffs) so that we could buy a house. I am on a pretty good wage and the perks of my job are such that I get to travel to various places for free (India, France, Italy to name a few).
He has also become a little jealous I suppose of the fact that I will be having surgery, since our relationship we have both inevitably put on pounds. Although mine totals around a stone - His is closer to 5. I put this down to him liking to finish peoples dinners and living off take aways.
He has mentioned a few times that when i'm really skinny I am going to leave him and or he will be the fat one and I won't love him like I do now.
To top it all off, I recently took him to Paris for the first time because he has never been and because of the op we can't really go on hols this year. We'll one afternoon he was feeling a bit peckish tut I really wasn't so he nipped to the McDonalds at the end of the road. THREE HOURS LATER he returned and said he'd bumped in to our tour manager and went for a few glasses of wine with him. I text him asking where he was and he just said "in the bar with Andy xx" no invite or anything like that and came back as if nothing had happened.
In all seriousness, I am losing my confidence in the relationship. To begin with his was this ambitious, responsible, decisive, funny guy. I knew I wanted to marry him, have children with him and build a life together. I KNOW I want to be a better version of myself - Thinner, successful, ambitious etc.
I don't want people to think I'm feeling this way because I'm holding out for somebody else. This genuinely isn't the case - I just feel like I deserve someone who is willing to put the same amount of effort in as I am. I don't want to be the girlfriend who is waiting 10 years for something that is never going to happen. Surely if he wanted it that badly he would have asked the question or tried to take this to the next level.
He will be the one that misses out when I am f**king gorgeous and he is sat at home alone shredding his receipts.