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Public announcement?

Ana_RW

Ana_RW

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Only a few people know about my journey and my date for wls. I have however been doing a public countdown on facebook and a few people have asked what's going on. The few who know have been liking the status and putting little comments but not giving anything away. So I'm wondering about putting a status about what I'm going to be doing monday?
Say tomorrow night I announce it as a status? Maybe I'm being a bit of an attention seeker lol. Just wanted to get your thoughts on this?
 
Personally I wouldn't announce it publicly. I've told the people I need to tell. But everybody is different. If it makes you feel better by publicly announcing it, go for it :)
 
I've not hidden it from anyone, I'm not ashamed or embarrassed, the way I see it, I'm taking control of a situation which I had let run out of control.
If anyone says anything negative to me they'll get a proper earful! This wasn't an easy choice for me and I'm guessing not for you either.
Lots of luck with whatever you decide to do and lots and lots of luck with your op.
Em xxxxx
 
I told everyone xx

from me phone :D
 
Ive been like you with fb people wondering what's going on and might do the same as you either the day before or on the day of the op so noone can try make me back out lol my family and close friends know and all support me and thats all I really need well them and you lot obviously :) but yeah I might do what' you said :p xxx
 
Get it out in the air that way post op they can help congratulate you and spur you on! Nothing to be ashamed of at all x
 
tbh I would never ever announce on facebook. I would talk to all my close friends face to face so that they felt they could ask me any questions. Once the people who I wanted to know knew I would tell others via facebook.
 
See now this not telling people is obviously a woman thing, but i can tell you now that i told everyone part of being honest with myself was making sure that i didnt lie about my weight loss struggle to anyone else, and everyone including people i didnt expect have been really supportive, i find that people are reluctanat to tell people for fear of being ridiculed or judged, but that is just a sign of jealousy towards your assertiveness and strength towards your goal, these "bullies" have nothing in their lives than the bullshit they cause everyone else yet you have everything to look forward to, so i say let them ridicule and watch how many people come to your defence, respect is not easily earned but i know that my strength has earned me respect and pride among my friends and family, good luck xx
 
I agree with Stubad xx it's more important to be healthy than a few people put you off and if they don't like it then they didn't like you in the first place xx make the people who matter know they matter by doing what's best for you and them xx
 
Don't misunderstand me, I did tell everyone! but I told them to their faces and I have had almost no negativeness. In particular, someone who normally is very negative about surgeries like this supports me wholeheartedly because I talked to her about it.
I think its too easy to say something spiteful on facebook or for it to be misconstrued.
 
I agree just be careful of Facebook. How about just an announcement taster like
'Today is the first day of the rest of my life - watch this space!'.
 
It's all very well saying "let them ridicule", but if that's going to hurt you and make your life miserable, then keep quiet. Everyone has their own reasons for telling or not telling, and we all have different levels of coping, and a lot of it is dependent on what the people around you are like, and if you have support generally in life. I have no family apart from a sister who resents my op cos she's big but not brave enough to do anything about it, and only two friends, neither of which live in my part of the country, so would have no backup if someone got nasty with me. It's easier to be brave if you have people around you to cushion you from abuse and ridicule, but if not, then sometimes it's safer to keep quiet. Just my opinion.
 
That's very true Snagglepuss and I did already have a very good base of support to retreat to if someone did get nasty.
 
well in my case all the people i told were friends, new and old and relatives, and as for anyone else well if they are not friends they are not on my facebook so its kinda not an issue, be brave girly from the start, because if u dont tell people and you lose 7 stone in 4 months which is very likely then people will just start rumors about what you have had done, and thats much worst than them knowing the truth from the start, you have nothing to hide about the life decisions u make so be strong
 
be proud of ur pouch
 
Wow! Thankyou all so much for your input! A lot of excellent reasons for and against - which has not made it any easier lol!
I understand both sides, I have a ridiculous amount of "friends" I dont know - i followed the trend of adding everyone and anyone :rolleyes:
People are going to wonder how I lost the weight so soon seeing as I have been a very big girl my whole life, a few will know. I dont know if anyone here knows or remembers from a previous post my so called best friend of 10 years who I let go because of her lack of support and I actually found out she was 'hiding' nasty comments about my size on pictures and posts on facebook including " f*****g HUGE, Makes shrek look slim" and similar - I'm sure she has spread it about a bit about my decision to have wls although I was never 100% honest with her after she showed her true colours, I presume she thinks I'm still in the process of applying - her mum had applied and was denied saying she needs to show weight loss over the next 6-12months so she presumed I wouldnt be successful either.
This has an inpact on my decision or not to publicly announce it - rather than the whispers like Stu said would start once I lost weight rapidly. I like the idea of support and attention from others but I dread the maliciousness from others. I think because I always thought such surgery was only for those that you see on T.V i.e 'Half Ton Kid' & such and such's biggest man/woman so I presume that those I know will think the same and such speculation will begin about me. On the other hand I'm not sure I really care. I dont consider anyone I went to school with a friend they are just there, a site to be nosey I guess lol. I feel closer to some of you on here than I do my facebook lol.
So I still have a few hours to decide but I will of course keep you posted IF i do or not :D
Thanks everyone again - returning the love! :gen126::grouphugg:
 
Ana_RW said:
Wow! Thankyou all so much for your input! A lot of excellent reasons for and against - which has not made it any easier lol!
I understand both sides, I have a ridiculous amount of "friends" I dont know - i followed the trend of adding everyone and anyone :rolleyes:
People are going to wonder how I lost the weight so soon seeing as I have been a very big girl my whole life, a few will know. I dont know if anyone here knows or remembers from a previous post my so called best friend of 10 years who I let go because of her lack of support and I actually found out she was 'hiding' nasty comments about my size on pictures and posts on facebook including " f*****g HUGE, Makes shrek look slim" and similar - I'm sure she has spread it about a bit about my decision to have wls although I was never 100% honest with her after she showed her true colours, I presume she thinks I'm still in the process of applying - her mum had applied and was denied saying she needs to show weight loss over the next 6-12months so she presumed I wouldnt be successful either.
This has an inpact on my decision or not to publicly announce it - rather than the whispers like Stu said would start once I lost weight rapidly. I like the idea of support and attention from others but I dread the maliciousness from others. I think because I always thought such surgery was only for those that you see on T.V i.e 'Half Ton Kid' & such and such's biggest man/woman so I presume that those I know will think the same and such speculation will begin about me. On the other hand I'm not sure I really care. I dont consider anyone I went to school with a friend they are just there, a site to be nosey I guess lol. I feel closer to some of you on here than I do my facebook lol.
So I still have a few hours to decide but I will of course keep you posted IF i do or not :D
Thanks everyone again - returning the love! :gen126::grouphugg:
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have a big clear out, just have "friends" on there, good luck with whatever you decide to do :) xxx
 
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