Transfer Addiction :(

[madstaffyblonde1]

We are all told about transfer addiction but never thought it would happen to me but hey it has big time

I had my bypass in April 2010 and never thought of myself as addicted to food just a volume eater, after my bypass I dad really well reaching target and having plastics in less than a year but all along I was hiding a secret, I have never been a drinker and never touched wine hated the stuff but all of a sudden it started to taste nice, I would have a glass and get that warm tipsy feeling which was nice but before long that 1 glass had gone to 1 bottle then 2 and I have had upto 4 bottles of wine in a night, been in a complete state and not known what I had said or done but even then it still didn't register I might have a problem. Friends n family members started commenting on how much I was drinking. I was now drinking bottles of wine every night and even hiding the bottles in the bottom of the bin. It wasn't until Monday at my support group that so thing finally clicked n I broke down and admitted I had a problem. I can't stress enough how everyone needs to be on there guard for this, if someone had told me I would be drinking wine by the bottle full everynight I would of said you were on drugs but it sneaks up
On you without you realising it.

I made the decision to try going cold turkey n I admit it's killing me, I am at work thinking about wine, I'm sitting in the house just wanting to ask my hubby if he wants to go to the pub, I'm getting agitated and it's the worse feeling in the world.

 

[phatmomma]

Linda, your very brave admitting this and i sincerely hope this helps others who may be going through similar or those it may 'sneak' up on...

Seriously, go to your gp. Get some help from a professional....

Alcohol addiction is an illness as much as being obese is xx

 

[lamornamiss]

Hun I spoke to you at the meeting and think you have taken the step you needed to take.
You have admitted that you have a problem
There is nothing to be ashamed off.
The support you need is around you let us help.
Have you told your family now?

Congratulations on being brave enough to tell every one

 

[ditzeeblonde]

Wow.. what a brave post, thank you for sharing!

Wishing you all the best with changing things, just be gentle on yourself.

Good luck. xx

 

[madstaffyblonde1]

I've been in contact with my bariatric team and with the support of friends and the support group I will get through this, it wasn't easy to admit as my support group knows it really upset me and I was really embarrass at the thought of what I had become but if I can save one person then it will be worth it

 

[TwinkleTwinkle]

Linda, I admire you so much for posting this. My heart goes out to you & hope you seek medical help for what is a recognised symptom of WLS. It is a stark warning for those of us who are yet to have surgery & post op er's alike. You will not be short of support on here as you well know but really hope this is just a blip on your otherwise excellent journey x:grouphugg:

 

[BigDave99]

Thanks fir sharing your story with us, it must have taken a lot for you to do this.
I am glad that you are getting the support you need but please don't be alone the forum has many members willing to listen me included.
Be good to yourself and take care.

BigDave

 

[Cicca]

You're very brave to speak so openly. The GP should be able to support you too - perhaps if you feel strong enough let him/her know what you're going through, while you're feeling so determined get all the support you can.

xx.

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[penguina]

Oh my gosh you are so brave. Sometimes it is easier to tell strangers things, than the people we love. I gather you know a few on here from your support group, so they, and us strangers can help and listen.

Get as much help as you can, as you can beat this. xx

 

[Lilyscent]

Thanks for sharing your story, it is a very brave and stark warning how things like this can sneak up on people after bypass. If you see your gp, he can give you something to her you through the withdrawal period. xx

 

[donza]

Firstly can I say congratulations on admitting you have a problem, this is a positive step to enable you to deal with it. Just remember your not alone and you have all our support. You can do this!
take care
donna x

 

[minxie]

So sorry to hear this, as everyone says, you are very brave to admit and confront this. You have taken the first (probably hardest) step in recovering from this and that is by admitting it not only to others but to yourself. Good luck in dealing with it, there is plenty of help out there so find what helps you and use it. Be kind to yourself too, it's not easy dealing with any kind of addiction but you have done it once with food and can be successful again. (((hugs)))

 

[Mio]

First of all, well done for coming out with this - it must've been really hard, and I think you're a very brave and strong person for doing so. I hope you can get some support from everyone on here!

It's also something I'm quite worried about after my op (though I'm having a band). I have been quite a heavy drinker in the past and when I was told I have to do my pre-op (with no alcohol) for four weeks I was really knocked off-centre. I know it's going to be hard for me so I really appreaciate where you're coming from.

I hope you get the help and support you need hon - and well done for being so brave!

 

[Big an Bouncy]

Thanks for sharing and I know you will get through this tough time.We should all be aware of this.Maz x

 

[Karlos]

I've been in contact with my bariatric team and with the support of friends and the support group I will get through this, it wasn't easy to admit as my support group knows it really upset me and I was really embarrass at the thought of what I had become but if I can save one person then it will be worth it

What you had become? You haven't become anything Linda other than a lovely young woman who has got in a little bother with the booze, but really wants to do something about it. So cut that talk out right now.

As the others have said you've taken the biggest step towards beating this by admitting you have a small problem that you need to sort out. I say small problem because that's how I dealt with my drink problem twelve years ago. I like you wasn't chemically addicted to alcohol, that takes a number of years of heavy drinking to achieve, but like you I was a habitual drinker and I drank until I was legless.

I was drinking most nights, huge quantities of super strength lager until I collapsed, and I tried many times to give it up forever, but we don't handle forever very well, so on the advice of a specialist alcohol addiction expert I saw on TV I changed strategies. Forget forever, that's important so I'll say it again, forget forever. You only need to stay away from wine today. Just one day and I know you can do that. Even now twelve years on with a liver that's full of tumours I don't say I will never drink again, my brain would say, oh yeah right well I want some now then please, so I still say I'm just not having any today thanks

You're a tough cookie lady, it takes guts to post this for the world to see and I'm so proud of you for doing it. Net only will it allow us to help you through, it should serve as a warning to those who reckon they can drink post op in moderation. Sure some can and good luck to them, but some just kid themselves.

Good luck with this Linda if I can ever help PM me and I'll let you have my number

 

[lamornamiss]

Karlos the wise has spoken.
luvs ya Karl

 

[phatmomma]

Well said Karlos, the brain been told NEVER usually changes denial round to giving in....

Today Linda you can do it, and tomorrow and as many tomorrows you need

And on a positive note: Think of all the money you can have for even more shopping for your gorgeous self Or paying the insurance on your son's new car lol xxx

 

[lindy62]

My prayers are with you, you can do it, you've already done the hard part,As Karlos said do it one day at a time.

lindy62

 

[madstaffyblonde1]

Thank you guys it's nice to no I'm not alone here, last night was really hard I was thinking of excuses to have a glass but there wasn't any, then when my hubby went to bed I got all excited but then thought the only person I will be foolng is myself so I had a coffee instead . I haven't told my hubby or kids the truth they just think I'm cutting down and thats all they need to no right now I've got enough people around me from the support group and on here to get me through . Thank you again for all the support it is invaluable

 

[Andrea73]

OMG I am sitting reading your post with my mouth hanging open. I really can't believe that you have beared all on here and I must say I really admire you for doing so. By doing so I really think that you will get through the other side, as others have said you have take the first steps by admitting it. You have been the battle of the bulge and now I'm sure that you will beat the battle of the wine bottle. Good luck with your journey and really look forward to hearing about your future successes in this battle.

Good luck and thanks for sharing x