pinkprincess77
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I've been with my boy friend 3 years now and currently we only see each other friday to sunday which is hard. Anyway he as been against me having the bypass since day one.
Yesterday he came to my house and I could tell there qas something wrong straight away he wasnt his usual self. He won't give me a cuddle or 'a proper kiss'. I've kept asking him what was wrong and he kept saying nothing.
This morning I explained that he was giving me the feeling thay he didnt really want to be here and he didnt reply. So I said I take it you don't, then is it because of my bypass.
Then he finally opened up and told me it is because I went ahead with it. He explained that we dont have any hobbies and the one thing we enjoyed together was trying new foods and going out for a drink on a weekend. He also said that he feels that he's lost half of me and its a awful feeling.
He also added that my dad and his mum had also said that they thought that I shouldnt have it done either because I had already done well losing so much weight pre op.
I'm so mixed up I know that I've hurt him because I went against his wishes but I did this for me. People that have never had a weight problem don't understand and just say carry on what you're doing they havent got a clue. I'm hurt because I love him sooooo much and I know that he's such a loving caring person but I just don't know what to say other than I did this for me, I want to be happy, healthier and have confidence. I have explained that I will still be able to go out to eat eventually just smaller healthier portions.
I'm sorry this post is so long but I just need to vent. X
Yesterday he came to my house and I could tell there qas something wrong straight away he wasnt his usual self. He won't give me a cuddle or 'a proper kiss'. I've kept asking him what was wrong and he kept saying nothing.
This morning I explained that he was giving me the feeling thay he didnt really want to be here and he didnt reply. So I said I take it you don't, then is it because of my bypass.
Then he finally opened up and told me it is because I went ahead with it. He explained that we dont have any hobbies and the one thing we enjoyed together was trying new foods and going out for a drink on a weekend. He also said that he feels that he's lost half of me and its a awful feeling.
He also added that my dad and his mum had also said that they thought that I shouldnt have it done either because I had already done well losing so much weight pre op.
I'm so mixed up I know that I've hurt him because I went against his wishes but I did this for me. People that have never had a weight problem don't understand and just say carry on what you're doing they havent got a clue. I'm hurt because I love him sooooo much and I know that he's such a loving caring person but I just don't know what to say other than I did this for me, I want to be happy, healthier and have confidence. I have explained that I will still be able to go out to eat eventually just smaller healthier portions.
I'm sorry this post is so long but I just need to vent. X