What did you/will you tell your kids??

[lynseyscott]

Anyone who has kids, can you share what u told them about going into hospital your op etc? I have 2 young sons (9 & 5), the oldest is a real worrier and I'm not sure what to say to them when I finally (hopefully) go in...

 

[Matra]

My two were 7 & 8. We just told them that I was going to have an op on my tummy. Luckily they were both very accepting and didn't really ask any more details and they were also accepting that I couldn't eat much of anything because of the op on my tummy.

Good luck

 

[Bear]

I've got a similar issue. A 12 yr old girl who is always eager to know everything, along with an 8 yr old boy.

I'd thought of saying something similar about my tummy. Don't really want them to think wls is the answer etc and at the moment, they don't understand my struggles.

 

[lynseyscott]

Thanks matra, I think I'll wait until it's nearer and I have definite dates etc, I'm just trying to work it all out

 

[Yvessa]

My daughter was 10 and I told her that I was going to have an operation to help my lose weight. Nearer the time I shared my diet sheet with her and explained what would happen etc. She is the anxious type but was happier for knowing.

 

[lynseyscott]

Thanks yvessa

 

[Bear]

Well, my daughter spotted my consultants appt on the calendar this morning and asked why I was going to London. I started saying I was having a hernia op etc etc and she got upset as she thought I was ill. So we went out to a coffee shop, sat and talked and I told her everything. The relief I felt was huge. She was so understanding - I was shocked. She asked lots of questions and I was able to answer everything truthfully.

Feel so much better knowing I have her support. Thankfully, I think my 8 yr old will be a piece of cake.

 

[lynseyscott]

Ah I'm so pleased she took it so well, yeah I bet your 8 yr old is a doddle after that!

 

[Bear]

It was mad really. Although she's quite a 'young' 12, I don't think I'd given her the credit for being as mature as she was. She actually looked me in the eye and said 'you can always tell me everything, just like I do to you'. Felt so proud and a tad emotional.

 

[Yvessa]

I find at that age they appreciate the honesty. And when you treat them like a grown up they react like one.

 

[Bear]

You are so right Yvessa. Lesson certainly learned by me today.

Although we've always had a lovely relationship, we are so very similar and we do clash on occasions - especially now we're at the age where there's hormones around. I honestly feel as if I've gained a new friend today.

 

[Yvessa]

I'm so pleased for you hon - its hard as we feel we should protect them, but the best way to do that is not always obvious.

 

[Sarahjd]

Hi I'm quite new to this but I have been totally honest with my daughter, she knows I have health problems due to weight so she's looking forward to having a healthy mam who's not in pain and tired all the time..... Mind you she is 15 so she understands what's happening x

 

[lynseyscott]

This is all great stuff, thanks everyone. Xxx

 

[lynseyscott]

Dead old thread revival, but just thought I'd tell you...

Now I have a date for surgery I thought I'd float the news past Harry (my 9yr old), so I took a deep breath, thought through my words very carefully & told him I will be having an operation on my tummy in December similar to when I had my other tummy op (gall bladder). Then I braced myself for his reaction which was... Ok mam.

All that worry for "ok mam"

 

[jlb5686]

ow bless. im having my op in 13 days. my kids r 5,4 and 12monyhs. obviously the baby wont understand.
my other two aleayc coment on my tummy so I told them I have having a little op to help my tummy disapear. they were fine and more interested that they get to stay with my parents for 3nights. they cant wait for me to go in lol x

 

[Lookingforabetterme]

I told my older so the truth but he's 20. Not told the other two about this journey. I have had my gall bladder removed so I may just tell them they had to look at it again

 

[lovelyzobo]

Glad it went well! We do worry about stuff far to much sometimes.....kids are rule to themselves! Xx