Woke up crying

[seawaves]

I'm sure i'm not alone on this, i woke up last night crying i'd dreamt i'd died on the table :cry: my op isn't until september so maybe a bit early on to be having thoughts like this......what will i be like come september?! Other than my weight i'm of good health so i'm sure i'll be fine but i'm so frightened............
I keep thinking mayb i shouldn't have the op but i do have so much trouble with aches & pains especially in my legs (i'm 38) so i'm thinking in 10yrs time i could be a lot worse off, i know its the right thing to do, confused.com!!

 

[tray]

they are normal thoughts hun . my op is in july and i am always thinking about the what ifs . but when you see on here how many people have had the op and have been in worse health then you , they come through ok so im sure you will do just fine xxxxxx

 

[zns]

Chances of actually dying on the table are so low, but its something I worry about too. Its the DVT that really is a worry.

 

[Porpo]

Hi,

I felt like this before the op too. It is worrying and there is a risk but I guess you have to balance that against the risks you take in not tackling your weight issue.

For me I did a lot of research, I chose a surgeon who I knew to be excellent - which meant a row with my PCT and delays that I wouldn't have had otherwise - and then I talked to my surgeon about what was worrying me. In my case we have a family history of problems with anesthetics which was a big concern and once I had all information I weighed it up against seeing the problems my Dad (who has always been very overweight) has with collapsed discs in his back and 80% bone on bone in one hip, high blood pressure etc etc and I don't want to be in his state at 58. I decided that if I can sort this at 30 then I'm giving myself a chance for a much better quality of life.

Anyway I don't know if this helps but I think most of us have had major panic about dying but then I suppose you should be worried if you werent at least a bit concerned.

x

 

[Kerry Jo]

Its a really decision you are making in your life and its normal to be thinking these thoughts. (i used to think when i was thinking bad thoughts it was someone warning me not to do something.) I've read the chances of dying on the table are very low, as someone rightly said its the DVT that has the most chance of killing you. (keep moving) You have come this far, don't lose your dream because of fear you deserve to be happy. You could talk this through with your GP he may be able to help you, good luck xxx

 

[fatbutnot4eva]

oh these thoughts were awful and I had them right up to sitting on the bed being set up for the op.
I couldnt work out if I was doing this for me, for my kids, for my hubby and who would be worse off if I died, but the turth was I was doing it for all those reasons and without it I would no doubt die earlier.
I am 6 months post op and dont regret having it done at all and was very relieved when i woke up.
If being obese caused a problem that made you need an operation such as having your gallbladder removed or a bone mended would you be worried then ? you will be fine honest xxx good luck

 

[seawaves]

Hi thanks everyone for repling i didn't think i'd be on my own with this one! I have had 2 DVT's so that is a big worry for me but the surgeon & team are aware of this so i'm sure they will do all they can for me, i know that my quality of life will be better.......positive thinking i suppose its the way to go! thanks again everyone xxxx

 

[jo_ jo]

You will be fine as the other have said do you research and know what you are going into. You prob have it on your min so much that you are dreaming it too. I do that when something will not get out of my head. The op gives you bac your life and is well worth it

Jo
xx

 

[gaelic girl]

As you said and can see you are definatly not alone with these thoughts! I was the same and it is very normal. As others have said of course there are risks but 9 months on for me the benefits certainly outweigh these. You will be fine and don't worry too much about having these thoughts just yet another part of our emotional journey xx

 

[smilergem]

Hiya Emma hun, I can totally see where you are coming from
BUT we are going to get through this ok, they wouldn't consider doing the op if they thought we were high risk would they.
I have a lot of morbid thoughts too, and yes it is only natural for us to be like this. But as someone else said, look at the amount of positive stories there are on here, and every one I read gives me hope that we will be success stories too.
We are going to be fine, and by this time next year, we will be reaping the loads of benefits of losing weight, happier and healthier - promise xxxxxx

 

[Stellap]

Its only natural to worry but as long as your surgeon knows your medical history then he will be aware of the signs. Just to put things into perspective - I was watching an episode of fat hospital and they did the op on someone who was 529lbs and they were perfectly fine. Your surgeon wouldn't operate if you were at risk - he would ask you to lose more weight and then do the surgery if he thought there was a risk.