Ruthiep
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Someone asked me outright if I'd had surgery.
Last time it was a friend of mine, who called me at home after seeing me at a dinner. I was only a couple of months post op then, but it was the first time in years I'd dared to wear a belt. She asked me if I'd had the gastric band and I (truthfully) said no I hadn't had the band. Afterwards I felt bad, went round to her house and 'fessed up, swearing her to secrecy.
This time the incident was (1) in the middle of the street (2) not a friend as such, a synagogue acquaintance who is also known to be a real nosy parker and a bit of a loudmouth to put it mildly. She called over to me "Ruthie! What do you EAT all day?" While I was struggling to work out how to answer this, she came over and said "have you had a gastric bypass?" Again I answered "no" (truthfully), and wondered when someone was going to hit upon the truth. I'm not an outright liar. If she'd either asked me if I'd had weight loss surgery, , or asked me if I'd had the sleeve, I think I'd have told her the truth, nosey parker or not. Or I might have said "Yes I've had some help losing weight but I don't want to discuss it." Or something. As her motive in asking me wasn't one of information seeking so she could get her own help (although she could definitely do it with it) but just for nosy parkering, I didn't feel as guilty as I did when I felt I had misled my friend.
Last time it was a friend of mine, who called me at home after seeing me at a dinner. I was only a couple of months post op then, but it was the first time in years I'd dared to wear a belt. She asked me if I'd had the gastric band and I (truthfully) said no I hadn't had the band. Afterwards I felt bad, went round to her house and 'fessed up, swearing her to secrecy.
This time the incident was (1) in the middle of the street (2) not a friend as such, a synagogue acquaintance who is also known to be a real nosy parker and a bit of a loudmouth to put it mildly. She called over to me "Ruthie! What do you EAT all day?" While I was struggling to work out how to answer this, she came over and said "have you had a gastric bypass?" Again I answered "no" (truthfully), and wondered when someone was going to hit upon the truth. I'm not an outright liar. If she'd either asked me if I'd had weight loss surgery, , or asked me if I'd had the sleeve, I think I'd have told her the truth, nosey parker or not. Or I might have said "Yes I've had some help losing weight but I don't want to discuss it." Or something. As her motive in asking me wasn't one of information seeking so she could get her own help (although she could definitely do it with it) but just for nosy parkering, I didn't feel as guilty as I did when I felt I had misled my friend.
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