Scared of dying on the table !!

[loughpet]

Hi,

I am due my lap band 2wks the day. I can't help thinking that I might die on the table . I am no stranger to op's and have had quite a few in the past. All of these but one were before I had my children thou. I wonder is this why I have started thinking like this ?

What is everyone else's experiences .

Thank U xx

 

[Neen]

Totally and utterly normal to think like that, I was exactly the same..in huge turmoil about going for an operation voluntarily and what about my sons etc.
I think all of us are scared at some point beforehand..it's especially true amongst those of us that are parents.
I had counselling going on and off already anyway and my therapist did some hypnosis for me to help calm me down,
Basically to view it as allowing someone fantastically skilled to take control for a moment and help you to ensure you are there for your children, partner, family and friends..much much longer...
On the day in question I was so serene and accepting of it, I suprised myself!
You will be too...sometimes it's just as well to allow your anxiety to play out...have a good cry, have a long chat and lots of cuddles with your nearest and dearest. You are going to be fine and after recovery you are going to be amazing xxxx

 

[loughpet]

Thank u every so much for that . It meant alot xx

 

[zns]

Im scared about that too, it really isso very unlikely though. Im just trying not to think about it really. x

 

[dottychic]

Im sure we all have these thoughts, I have for sure! We just have to weigh up the pros and cons for surgery and Im sure for most it is worth the small risk ..... I think so anyway X

 

[tarara]

I was totally convinced I wasn't coming round so much so the last thing i remember before I went under was looking at the light above me and thinking that's the last thing I'm ever gonna see! But I had weighed up all the pros and cons and decided if I didn't have the surgery I was going to die anyway and with the quality of life i had wouldn't have been a bad thing least having the op I was going to go fighting! Sure you will be absolutely fine

 

[Kerry Jo]

I feel exactly the same way. I feel Ive been fat all my life and after all these years there's light at the end of the tunnel, but instead of getting another chance, i keep on thinking I'm going to leave my children without a mum. I think its guilt because we're doing something for our selves. I'm sure we're worrying about nothing (hopefully) xxx

 

[katstofat]

my husband was more scared than me , my thoughts were that id brought my children up and now was the time for me, and i was so weary and depresed about my weight that the thought of not comming round was better than going on living like i was, not that i wanted to die i didnt but i just couldnt go on like that any longer and to be honest i dont think i would be here now if i hadnt had it done, but i did and i am so glad its the best thing i ever did i feel like a compleatly diferent person . i know ive still a lot to lose but who cares i dont its comming off , slowly but off and its not going back like usuall , so think posative you will be fine.......................kath x

 

[JOWOOD4]

i would comfort yourself with the fact these thoughts are absolutely normal and you would be unusual if you weren't thinking that way. I posted a thread on here 'scared half to death' a few days before my op (1st June) but i found that I had a peak of those worries and then they subsided.
When I was on my way to the hospital and even into theatre I felt very strangely peaceful about it all. I am less than two weeks post op and with al the stresses you go through early on I am still pleased I went through with it.
I cancelled my previous op last year and spent a very long time regretting it. Try to hold on in there - it's a bit like a roller coaster ride - but once you get on you will be pleased you did.
Loads of love to you and keep posting for support. The people on this site are lovely
JO

 

[cazbandy]

Hi there,

These thoughts before a life changing operation are normal, especially as you have elected yourself. There is a certain amount of guilt, as fat people we have often been made to feel this in everyday life anyway about all kinds of things, from eating too much, the wrong thing, for taking up too much space and for not being able to participate in everything so called "normal slim" people do.

Now is the time to let go of all that guilt.

It is so destructive to who we really are.

You are making a big change, nothing will be the same again and you will go on to have a leaner, healthier life and this will give you back years.

The mortality rates for a band are very low, it's uber rare to suffer fatal complications during and after surgery. We are at more risk when we are larger but that is from the anaesthetic and that is the same risk anyone who has an operation takes.

You will be fine, you will come through this and have the most wonderful life if you work hard and use this tool.

 

[angie790]

I agree with everything said here! It's a life changing decision, so it's totally human to worry about 'what if?'

I am very stern with myself & tell my inner voice if I pop my clogs while I'm under, I won't know one sodding thing about it anyway, so I won't let myself worry. Plus, it's not going to look good for the surgeons reputation is it, if they lose too many of us, lol? These surgeons & anaethetists are specialists in obesity surgery, and have done hundreds, if not thousands of ops, so we really are in good hands.

Plus, reading the statistics on mortality rates post-op (which are actually much lower than I thought), it might be a little comfort to know that the very small number of people that do die on the table, are mostly class 3 + morbidly obese, but also with other serious health issues (that aren't always related to their obesity either).

Allow yourself to worry & work your way through these feelings, then have your op & welcome to your new life!

 

[12dobidog]

As every body else has said this is normal but, this is something you are doing for you and these guys doing to ops are very skilled and to them it is all in a days work. If there was any underlying concernes you wouldn't be allowed to go ahead. It is easy for us to say dont worry but i STILL SAY THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST THINGS I HAVE EVER DONE. Good Luck

 

[poo bear]

It is only human nature to worry about things like that.
Good luck for your surgery.:553:

 

[marky v]

definitely a normal reaction, i weighed it up like this (scuse the pun) approx 1% chance of copping it from the operation, or probably 95%+ chance of copping it from continuing weight gain and health related problems, the odds are stacked in your favour, plus anaesthetics are alot safer than they have ever been, as my sis Ang says above, the people who are at more risk, are the people who already have major obesity related illness already, please don't worry too much, you'll be fine

 

[BlueDiamond]

Hi,

I am due my lap band 2wks the day. I can't help thinking that I might die on the table . I am no stranger to op's and have had quite a few in the past. All of these but one were before I had my children thou. I wonder is this why I have started thinking like this ?

What is everyone else's experiences .

Thank U xx

Hello there

I have not had my surgery yet , but I think these kind of thoughts are what most people worry about, my friend had her op and I went to theatre with her and she was :cry: and very scared, so what your feeling is perfectly normal, when I had an op last year I too was upset and :cry: that I may not have pulled through , but we both lived to tell the tale

All the best - MeJulie x x

 

[tink75]

I'm with everyone else - of course your going to think about it - but at least you are making a well thought about decision. I researched the risk of complications and found out that 1 in 200 risk complications - on the day of surgery I was nattering to the surgen and my mum asked him how many he had done.He then said nearly 200 - my heart started beating so fast - and I just thought "CHEERS MUM" lol. I did have some serious complications - but I am here to tell the tale lol. The surgery was definatey worth the worry cause 8 months on I feel AMAZING xxx