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louloumoo
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I think we react to these sort of comments because we still carry our own guilt around food. I am always conscious of what I eat in front of others (massive secret eater.. Still!) if I eat a take away and have more then a few mouthfulls.. Or fancy some supper.. I feel guilty! Terribly guilty.. Were I try and justify to myself, "I haven't eaten much today, I have been ill so off my food" whatever that reason may be it is us trying to justify it to ourselves. When in reality we have hardy eaten anything, we set our own limits and expectations and if we eat more then what we set then we have guilt!
If I'm completely honest with u Emma, he's a man he is insensitive and does not understand, but really how could he, does anyone? Really understand? Understand u and your eating and your own guilt? U reacted to it because it reinforced what u were feeling, "why am I wanting to eat again?" If u didn't have all that guilt and concern u would off told him to "**** off" and put it down to his insensitivity, him having had a drink. And moved on from it. But u didn't, u carried it and u still r, because it's about u and how u feel about yourself.
There's no easy answer for the way we are and the way eating makes us feel, and I can only hope with time that I will drop all my issues. but please try not to make your issues with food cause other problems in your life, it's like Cancer and can take over if u let it. After all he has supported u in getting the band and the major cost of it. Take a deep breath and and let it go... Not for his sake but for your own. Xxx
If I'm completely honest with u Emma, he's a man he is insensitive and does not understand, but really how could he, does anyone? Really understand? Understand u and your eating and your own guilt? U reacted to it because it reinforced what u were feeling, "why am I wanting to eat again?" If u didn't have all that guilt and concern u would off told him to "**** off" and put it down to his insensitivity, him having had a drink. And moved on from it. But u didn't, u carried it and u still r, because it's about u and how u feel about yourself.
There's no easy answer for the way we are and the way eating makes us feel, and I can only hope with time that I will drop all my issues. but please try not to make your issues with food cause other problems in your life, it's like Cancer and can take over if u let it. After all he has supported u in getting the band and the major cost of it. Take a deep breath and and let it go... Not for his sake but for your own. Xxx
mamalishious
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Ha ha, me too! Lol, well, you gotta live, Xmas is once a year, we've had a band put in, we've not been converted into nuns ;-) xxx back to the gym
this morning
Emma I'm also card Emma, my boyfriend thinks if I mention the word diet or healthy eating that I'm all of a sudden not allowed to eat I have to constantly remind him I still need food to survive 2000 cal a day to be exact and that's alot of food if I'm cutting down then I'll eat 1200 cals a day and that's quiet alot to! I think men think skinny girls don't eat so when ur banded u shud not eat, I constantly feel in reeducating my partner on how much food is allowed when ur dieting! I have skinny sisters who eat loads it's ok to eat were not meant to starve!!!
Emma2206
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Lou, did you weigh yourself? I went back to the gym, used their scales, and I thought I ate like an absolute pig over Xmas, I put on 1lb!!! So you might not have done as much damage as you think xxx
Pete apologised for being an arse, he said it was a very ill judged joke and he was sorry, so all is forgiven.
Emma, I really do think they just don't get it, it took me completely blowing my top for my oh to realise
Pete apologised for being an arse, he said it was a very ill judged joke and he was sorry, so all is forgiven.
Emma, I really do think they just don't get it, it took me completely blowing my top for my oh to realise
louloumoo
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Hi em, well done on the 1lb that is ace.. Mine was 3lb.. I haven't lost for about 12 weeks!! Anyhow gonna sort a fill ASAP. I have uni work to do so don't wanna book a fill until my work is all done, as all my days off r spent on assignments!
I haven't had a fill since October. So with that I think I will be fine. On a positive I'm still a size 12, and that feels great.. X
I haven't had a fill since October. So with that I think I will be fine. On a positive I'm still a size 12, and that feels great.. X
louloumoo
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Hi em, so turns out I have stayed the same since last assessment in dec.. But my last fill was oct.
I'm ok with that, it's just that I have a massive fear of getting fat again... Really I am around target. But due to my mind I still think I fat!! It's all ****ed up!
So my bmi is 25 the nurse put in 0.25 just to help me feel a little more in control, I have no sticks ect. So I'm ok with that. Let's see how things progress. Lost 10kg since band. Thats 22lb..
Hope that all helps u, it really does take time and patience. Holidays and Christmas don't help. I know we r slightly different as don't have quite the same to lose... Good luck em xx
I'm ok with that, it's just that I have a massive fear of getting fat again... Really I am around target. But due to my mind I still think I fat!! It's all ****ed up!
So my bmi is 25 the nurse put in 0.25 just to help me feel a little more in control, I have no sticks ect. So I'm ok with that. Let's see how things progress. Lost 10kg since band. Thats 22lb..
Hope that all helps u, it really does take time and patience. Holidays and Christmas don't help. I know we r slightly different as don't have quite the same to lose... Good luck em xx
louloumoo
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Hi em..
All is good with me, weight has stayed at 10.3 for about 6weeks now... And I think that's ok... I'm only slightly hungry and would say I'm green... But I still crave and do eat a lot of rubbish. But the band can't stop what I put in my mouth can it?!
I eat very small meals and feel satisfied following that, but due to being a nurse and having no set eating pattern I still find I eat often! Very small but often.
Confused?? Me to!
But I'm ok with it all, and the nurse at the clinic says it's all good, I guess cos I am a healthy weight it all doesn't really matter, I think i would struggle to loose more weight without going on a diet..! And that's the thing I ain't dieting, not at all.. Plus I can eat almost anything, I stY away from meat but bread is ok and if I eat slow and be careful I'm fine. I do get stuck if to fast or don't chew enough and I'm not able to PB! Can u? I can't imagine being any tighter..
How r u Emma, how r u finding the band? Is it all what u excepted? Xx
All is good with me, weight has stayed at 10.3 for about 6weeks now... And I think that's ok... I'm only slightly hungry and would say I'm green... But I still crave and do eat a lot of rubbish. But the band can't stop what I put in my mouth can it?!
I eat very small meals and feel satisfied following that, but due to being a nurse and having no set eating pattern I still find I eat often! Very small but often.
Confused?? Me to!
But I'm ok with it all, and the nurse at the clinic says it's all good, I guess cos I am a healthy weight it all doesn't really matter, I think i would struggle to loose more weight without going on a diet..! And that's the thing I ain't dieting, not at all.. Plus I can eat almost anything, I stY away from meat but bread is ok and if I eat slow and be careful I'm fine. I do get stuck if to fast or don't chew enough and I'm not able to PB! Can u? I can't imagine being any tighter..
How r u Emma, how r u finding the band? Is it all what u excepted? Xx
