Besel
Member
On a completely different note, I am seriously struggling with going on this journey all by myself.
I’ve tried to discuss it with friends.
One said: ah! You are really not that overweight are you? (Morbidly obese does not seem to count).
The other has their own particular views on eating and calorie allowances. (I.e. being extremely restrictive - without surgery)
Yet another keeps sending me pictures and videos of her overindulging in food, not the healthy kind.
I have talked about it with family and half of them think it’s too drastic, the other half is scared of me having surgery.
Maybe it’s me and I’m projecting but so far, if I would have to make an executive summary of their opinions, it would read: do not have surgery.
I cannot find anybody around me that I can bounce the pros and cons around with and who can provide support.
This is such a sensitive and dividing subject/area. For me but also for people around me it seems.
This very long waiting time is wreaking havoc, mentally.
I would love to go and hide away till the day of surgery.
That said, I wish I had followed through with my first plan, 2.5 years ago and had the surgery abroad.
Has anybody else been waiting this long? How do you stay in a positive headspace without letting everybody’s opinions (friends, family and professionals) run riot in your head?
I’ve tried to discuss it with friends.
One said: ah! You are really not that overweight are you? (Morbidly obese does not seem to count).
The other has their own particular views on eating and calorie allowances. (I.e. being extremely restrictive - without surgery)
Yet another keeps sending me pictures and videos of her overindulging in food, not the healthy kind.
I have talked about it with family and half of them think it’s too drastic, the other half is scared of me having surgery.
Maybe it’s me and I’m projecting but so far, if I would have to make an executive summary of their opinions, it would read: do not have surgery.
I cannot find anybody around me that I can bounce the pros and cons around with and who can provide support.
This is such a sensitive and dividing subject/area. For me but also for people around me it seems.
This very long waiting time is wreaking havoc, mentally.
I would love to go and hide away till the day of surgery.
That said, I wish I had followed through with my first plan, 2.5 years ago and had the surgery abroad.
Has anybody else been waiting this long? How do you stay in a positive headspace without letting everybody’s opinions (friends, family and professionals) run riot in your head?
