Having a sleeve!!

[emmahc1975]

Kirsty you might be surprised how much work can help with depression & you must feel so much better with your weight loss.
Maybe hold out for a part time position? Just to ease yourself in gently. Good luck, it's not as scary as you think

 

[xkirsty88]

Kirsty you might be surprised how much work can help with depression & you must feel so much better with your weight loss. Maybe hold out for a part time position? Just to ease yourself in gently. Good luck, it's not as scary as you think

I think my thing is that my depression stems from my last job.. I injured my back at work and my 'team' and my boss were horrible to me about it.. Wouldn't let me have my say as to how and why it was caused and they were determined to make sure everyone else knew it was my fault not there's when it wasn't at all down to just me.. So I guess that's why I'm so apprehensive about it.. Xx

 

[cupid1964]

I think my thing is that my depression stems from my last job.. I injured my back at work and my 'team' and my boss were horrible to me about it.. Wouldn't let me have my say as to how and why it was caused and they were determined to make sure everyone else knew it was my fault not there's when it wasn't at all down to just me.. So I guess that's why I'm so apprehensive about it.. Xx

don't let bad experience from one employer rule your life hun. Getting everything that you want from a job is difficult but not impossible and you have to be willing to push yourself for what you want in life or the opportunities will pass you by so quickly. See how far you have come going through this surgery. If you can do this you can do anything because in my opinion this has to be one of the hardest decisions made

 

[princess4d4]

Kirsty you have to do what's best for you maybe start part-time and go from there or even a couple of hours volunteer work it can all help with the way forward

 

[Crystalrainbow]

hmmm i so understand there hunni...... its a hard place to be eh.... i have the same feelings that i want to get back out there but know i cant face other people out in the big wide world just yet.... trust your heart hunni and do what's right for you..no point forcing yourself only to put yourself backwards again......

 

[xkirsty88]

The job application ends on the 17th so I have until the 16th or so to decide I guess.. Thank you everyone. It's just hard cause I'm just scared of starting work then having a breakdown or something!! Xx

 

[xkirsty88]

So, before and after photo.. The picture on the left is from August 2013, had lost 2kg maybe with weight management.. It was just before I was referred for wls. The picture on the right is from December.. new full comparison photos at the end of Jan xx

 

[xkirsty88]

And please forgive the fact that I was drunk on the 'before' picture!! Xx

 

[kimcarrol]

And please forgive the fact that I was drunk on the 'before' picture!! Xx

You go girl! You look happier and younger

 

[nervousbutdetermined]

wow you look so amazing hun well done xxxx as for the job, I know exactly where you are coming from. What I would say is with depression and anxiety you always have that "panic" before anything new, but in reality its never that bad. My therapist always had me say the mantra "whats the worse that can happen?" You then say all the bad things you think will happen. Then you think and say which ones would actually happen. It does help, believe me xxxx

Ps I bought a cardio twister to go on at home for the foreseeable future, was only £40, cheaper than a gym for the moment anyway!! Cant wait for it to come now!! xxxx

 

[kurstywursty]

Kirsty...wowser...you look completely different

You know, if you could put yourself through this surgery, and this gruelling journey, you can do anything you put your mind to!!!

Getting back to work may just be what you need to make you feel you have really ticked another box, achieved another goal. Although it may be hard, it might make you feel on top of the world

That's how I felt about my surgery. I wanted this op for years but was just too afraid of hospitals and waking up in pain, not waking up at all. Once I had done it I felt like superwoman. If you can conquer your fear you will live yourself heaps more xxxxxx

 

[Gladys Friday]

Hi Kirsty

I too suffer from recurring bouts of deep depression and understand what you are saying. I think you should talk to whoever is your keyworker at the Job Centre (I don't know what they call all these things these days). Do they know about your depression? Suggest to them that you try out some voluntary work for a few hours a week. This can then be increased over a period of time. If it does work then you have your answer and you have showed them that you are not just someone who doesn't want to work. If you are able to increase your time then you will start to feel better about going to work. I feel that if you go straight into a new full-time job, you will find it extremely difficult. Do some college courses, they don't have to be working towards anything just something that you have an interest in. Once you do one, you will feel like a sponge and want to do more. I was off work and decided to do a class in Psychology as I found it fascinating. I ended up doing an A-level in it then an A-level in English Language (which was fascinating by the way!). I then ended up going to uni to do a Diploma in Social Work and a degree in Applied Social Studies. It all starts with just that little light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck in whatever you decide. Don't forget, it has to be best for you. If you end up having a break down, the person in the job centre won't be affected but it could be devastating for you.

Debbie

 

[xkirsty88]

Thanks everyone I just feel with a4e that they push and push you as they have no knowledge whatsoever about this.. I'm not on Jobseekers so don't actually have to search for a job until I'm ready too.. But with a4e the slight sniff of you being ready and it feels like they shove any job applications down your throat... But to them, the quicker they get someone off benefits the sooner they get their money.. It's like they're in commission :/ xxx

 

[xkirsty88]

5 days until it's been 1 year since my Pre Operative Appointment. 2 weeks until it's been 1 year since I got the date for the most life changing event of my life (so far!) and 3 weeks tomorrow to my 1st year post operative anniversary! What an unbelievable year it has been!

 

[nervousbutdetermined]

its so scary how fast its gone isnt it Kirsty? 1 year tomorrow I had my op.......... this year has been extraordinary in so many ways

 

[xkirsty88]

its so scary how fast its gone isnt it Kirsty? 1 year tomorrow I had my op.......... this year has been extraordinary in so many ways

Tomorrow?? Wow! I forget everyone's dates lol
It's scary, but so exciting to see what the next year will bring for us! Xxx

 

[nervousbutdetermined]

well, technically its tuesday to the date but tomorrow to the day xxx

 

[xkirsty88]

Fantastic heh what an amazing chance we were given Tina! Xx

 

[cupid1964]

So, before and after photo.. The picture on the left is from August 2013, had lost 2kg maybe with weight management.. It was just before I was referred for wls. The picture on the right is from December.. new full comparison photos at the end of Jan xx

you look fantastic hun big change

 

[robina]

If you see this could you do me a favour? Could u let reception at out patients know claire mohamed wont be attending at 10.40 cos im in the hallamshire? Cheers