sugga
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Hi all, my daughter is not to pleased that i may be having my surgery on or around the 16th December.
She is 26 and has a 4 year old daughter of her own.
She has decided that we all go to hers for xmas dinner this year but only after being prompted by her cousin.
I must admit that her independence has been a long time coming because i have never really allowed them to do things on there own.
I can understand that she is probably worried about me, though she never tells me that she is, and she isnt a very understanding daughter, but i am in no position to postpone my operation just because i wont be able to do a christmas dinner.
I have come to terms with the fact that i will not be eating that day, but i will help and do as much as i can for them. I just wish she would give me a break. Even though she has only mentioned it once about xmas, its the little remarks and looks that im getting now and again.
She is not a girl that opens up easily, and to be honest i didnt sit my kids down and ask them what they thought about me having the op.
My mind could not be changed and nothing could stop this surgery.
This is the first time every that i have thought to hell with everything. This is my time now, i have brought my children up to the best of my ability and i am doing this for me and i dont care who likes it or not.
I know that she will be worried and she keeps things in but one day all hell with be let loose, and it will all come to the surface.
I have spoken to her in detail during the year about the surgery, what it entails and what after care i will need but i know she will probably not be as supportive as she should, because this is not the first time i will be going into hospital and she was the same then.
Im trying to keep focused as im back on the pre op diet and must say im doing well but, im worried about the amount of help and support i will get afterwards.
I am single but have my son who is 13 and daughter who is 15 with me to look after me for a while so its not to bad.
I have been so positive about this op and the new me and how my life will change and she doesnt like it. Im sorry but if it means that she has to stand on her own two feet from now on then so be it. I have been to hell and back in the past but now im thinking of me. Do you think im doing right?
She is 26 and has a 4 year old daughter of her own.
She has decided that we all go to hers for xmas dinner this year but only after being prompted by her cousin.
I must admit that her independence has been a long time coming because i have never really allowed them to do things on there own.
I can understand that she is probably worried about me, though she never tells me that she is, and she isnt a very understanding daughter, but i am in no position to postpone my operation just because i wont be able to do a christmas dinner.
I have come to terms with the fact that i will not be eating that day, but i will help and do as much as i can for them. I just wish she would give me a break. Even though she has only mentioned it once about xmas, its the little remarks and looks that im getting now and again.
She is not a girl that opens up easily, and to be honest i didnt sit my kids down and ask them what they thought about me having the op.
My mind could not be changed and nothing could stop this surgery.
This is the first time every that i have thought to hell with everything. This is my time now, i have brought my children up to the best of my ability and i am doing this for me and i dont care who likes it or not.
I know that she will be worried and she keeps things in but one day all hell with be let loose, and it will all come to the surface.
I have spoken to her in detail during the year about the surgery, what it entails and what after care i will need but i know she will probably not be as supportive as she should, because this is not the first time i will be going into hospital and she was the same then.
Im trying to keep focused as im back on the pre op diet and must say im doing well but, im worried about the amount of help and support i will get afterwards.
I am single but have my son who is 13 and daughter who is 15 with me to look after me for a while so its not to bad.
I have been so positive about this op and the new me and how my life will change and she doesnt like it. Im sorry but if it means that she has to stand on her own two feet from now on then so be it. I have been to hell and back in the past but now im thinking of me. Do you think im doing right?