Hi everyone
Had to update you with todays events. My hubby owns a garage I was here having a tidy up for him. In walks THE FRIEND!!
She thinks I'm being pathetic for blocking her on facebook and for taking of-fence at her advice!! yes you read it correctly ADVICE!!! I calmly sat took several deep breaths and said that I didn't want to get into a row due to her pregnancy and thought it was best if we waited until after the baby was born and all was well. I suggested we met up and talked.
It was like I had thrown a match at some petrol!!! she flipped, screamed and shouted and tells me that her tough love (her words not mine) are what I need, I need a kick up the arse. She then proceeds to tell me that I used to be pretty!! and now all that is hidden behind a lot of fat! She tells me I'm clinically obese and that Ill die young. Apparently this is why I should never have children because Im already old to be having kids (34, as is she and shes 8 months pregnant) but as an old fat mum ill die young and leave behind a child with no one to look after it (what about my hubby? maybe she thinks ill roll off the bed, flatten him and he will be gone too)
I sat and said nothing (cant believe i didn't rip her face off and paint the road with it but no I said nothing)
So she ranted and ranted when she finally paused for breath i said "Have you finished, she said yes, I said good well then can you please leave because I am finished too! finished with you" She started up again.... she tells me that I should have used this Vi meal replacement that she was selling. If I couldn't have afforded it I could have paid weekly (what a laugh) she suggested it about a year ago. She said I could have lost 4 stone in 6 months and now be 6-months pregnant and because I didn't take her advice I would be childless forever and fat and un-healthy and ugly and how dare I block her.....................................she was offering loving advice apparently!
So (still calmly) I sat her down and explained my WLS journey, my reasons behind it, the cost, my weight loss which is now 4 stone, and my plans for the future etc etc. I explained everything and to be fair she sat and listened. I also asked if she had actually looked at me, I look so much different. She said it was a drop in the ocean to what I needed to loose. NICE
She then told me, I was vain to have spent 5 grand on this surgery. What a huge risk and what damage I have done to my body. She tells me she doesn't agree with it, its not natural and no one should mess with the human body for personal gain! (So IVF is just a sprinkling of fairy dust then I suppose) She also tells me I'm lazy and have taken the easy way out!
At this point, the police arrived haha. My hubby had been listening at the door and phoned them. As they walked in he said "We have a lady here, shes not a customer, shes not a friend and shes been asked to leave but refuses, could you please remove her from my premises" hahaha her face was a picture!!! So there we go, she went out got into the car (her partner was in it, cant believe she let her come in alone) I said through the window of the car. "Our friendship is over, good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and I really am pleased you have got your happy ending, Im sorry to lose you and I know it could well be down to your hormones. but I cant allow anyone to abuse me the way you have this afternoon. I really hope all your dreams come true" and I walked away....
Her partner came back 20 mins later and threw 2 grand through the door (Notes scattered everywhere) We had lent it them for the last round of IVF. We loved her and she was desperate and to be honest I had forgotten about it. She shouted your just jealous and I shouted back Im not jealous Im envious but so happy for you both!!
ANYWAY
I feel great hahaha empowered... what horrible people and the more I think about it she always has been!! how stupid have I been!!
Sorry for the ramblings but had to share!!
