What to tell people?

[JO28172]

Thanks how's you these days?

 

[miserable]

Yes great, need to update my diary really. Working in a tan this week end

 

[mrsrule]

I have been telling people, if they don't like it then tough as far as I am concerned! I am a self employed beauty therapist and am telling customers as will be taking 2 weeks off to recover. Friends, family and husband are supportive in the main, a lot don't understand food addiction but as this is my 2nd bypass they know I know the risks etc .

 

[Miss DeeDee]

I havent told hardly anyone, those who know, want to talk about it all the time - it gets on my nerves, I am still me, I just had an op - but thats all they are interested in - which is why i have limited who knows, i love being the smaller me, but they forget we are the same - just less of us - so I am glad i havent told many people.

At work I just told them I needed an op - and the Dr put post op recovery on my sick note

 

[MoonCake]

I'm not going to tell anyone if I get approved for surgery (obviously my parents and husband) but have found alot of people are so negative and that's the last thing il need!

MoonCake xXx

 

[fjsinc]

I've told my husband (who has been there every step of the way - even speaking for me when I was too emotional to do it), my parents, my best friend, some close colleagues and my boss (who is very understanding).
I wont be shouting from the rooftops, I too just cant stand the reaction. Yesterday, I went my GPs surgery to enquire about the referral, and the receptionist near enough shouted "oh you're the lady who's having the bariatric surgery". I was not best pleased, and told her she didn't have to broadcast it!

I do keep wondering what I will tell people as I begin to lose weight though, I suspect I will be honest.

I just have to keep reassuring myself that it cant possibly the easy way out, as I've tried everything else! But even so, I cant help shake the idea that I have failed at the "hard way" - its indoctrination! HaHa.

 

[happy days]

You say you can't help thinking you've failed the hard way !!!
Your going for surgery and a life changing commitment, this is the hard way. Good luck with your journey x

 

[fjsinc]

Thank you. I dont actually think that on a conscious level, Ha Ha. I said that because it is a common perception (especially in the media), regardless of whether its true or not. This is why I say its indoctrination.

I forgot to say in the earlier post, that 1 person I can't bear to tell is my sister. This because she has lost 12 stone (in a year) without intervention.