Firstly, I understand how you feel. Before my sleeve I wanted to tell as few people as possible and still feel the same to some extent, however if you plan to continue meeting to eat out regularly within a small group, I don't really know how you are going to be able to get away with not telling them. I am 9 weeks post op now and am eating out again now but it's very, very obvious as I can only eat teeny portions.........even the average starter is way more food than I can manage in one sitting.
I decided to tell my regular lunch out buddies for just this reason and was shocked (in a very good way) to hear them saying how brave they thought I was and how much they admired me for having the courage to go to such extreme lengths etc. They have been nothing but supportive and encouraging and, even better than that, they cover for me when we go out for lunch now by either sharing small amounts from their plates or taking some excess from my plate to make it less obvious I haven't left half of the small amount I ordered in the first place.
Otherwise, I have kept my surgery well under my belt. Said I was having "abdominal surgery" etc to explain my absences etc and most people just assumed bits and pieces and politely didn't ask any more except for how I was getting along etc. Now, as I am loosing weight, people are constantly asking "how" I am doing it and I am saying that I am following a high protein, very low calorie diet supervised by a dietician (which is all true!!) I can't bear the thought of everyone gossiping about me and insinuating that its all effortless (because it is not!!!). It's tough stuff, I felt like I'd spent my whole life being looked at side ways, gossiped about and looked down on and I want a break from it frankly. I also thought that this was the hardest decision and would be the hardest journey of my life (but so worth it) so for some skinny minny to belittle it might just send me over the edge, now as my confidence creeps up (as my weight creeps down) I feel a bit more proud and am "coming out" a bit more. So far, only to positive end but I'm sure the day will come when some git will take a piddle on my fire. I wish you the best of luck m'dear....any questions, fire away. I'm not shy on forums. lol. x