My motivation for WLS

[Joie_sparkle]

Hi, I'm Jo 34, pre op bypass.

I just though I would put (metaphorical) pen to paper to chat about my motivation for wanting to undergo WLS.

For me this process is mostly about my daughter - she is 2. I am acutely aware that as her female role model, if I am over weight she is far more likely to be over weight. And she is staring to notice that I am bigger now - she pointed to me last week and said 'big tummy'. And I don't want to miss out on running around after her, and playing with her without being short of breath and exhausted. And I want to protect my health so I'm here for her as she grows up.

Any doubts I had have been wiped away after reading this journal article: Large Maternal Weight Loss From Obesity Surgery Prevents Transmission of Obesity to Children Who Were Followed for 2 to 18 Years

Making her much more likely to be healthy and avoid the struggles I have endured for years.

Don't get me wrong, I would love to slip into a size 12 pair of jeans, and not feel self conscious all the time, but for me it was mostly about being a good mum and being around in years to come to watch her grow up.

So the next time someone asks me 'dont you think your being selfish' I can let them know it's the most selfless thing I can do.

 

[countrywench]

This surgery in my opinion is the most selfless thing you can do for your family and most importantly , yourself ..
This will change your life completely , turn it on its head and alter everything .. I cannot even begin to tell you how different I am .. Happy, confident , chatty , calm , stress level has levelled out , the list is so long as some of the others on here will tell you ..
This op though has to be about you firstly .. So be selfish , tell others it's none of their business.. This is for your health , it's not cosmetic , not by a long shot ..
If you don't have the op your going to be weight disabled , and make no mistakes it will happen . How can a body continue to carry a huge amount of weight it's just not designed for ..
I watched a documentary on BBC player a few weeks ago . it was an autopsy on a 17st woman who was only in her late 50s I think .. Now I didn't think 17st was very heavy to be honest and she looked ' chubby' from the outside .. Her belly was probably 2 inches thick in fat when they cut her , but what shocked me was the fat we cannot see inside .. It wrapped itself round every organ , suffocating it and squashing it .. It shook me ..
I hope at 53 I havnt left it to late to mend my poor body and what I've done to it purely through food and my addictions to carbs ..
So Joie , think hard about it .. For me it was a simple descision .. If I didn't have the op I would continue to put on weight , be fully disabled within a year and probably die a long weight related death .. Or I have the op , lose weight , stop my addiction to food and become the woman I know I am inside ..
We will be here with advice so ask away .. Don't be embarrassed to ask anything as we have all walked the very same path ..
Xxxxx

 

[Joie_sparkle]

Thank you I agree 100% with what you've said. And I'm sure you haven't left it too late, I have read bits of your journey and it seems like your doing great! X

 

[jj87]

hi. this really spoke to me as the main reason for mine is also my daughter. she is 2 at the end of the month and I want to do everything with her and not miss out. This really helped me clear up a few things in my mind. thank you x

 

[Joie_sparkle]

So I was refered to the hospital in August...

First appointment in September...

Second appointment in December with the dietician...

And today in March I saw the psychologist who had agreed I am a good candidate for surgery and agreed to list me!

So far I have lost 12kg... Which puts me closer to my end goal of 70kg. (35kg left to go)

I am already 7 months into the journey - which I can't believe at all.

I'm just so ready for the new me to be here, and for my new life to begin.

 

[FeeBee]

Well done on what you have already lost, fantastic work!
Did they give you any clues how long you will need to wait for a surgery date, assuming that's what happens now?

 

[Joie_sparkle]

Hi FeeBee,

Thanks for replying!

I spoke with the secretary who does all the listing yesterday.... And she said that Anna the nurse will give me a date for pre op and then for surgery. But she thought maybe June of July!!

Exciting!

 

[FeeBee]

That's brilliant. I will keep everything crossed for you x

 

[starryeyed]

Well done on your loss so far and it's great that your one step closer to you goal weight. Fingers crossed you get a date through soon x