Did you come out the closet?

[triedeverything]

Did you tell people or keep it secret? I'm pre-op but am due to have surgery in around 5 weeks time. So far I have only told my hubby and my mum and siblings . I have chosen to not tell my friends or my 2 girls. I am simply going off to a spa break for 2 days and will come home on a new regime. I realise it's not for everyone but I just know if I tell people, my business will be all over town in minutes and I could do without the judgement.

 

[borogirl]

Hi told everyone and anyone and have only had positive reactions x

 

[Samsara]

I've told my parents and my closest friends (x3). I'm a private person and so will tell other friends on a need to know basis!

 

[carebear1]

I only told 4 people and they are family(my kids do not know). I'm a private person anyway so if someone comes up to me(which they have) and wants to know how I'm losing weight,my reply is high protein low carb diet which is the truth. Its my business and I'd like it to stay that way and it has nothing to do with peoples reactions or judgements but I don't share my life openly so why would I start with this.

 

[happy days]

I told everyone and still tell everyone. Had a few silly comments about it been a easy option etc etc. I just laugh now at how ignorant they are. But on a whole most people are very positive.

 

[fjsinc]

I was scarred to tell people at first, expected negative comments. Then I thought, I don't care what people think, only me and mine know the struggles. So once I was on the waiting list, I began to tell EVERYONE. I have had nothing but support and even a little admiration. I have had the opportunity to educate people, as most are just curious. I also feel proud that my experience has led to 2 people I know to seek help with their weight too.

 

[Jaybo78]

Only people I have told besides my family, as they are well aware of my journey thus far. is my boss and the people who I directly work with and my support group. I'm happy to tell friends on a one to one basis, but I don't fancy announcing it to everyone at once, its not that I'm worried about criticism, but rather I would prefer to explain why I'm going through this so people can understand. The word will spread through other people in time I'm sure, but for now I can focus on what's coming in next 6 or so weeks, than keep trying to explain my self to numerous people.

 

[Eve30]

I have been really open about it and have found people appreciate it and no uncomfortable situations this way. Have had no negative comments either

 

[goofy07]

I've told everyone even those who arent really interested!?!

Some negative comments some positive but to be honest I don't care. At the end of the day I did this for me so I could live a more fruitful life and a longer healthier one

If they don't like it stuff them

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[Vanessa30]

You need to let people know especially those closest to you because what if you have a complication? If you were unable to tell someone what was wrong it could be the fine line between life or death. Plus, people are going to be really worried about you when you are holding your chest like you are having a heart attack because you swallowed too hard or drank too fast also they are going to wonder why you are vomiting etc. Letting people know will prevent over reactions and scaring loved ones who would completely understand if they knew. I can't imagine if I had not told anyone. Everybody who knows me and knows that I've had surgery do whatever it takes to make sure I'm accommodated. They don't suggest eating out or if they know its a must, they make sure we eat somewhere that I can eat from. It's extremely helpful to tell people what you've done.

 

[Lush121]

I tell people who ask, people who seem me now who I have not seen for several months inevitably comment on my weight loss (bought some size 14 jeans today ) and if they ask how I am honest with them. If they are judgemental that is their issue and not mine, but so far to my face most people have been positive

 

[NT1977]

I have told my parents, my husband, my eldest child, best friend and my boss - the only other person who I willprobably tell is my sister as we socialise a lot as a family and she is bound to wonder so I think I will just be honest.

 

[Caren]

I told everyone! and had very positive reactions x

 

[pinkprincess77]

I've only told my parents my partner an his parents. I've told my 7 year old son that I'm having a operation but haven't told him what for. I won't be tellin my sister as she as never had a weight problem and she as made the comment that wls is a cop out

 

[Ruthiep]

Family all know. Some close friends. Some others on a need-to-know basis. The general public; No. Especially not people who yell at me across the street: "Hey Ruthie have you had a bypass?" Then I can truthfully say no, because I haven't, and if she'd asked me in a nicer way I might have told her the truth.

 

[triedeverything]

Family all know. Some close friends. Some others on a need-to-know basis. The general public; No. Especially not people who yell at me across the street: "Hey Ruthie have you had a bypass?" Then I can truthfully say no, because I haven't, and if she'd asked me in a nicer way I might have told her the truth.

What kind of person would shout that at you Ruthie?? How bloody rude?

 

[Jozefina]

I've only told my husband. No plans to change that.

 

[JoJoTGirl]

You need to let people know especially those closest to you because what if you have a complication? If you were unable to tell someone what was wrong it could be the fine line between life or death. Plus, people are going to be really worried about you when you are holding your chest like you are having a heart attack because you swallowed too hard or drank too fast also they are going to wonder why you are vomiting etc. Letting people know will prevent over reactions and scaring loved ones who would completely understand if they knew. I can't imagine if I had not told anyone. Everybody who knows me and knows that I've had surgery do whatever it takes to make sure I'm accommodated. They don't suggest eating out or if they know its a must, they make sure we eat somewhere that I can eat from. It's extremely helpful to tell people what you've done.

Blimey.....look on the bright side eh? Just want to say that I am coming up 6 months post sleeve and have vomitted just twice post op. I haven't ever had to hold my chest like I'm having a heart attack ever and have only had any pain from eating once (when I didn't chew properly and ate too much when not thinking about what I was doing). I do realise we are all different and have different experiences post op but I would say that the easier you take it and the more you stick to the rules, hopefully the less this sort of thing will happen.

I certainly haven' told everyone about my op but have told all my close friends and family who have been nothing but supportive. A couple of people have asked me if I've had a gastic band and since I've had a sleeve I've been able to honestly answer no! Also, I've gone at it whole heartedly and thrown myself into exercising and being more healthy so people are much less suspicious.

I found the op harder than some but it still wasn't quite as bad as I'd imagined but by sticking to the post op rules I've (touch wood) had a good ride thus far and have also managed to shift over 7.5 stone so far (sleeved on 24th Jan) so I'm delighted. Good luck with your op. x

 

[Nicnac_]

I've told my family except my mother she has a very bad attitude to fat ppl! Told close friends and ppl who need to know who I work with as far as most ppl concerned I'm having 2 weeks off work.

 

[natashoorrr]

I have literally told everybody I come in to contact with! I might as well have made a t-shirt. I suppose its each to his own but I am so proud of myself that I have been brave enough to make these changes. You will always come across some people who have their negative opinions but when we're all skinny and even more gorgeous those people don't matter

I have had to tell everybody at work mainly because its such a close knit office and as their supervisor if I was to go off for a few weeks the gossip would be horrendous. Its actually worked in my favour because they are all incredibly supportive.

I have seen a few people on here who have really struggled with support networks and don't like telling people but I guess that's why we're all here anyway So whether you do or don't you have hundreds of like-minded people on here ready to help